Marriage & Divorce - 28 November 2007

From the amount of questions that lead to infidelity or away from the marriage, is this considered a major cause or a symptom of something bigger?

2007-11-28 08:09:30 · 13 answers · asked by Yankee Micmac 5

was married 24 years and recent divorce mostly feeling intimacy died.

2007-11-28 07:59:24 · 24 answers · asked by Anna 3

My wife has finally confessed to her affair with some Jewish guy...mostlikely a criminal. I want to keep the marriage working, it's hard to imagine her being intimate with another man...scum at that. Need assistance in making this pass as I am in the process of forgiving her and want this to pass...any advise or thoughts on how to move pass this?

2007-11-28 07:45:01 · 10 answers · asked by Get Even Steven 2

ok we r getting married Feb. 22 and my fiancee is makin me so mad!! i just got this job and my partner in the job is a guy ( hes older like 40-45) I'm only 18, my fiancee is mad about having a guy as my partner and he doesnt want me to take the job, but i do need the job...what can i do!? i would never cheat on my fiancee for nobody, .. he says hes trusting me with a lot of stuff but i told him how can we get married if the trust isnt fully there!? he continues to say " WELL I HOPE YOU CHANGE CAUSE WE R GETTIN MARRIED"... Also i plan on going to school to become a EMT/Paramedic and he is like " why dont you go to become a nurse?" ITs like no matter what i want is not good enough for him! Please help!

2007-11-28 07:44:35 · 25 answers · asked by MiSsLady1617 1

i actually want it more than my husband, is that weird?

2007-11-28 07:42:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anna 3

I need ideas

2007-11-28 07:42:00 · 16 answers · asked by jdesey 1

Is is sex, money, secrets......?????????

2007-11-28 07:37:01 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

He says I gave up a right to a life of my own when "I" decided to have kids. He says I'm a bad mother because I spend more time working than I do with the children. However, I'd be willing to stay home if he was willing to provide an avenue for that. It hasn't happened yet so why keep insulting me? I'm doing the best job I can and contributing financially to the household. He told me I was emotional and selfish and that I should grow up so my children won't be losers.

I told him he is really hurting me and that I don't understand why he is so hard on me.

How do I deal with an emotionally abusive husband who feels he's perfect and that my feelings are stupid and just an excuse to feel down?

2007-11-28 07:36:43 · 18 answers · asked by That Deal 2

I do not ask alot of my husband.He is a cop and works 12hour shifts,so is off several days a week.I sometimes leave a short list of things for him to do...things I cannot do or find hard to do.I do not ask him to cook or clean or do much with the kids...I do all that and work full time.When he does do what I ask he acts like it is too difficult and that I am asking too much.Like today my list was: 1.hang Christmas lights outside 2.wash clothes (we just got home from a trip and had a ton that I cannot catch up on) and 3.figure out why phone does not work.I just called him (2:30pm and he has not done anything)I think since we are paying for our phone, it should be working and he did not even try and figure it out yet.He also complains when I ask him to do something with the kids, like help the older one with homework, or watch the baby while I bathe, etc.He drinks alot too.He thinks he has to have a case of beer every day he is off, and then some.Please give me advice on what to do.

2007-11-28 07:34:36 · 9 answers · asked by brandiejs1979 4

2007-11-28 07:34:07 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

agree or disagree?

2007-11-28 07:31:24 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

How do you deal with your co-worker that has issues at home and bring ALLLLLLLL the problems to work?

2007-11-28 07:30:51 · 9 answers · asked by PANGTA 3

that he isn't happy here with me and our kids and doesn't want to be here but he is because that's the right thing to do. He says he loves us but is unhappy. I don't know what to do cuz I really love him but don't want to waste my life being with someone who's only here cuz he thinks it's the right thing to do. We have 4 kids and I'm 20 weeks pregnant. Please help me figure out what to do for the best.

2007-11-28 07:30:33 · 22 answers · asked by Lou25lou 1

Oprah is laughing all the way to the bank while she pretends to care for people who have lazy minds. People who are too lazy to take control of their own lives and prefer to let someone on TV show them how to live their lives.

2007-11-28 07:28:04 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

What are your views on pornography and marriage? I'm talking about viewing porn WITHOUT your spouse.
Thanks.

2007-11-28 07:26:54 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it weird that I believe in the ideal of LOVE. The concept. But not the reality? It's just like how I believe in the ideal of marriage. VERY MUCH! I love the ideal of marriage. But the reality. Well . . . we all know. I'm a big believer in the ideals, but not the reality. Is that weird?

I think that society has tainted the reality of these things for me so much. I think I'd rather settle for the imagination aspect. Feel's like a better way to go. Cause people seem to always let you down from I can see. Does that sound off to anyone?

I often consider a life of solitude. I'm a young 21 year old guy.

And No I'm not preaching a life of whoring around! Not my style.

Thoughts?

2007-11-28 07:22:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 24 yo and have been married for over a year. I love my husband and we have a great relationship. Sometimes I feel as though I should have waited a few more years to marry. I am very independent and now wish I could have explored life more just by myself. I didn't date too many other people before we got married. I am afraid to tell my husband because he'll think that I want a divorce. I am not sure what I want. Can anyone who feels this way or ever felt this way lend some advice please?

2007-11-28 07:21:20 · 8 answers · asked by Rene 1

2007-11-28 07:20:55 · 21 answers · asked by Just me. 4

Once I get married, I plan only to have sex with my wife and never masturbate unless I am away on a business trip or something. Do you think I can do it?

2007-11-28 07:16:55 · 31 answers · asked by airforcewolf 4

Recently I left a job to work with my self employed husband. My job was not a very high paying job. I made just enough money to pay my child support each week and pay for the trip to pick up my children every other week. It is a long drive so it cost alot to make these trips. Before I left my job my husband and I had discussed our concerns about working together again. We had done so in the past with less than good results. My husband is the real income earner in our home. We have one child at home. His parents live with us and he supports them as well. He promised me that if I work with him he will make sure my child support gets pd and that we will ave money to make the trip. I promised I would not quit working with him. He does need an assistant and can not afford to hire one. This week I started to make my child support payment online but he told me that we did not have enuff money. I became upset with him & told him that I have to find a job that will pay. We both feel betrayed.

2007-11-28 07:10:28 · 18 answers · asked by melissa31011 2

My husband moved back home after our separation due to his affair. While he was gone, I rearranged the house and made it my own. I took over his closet and rearranged everything.

When he came back, he put all of his stuff in an extra room. He was looking around yesterday for a place to store some of his stuff and saw that my stuff is everywhere. He even joked about having his closet back. What should we do?

Then he was picking at me too. He was the one that messed up and cheated, but he is mad because an old boyfriend contacted me.

How can we start over? He wants things back the way they were and I'm reluctant to rearrange everything again and to let this all go.

2007-11-28 07:06:58 · 17 answers · asked by blue eyes 2

We got together after a week. We have a set of twins together. He stated that he was IN love with me since day one. I told him a month ago that I was IN love with him. He mentioned marriage within a year we've been together? We're both an aries, both originally from MS, met each other in TX.

2007-11-28 07:03:06 · 24 answers · asked by Jasmine R 1

My husband and I have been married for 6 years now, we have three kids. Yesterday he asked me a question about my past lovers. He wanted to know what I had done with them that I haven't done with him and what do I miss. I explained to him, it was a stupid question and did not think about things like that and had been so long. He got really upset and asked why I couldn't just answer the question.

Why would he be bring up and question about my past lovers, when it has been so long ago? What does this mean?

2007-11-28 06:58:47 · 78 answers · asked by lala 2

2007-11-28 06:57:42 · 57 answers · asked by flowersinthewind 5

of his old "roomate" and her children. Thing is they were given to him after we had been together for a while. He says he forgot about them & it was before we met, but the back of the freaking thing says 2006. We were living together by then.

Anyway...she used to call him all the freaking time & he would NEVER talk to her in front of me.

Why would he keep these? I have a feeling like he is not all that "interested" at home anymore. So what gives? Her number is still in his phone.

Her myspace clearly shows that some one she loved left her & she keeps contact with his family.

Am I just being paranoid?

2007-11-28 06:53:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Please explain why you feel the need to get married. I myslef don't want to ever be married, because I truly can't compromise my lifestyle...I know thats sad, but I truly feel sick when I think of a women hanging around me all the time, everydya/night...that gets anoyying. I just want the sex and a little chit chat and thats about it...I do want a friend by, I don't want someone around mw or with me every single day.

2007-11-28 06:50:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-28 06:46:20 · 33 answers · asked by RuffNTuff 1

2007-11-28 06:41:50 · 23 answers · asked by H 1

What if you KNOW that your partner will break up with you after you admit this?

2007-11-28 06:37:12 · 31 answers · asked by aais 3

We have been together for (1) year. Every holiday his wife insists he spends it with her and their child. He previously committed to have Thanksgiving with me this year. But when I spoke to him two days before the holiday after a great (4) days of love together, he was not sure he would make it stating the wife was crying & crazy. I am divorced already and advised him to ignore her and let her take the child to relatives out of town as she first mentioned. She harassed him on the phone continually suggesting him to join them either by staying in a hotel or separate rooms at her families home. She also is aware of our year long relationship, and deserted him two years ago. I was angry at the uncertainty of our holiday plans and let him know. When I last saw him, he became angry and said he was going to divorce her but by himself. He told me he did not want to be in the middle of her and I. He asked me to leave, gave me a kiss & hug and said he'll call. He has not called yet.

2007-11-28 06:36:15 · 16 answers · asked by Sunshine 2