I am 24 yo and have been married for over a year. I love my husband and we have a great relationship. Sometimes I feel as though I should have waited a few more years to marry. I am very independent and now wish I could have explored life more just by myself. I didn't date too many other people before we got married. I am afraid to tell my husband because he'll think that I want a divorce. I am not sure what I want. Can anyone who feels this way or ever felt this way lend some advice please?
2007-11-28 07:21:20 · 8 answers · asked by Rene 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's called being young and inexperienced. But you're married now. And no matter how old you are when you get married, you will often find that the grass looks greener on the other side. That's just how life goes. You don't realize how much you want to try something else until it is no longer an option. Being married means you should be a mature and responsible adult. So if you want greener grass, water your yard.
2007-11-28 07:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, sit down and figure out what you do want and still be married. Is it go back to school, a job? Only when you have a plan, talk to your husband. These feelings are normal for your age. Telling all of it to your husband will only hurt and confuse him. You are confused enough by yourself. What ever you do not tell him you feel you have waited, whats done is done. Saying something like that can only put trouble in your marriage there is no way for him not to take it personally. A good thing to remember, the grass is not really greener on the other side of the fence it just looks that way, when you get to the other side and look back your old grass will look just as green.
2007-11-28 15:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when i was 20 years old. I didn't date a whole lot of people before him. I don't feel like i lived enough either. We're also considering divorce.
If you don't want a divorce then try to work on the marriage and do more activities with your husband like going out to concerts and traveling. You need to figure out what you want, either you want your marriage and want to be with him forever, or you want to divorce and start all over again. Every young person is going to feel like they should have waited a few more years to marry, why? Because people always TELL them so. Good luck.
2007-11-28 15:27:43 · answer #3 · answered by Hawai'i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't the two of you explore the world together? It is great to have some one you trust along with you. Besides you would probable have at least one friend along with you while you did this exploring, so take him with you. You must tell him what your needs are, and include him in your plans or you will ruin the marriage.
2007-11-28 15:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by jalwells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young, yes. But if you have a wonderful marriage and really love your husband, don't change a thing- there are a lot of jercks out there, and you were lucky to find the right one. If you want to explore etc, then maybe go travel w/ some friends, but that's it-
2007-11-28 15:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must remember your wedding vows. They are for life. For better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, to love honor and cherish until death do us part.
Fact is you didn't wait a few more years. You must honor your wedding vows and let only your husband intoxicate you.
2007-11-28 15:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to go out and have fun and do some of the things you want to do with your husband. It doesn't always have to be by yourself.
2007-11-28 15:28:24 · answer #7 · answered by bbygrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet anyone that told you to "wait" to get married until you were older you thought was a big loser that should mind their own business and that you and your man were somehow "different".........
Am I right on track here???!
2007-11-28 15:27:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋