Marriage & Divorce - 28 November 2007

I'm fed up, to say the least. I've helped my ex a few times, but I never expected him to treat me like I'm an ATM!!! Right after we both agreed stop all communications, he asked to borrow $500.00... I just want to discourage my ex from asking. NO or please don't ask or I just don't have it doesn't seem to be effective.

2007-11-28 11:00:47 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-28 10:49:20 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am a single mother of two girls a 5 year old and a 6 mo old baby by the same father i got pregnant a 16 and he left me and only say her at 5mo 1 1&2 and then at 3 thats when we got back together now we have split up because he is not stable and still childish and in and out of work we were staying with his parents in fl and then thats when i got pregnat and moved back to cecil county with out him well a month later he followed and thing didnt change we were living with his aunt and then i left because he quit his job again and his temper was getting BAD!!!!! now it has been about 2 month and he has only payed child support 3 times 100,80,and150 now he says he has changed he has a good job and he started counceling and he want to get back together and get our own place but i dont know what to believe and on top of that my mom will freak WHAT SHOULD I DO HELP

2007-11-28 10:45:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

The Husband Store
A store that sells new husbands has just opened in New York City, where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates:

You may visit this store ONLY ONCE!
There are six floors and the value of the products increase as the shopper ascends the flights. The shopper may choose any item from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building!


So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband. On the first floor the sign on the door reads:


Floor 1 - These men Have Jobs.

She is intrigued, but continues to the
second floor, where the sign reads:


Floor 2 - These men Have Jobs and Love Kids.

'That's nice', she thinks, 'but I want
more.'

So she continues upward. The third floor sign reads:

Floor 3 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, and are Extremely Good Looking.


'Wow,' she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.

She goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads:

Floor 4 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help With Housework

'Oh, mercy me!' she exclaims, 'I can hardly stand it!'

Still, she goes to the fifth floor and the sign reads:

Floor 5 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, Help with Housework, and Have a Strong Romantic Streak.


She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor, where the sign reads:

Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.


PLEASE NOTE:

To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opened a New Wives store just across the street.

The first floor has wives that love s#x.

The second floor has wives that love s#x and have money.

The third, fourth, fifth and sixth floors have never been visited.

2007-11-28 10:43:41 · 15 answers · asked by Global gipsey. 2

I have reason to believe she's living with someone maybe male or Female

2007-11-28 10:38:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

One of the last things our Reverend said before the end of our marriage ceremony was, 'What God hath brought together, let no man put asunder". I agree. Any third party that is not supportive and respectful of your marriage has got to go.

But what if that person is your mother in law? If it were a friend, an extended family member, maybe even a sibling it would be so much easier to cut them out of our lives and repair our marriage. But it's my husband's MOM. She has put so much stress on our marriage that we've talked of divorce, but I can understand why my hubby doesn't want to cut his mother out of his life.
She has been a horror to the both of us - trying to set my husband up with other women, leaving nasty messages, yelling, demanding we do things her way, emailing from other peoples' email accounts, pretending to be them, disowning us (occasionally, out of anger), refusing to speak to me or my daughter, accusing me of things I didn't do, CONSTANTLY causing drama.Advice?

2007-11-28 10:33:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

we want to know if there's a marriage penalty, and if so, what's the best way to avoid it

2007-11-28 10:30:05 · 5 answers · asked by Tool 1

me andd my girlfriend are and have been having problems i like so advice to get some help i sometimes think bout other girls when we go and yea not bout them like do it with them just names or how they doing like we kinda slipping and i love her too much i just need help cause i have a hard time dealing with girls we have a strong relationship but i been slipping away but thats only feelings here and there i feel good lately but u never know i just need help anwers plz

2007-11-28 10:27:08 · 3 answers · asked by tueetybird21 1

2007-11-28 10:24:23 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

i got arranged married to a man from pakistan when i was 18 (2 yrs ago). i am from US i didn't fite my parents about it cuz i went into it like ok maybe it will be for good since i was crazy girl party and goofy etc. so first i fought my parents in pakistan cuz they wanted to marry me to a older guy and i wanted to get married to him i saw hiss picture and thought hey atleast he is good looking. my parents wanted me to marry well to do family but i still said i want him. he appreciated this for six months after coming to us. then he had to move to another city for job and started acting sooo distant i cried practically for a year. lost weight looked stressed all the time. i gave him my heart and he would not care about what i want in bed just push me in a weird way to suck his dik and if i say sumthng wouldn't tlak to me.if ask him why he is treating me like this he wouldn't talk, then i started feeling dreaming that he is doing sumthing behind my back, when i was pregnant he didn..

2007-11-28 10:22:01 · 1 answers · asked by baby doll 1

Ive been dating this guy for 3yrs he is 38 im 21 (i know i know what am i doing w him) great guy awesome cares about me a lot i know for sure that he loves me amzing i couldnt ask for someone better....But he wont stop talking abt his ex wife...ive told him it bothers me, ive changed the subject...but somehow someway he always gets the chance to talk abt her or how he puts it"relating" i understand he was hurt but dude come on!!!! My question is why does he keep talking abt her???? is there something wrong w him and if there is let me know! Im starting to feel like im living in her shadow.....

2007-11-28 10:18:49 · 9 answers · asked by Ginger86 3

My husband wants me to be sexier for him and more sensual, what can I do, what does he really mean??. What do you guys like?

2007-11-28 10:15:32 · 27 answers · asked by cherry 3

a) the man be older than the wife?
OR
b) the wife be older than her husband?

2007-11-28 09:37:41 · 12 answers · asked by Diva 1

He doesn't wear his original wedding ring since it has diamonds on it. He thinks that he might damage it when he is working at his hospital. So I am thinking of buying him a wedding band (no diamonds, just gold). And since I am not American (I don't know all American traditions), I was wondering if it is ok after 5 years of marriage give him a wedding band as a Christmas present. Does anyone have similar situation? Does anyone have husband - doctor who doesn't wear ring at work?

2007-11-28 09:27:26 · 14 answers · asked by Irene C 2

I really thought this guy like me for 4 years because the way he acted in the past. I moved to different states. He still kept writting many love poems about ME! (Those poems are very specific and talk about me) Today, I asked him to make a decision.

I could not believe he wrote this..

***
I have never written a poem about you. With all due respect, I have told you repeatedly that I have no interest in having a relationship with you.

As nice as the book you sent me is, I'm going to send it back to you because the interaction between the two of us has become very inappropriate. You're now on the verge of harassment and consequently I am now asking you to stop contacting me on any medium or in any fashion.

If you do not leave me alone, I will get law enforcement involved.
***
What is his motivation? Why he wrote peoms about loving me. He string me along. When I love him. He treats me so bad.

Thank you!

2007-11-28 09:27:15 · 23 answers · asked by Hope 4

I live in Illinois and my step son just turned 18 but has not yet graduated from high school so the state automatically extended child support until he graduates. At the same time they did a case review and said my husband had missed 13 payments from the years of 1999, 2000, 2001 and 2003 and now has to pay the delinquency plus interst! We tried to fight it saying it was court order to be withheld. And believe me if it had not been taken out of his check, we would have known.The states said prove it was paid and the court ordered withholding notice and the fact that it was withheld ever other week was not enough. Only proof would be pay check stubs and I didn't keep 8 years worth. Let this be a lesson learned....KEEP YOUR PAY CHECK STUBS FOR THE ENTIRE TIME YOU PAY CHILD SUPPORT!!! According to the state, they have no obligation to notify of a delinquency in a more timely manner. Isn't this a big surprise.

2007-11-28 09:15:01 · 4 answers · asked by Sharlena 2

2007-11-28 09:12:11 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband didnt ever want another one and told me to get my tubes tied, but then i wasnt sure but a lot of reflection on my past and present has convinced me that one is more than enough.we both have professional jobs and i do all the house chores alone as well as taking care of our child.i am exhausted each day and we seldom communicate without a fight ensuing, which worries me that my daughter is surounded by a hostile and cold environment, hence i dont ever want another baby to experience this atmosphere.i realise that i need to make this hard decision as my husband is against one child now that i am determined to stop here. what would you do? we have been married 4yrs together for 8yrs, and emotional heart to heart communication without a fight is non existant even though we are seeing a marriage cousellor, it seems like a waste of money and time. what do you think? serious answers only by married pple plse!!!

2007-11-28 09:06:05 · 15 answers · asked by sherie 2

Do you think someone who is Bipolar (untreated in all ways)....and is leading a very risky lifestyle right now (spending excessively, not paying bills, drinking and partying a lot, hanging out with the wrong kind of friend, accepting a marriage proposal from a girl she has only know like 2 and a half months, and a few other shady things)....do you think that after being with me for almost 5 years that she will regret what she did in the near future or at least some day? Even though we had our share of problems...and I have my pscyhological problems as well (OCD and BPD).....But even with her being nasty to me lately really bad and her making things out to be worse that they were between us and telling her friends that stuff, I was always there for her....even after she left me this time. And she left me once before this time too, maybe like 5 months before this time. So with her making out to seem like the 'devil'.....if it was you, and you were as unhappy as she is making it seem ..

2007-11-28 09:03:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husbands messenger logged on automatically when I turned the computer on. As soon as it logged in a women popped up and said "I miss you" *rushes to your side*. I typed a few vague things to see what was what and well.....it wasn't pretty. I thought we had a great relationship. I'm carrying his child. I'm going to confront him when he comes home (if not sooner). Am I wrong to feel betrayed?

2007-11-28 09:02:25 · 43 answers · asked by Jenny 2

I'm 25, male and I have a height of 5'8" and my potential life partner is also 25, and she is 4'6" tall.

Please advice, does this really matters in a long term relationship in any serious way ?

Does this affect her child conception or anything in future or our sexual life ?

2007-11-28 08:55:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

savageable, should I at least try it, or just go on with the seperation?

2007-11-28 08:53:08 · 24 answers · asked by Josh0607 1

I am a man in the U.S. that is 20 years old, 21 in january, looking to move to europe. I am also looking to get married and settle down. So i figured why not try and save time and combine them together in one simple ad.

2007-11-28 08:48:45 · 4 answers · asked by laszlo_filename 1

My situation briefly. I moved out of state for a good job (lower cost of living too). Was going to get an apartment and wife would fly out 2 weeks later.

In that 2 weeks she started talking to some 21 year old kid on a video game.... rather than move out she moved 1/2 way across the country to live with him.

Said she never loved me, made up a million excuses to justify her affair, said she would never come back, & that her new boyfriend are her going to be together forever and that he is "the one" and he makes her happier than I ever made....

After 3 years of marriage she just threw it all away. I never saw it coming because she always seemed affectionate, warm, loving and caring, always hugging, kissing and cuddling... even right before I left...

So it all hit me like a freight train.. I havent talked to her in the 2 mos she's been living with him. She refuses any communication/counseling.

I'm extremely depressed & lonely.. I tried counseling, it doesnt help much. What do I do?

2007-11-28 08:45:58 · 26 answers · asked by BlaBla 2

with a disability like let's say depression, or rheumatoid arthritis?

Let me know why, and the details.

Just don't say "no" but state the reason.

2007-11-28 08:42:58 · 31 answers · asked by * 1

Or should I wait until after we're married and change it. I want to pay as little as possible and avoid this so called "marriage penalty".

2007-11-28 08:39:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ever done to win over your mate?

2007-11-28 08:33:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-28 08:31:10 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

....again? I have always believed that if a man was that curious or unhappy or whatever the case was to make them cheat and their woman took them back then they EVENTUALLY start to stray again and know that there IS a possible chance that their woman would forgive them again. Even if your girlfriend/wife was the love of your life.


This DID NOT happen to me I am having a debate with my coworker. She believes that men tend to venture out but then regret it and want to come back home. I believe that if they do come back home and their woman forgives them then they're asking for trouble in the future with the start of trust issues.

2007-11-28 08:28:09 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I got married young {I was 16 and he was 18}, and were constantly fighting! He is an alcoholic and I would be mean to him cause I HATED the fact that he was always drinking. It just wasn't one beer like he would go overboard!! So about a month ago he told me to leave and I DID! For the first week he was pissed and was drinking more. Now he wants us back, I told no not until he gets help and stays sober....... But until then what should I do? Should I talk to him occasionally or not talk to him at all until he shows me that he wants to change. Like he wants to talk to me every night, I am just confused!! He also like wants to take me to dinner and stuff like that.... I just don't want him to think that he can do whatever he wants and then weekends spend time with his part-time family! I want him to get help but for him not so I can come back. I want him to do it for the "right reasons"..
I recognized my mistakes and I am seeing a therapist, I know it takes two to tango.

2007-11-28 08:17:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous