We have been together for (1) year. Every holiday his wife insists he spends it with her and their child. He previously committed to have Thanksgiving with me this year. But when I spoke to him two days before the holiday after a great (4) days of love together, he was not sure he would make it stating the wife was crying & crazy. I am divorced already and advised him to ignore her and let her take the child to relatives out of town as she first mentioned. She harassed him on the phone continually suggesting him to join them either by staying in a hotel or separate rooms at her families home. She also is aware of our year long relationship, and deserted him two years ago. I was angry at the uncertainty of our holiday plans and let him know. When I last saw him, he became angry and said he was going to divorce her but by himself. He told me he did not want to be in the middle of her and I. He asked me to leave, gave me a kiss & hug and said he'll call. He has not called yet.
2007-11-28 06:36:15 · 16 answers · asked by Sunshine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
these are the problems with being in a relationship with someone "going thorough" a divorce...you take a very high risk of getting your heart broken...you should give him some space, let him get his head on straight and figure out what he wants...and let him do as he said divorce her on his own...he doesnt need your help...its probably making it a bit more stressful...
2007-11-28 06:42:55 · answer #1 · answered by Amber R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw, you poor lady. Then again, you should know better to be wasting your time with a married man. Until the day the divorce papers are signed, sealed and delivered, you are probably wasting your time. If I had a dollar for every person in your situation who ended up alone and waiting, I'd be a rich man. He'll probably never do it. When he does, odds are he'll want to get out and see what he was missing. Don't waste too much of your time sitting by that phone. Good luck!
2007-11-28 06:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to remove the blinders you're wearing. He's playing you like a $2 fiddle. If you was really that into you he'd be divorce already and with you. HELLO! You've been a good ride for him but it's time to go home now.
2007-11-28 06:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He told me he did not want to be in the middle of her and I."
If you hear from him again, tell him you are no longer going to be in the middle either. And he needs to choose between staying with you, or being by himself or with whomever he chooses.
You are being asked to sacrifice at every turn, why are doing this to yourself?
"find another family to destroy" its not her family, it was his family. He chose to do this, I highly doubt they met knowing that the other was in a loving and committed relationship and everything was roses. Thats not how it works and you know it.
As for get real "read the story" thats all I am going to say. You people are too quick to judge. IT clearly states his wife abandoned him and now wants him back basically.
I hate how willfully ignorant and judgemental people are (yes thats me judging you two losers).
2007-11-28 06:39:54 · answer #4 · answered by Phil M 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Wake up! This guy wants his cake and eat it too. Don't you see that?
Both of you are so tolerant of each other why don't you all just move in to one big house and it he would be there everyday with the two of you (separate quarters of course).
2007-11-28 06:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by ★Banäna . Nightmärẹ★™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a wife and child at home. You KNEW this and yet you CHOSE to make yourself a Whore for him. He has no intentions of divorcing his wife. IF he wanted to be with you it wouldn't be that "difficult". Obviously he doesn't WANT to be with you.
2007-11-28 09:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he obviously put his wife before you, i understand she knows about you and you guys dont hide anything, but he made his choice. he went to spend time with her, doesnt call you anymore, it sounds like he is gone and was just waiting for a easy way to get out of the relationship with you.
2007-11-28 06:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by not this way 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to drop this guy. He is still in love with his wife, which is why he spent the holiday weekend with her.
2007-11-28 06:51:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A woman insisting her husband spend thanksgiving with her and their child. What a selfish woman....
Jeez lady. Get real.
2007-11-28 06:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
he has been holding on for some reason. the "difficult" wife may know why, and it may work out if he wasnt distracted.
2007-11-28 06:43:29 · answer #10 · answered by the evil1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋