of his old "roomate" and her children. Thing is they were given to him after we had been together for a while. He says he forgot about them & it was before we met, but the back of the freaking thing says 2006. We were living together by then.
Anyway...she used to call him all the freaking time & he would NEVER talk to her in front of me.
Why would he keep these? I have a feeling like he is not all that "interested" at home anymore. So what gives? Her number is still in his phone.
Her myspace clearly shows that some one she loved left her & she keeps contact with his family.
Am I just being paranoid?
2007-11-28 06:53:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How do I find out if there really was something there. I know that usally men & women dont just live together for friendship sake. He swears nothing happend, but I really don't buy it. I can't ask her...
2007-11-28 07:09:42 · update #1
Not necessarily
She might have given him the picture, and he wanted to keep it,
I probably would have too
But her continued contact with his family would bother me, because it means she still wants him and is working at getting him back
NOW my question is, the kids,
Is one of them his?
And as far as her number,
I would delete it,
and see if it mysteriously appears,
also you could just hide his phone for a few days and see if she calls,
and when she does, answer it, you could tell him you only answered it because you heard it ring.
But i would be wary of the family ties,
Not so much of him because he left HER.
M
2007-11-28 07:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be honest with your husband about how you feel about the picture. Then you guys need to have a talk. If then you feel that he is still not telling you the truth, then make the decision that is best for you.
I mean it may just be a friendship thing and you may be over-reacting or he is cheating. Thing is unless you catch him in bed with her, or an email that says"I'm cheating on you", you will never really know. Good Luck!
2007-11-28 07:08:01 · answer #2 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow....you sound like me a couple of years ago with my ex. Thank GOD I didn't marry him.
We were living together and, one day, I went through his wallet looking for his driver's license, and found pictures of his ex-girlfriend. I asked him about them and got the same line you did...."I forgot about them."
Then the phone calls started. But almost always while I was at work (he was a jobless loser). She slipped up once and called while I was off, and I found out he was telling her I was the "friend" he was living with. All the while I was getting the "I'm not interested in her...she keeps calling ME" line from him.
My story ended up with her calling at the wrong time after a couple of months. He was gone...we talked a while. I found out they'd been sleeping together for months.
There's no excuse for the continued contact, and ESPECIALLY not the picture in his wallet. Take the picture, clip it into little pieces and leave it in a pile on the table for him. Tell him to lose her, or lose YOU. Period.
2007-11-28 07:00:38 · answer #3 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No! you are not being paranoid. Your spidey-senses are tingling for good reason. Those are all very good signs that somethings not right. Be honest and confront him with the inconsistencies. Ask him whats up, and give him a chance to come clean, or to spin a web of lies... look for him to become defensive, usually a sign of secrets... if he's willing to speak openly about it then maybe it is just friendly, but your woman's intuition is probably not lieing to you -it doesn't have any reason to... chances are it's probably him.
2007-11-28 07:03:12 · answer #4 · answered by blujello 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i would end that really quick and i would bring up to him that it says 2006 on the back fo the picture
2007-11-28 06:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by sarah W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're being paranoid.
Things are defitnetly a little more than just platonic. If they were "just friends" he shouldn't have a problem talking to her in front of you.
People with nothing to hide, hide nothing!
2007-11-28 07:02:13 · answer #6 · answered by Uh-May-Zing 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has not been truthful>You have a right to be upset> Know what do you do>Confront him with it>Look in his call list and see if they have been talking lately>If so than you know ???
2007-11-28 07:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't sound good. if he says he forgot about the pictures and its completely over then he wont mind throwing them away .
but he is still with you! that's a good sign
2007-11-28 07:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by bluesky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's definitely something between them if he's making up lies and not talking to her around you.
Ask him to cut off contact with her. If he barely remembered her, then it shouldn't matter should it?
2007-11-28 06:58:57 · answer #9 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um no...thats not normal. I would do some investigating if I were you. Do the kids look anything like him lol?
2007-11-28 06:58:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋