Marriage & Divorce - 16 November 2007

Sunday will be the anniversary of my husband's first marriage. We were together last year on that day as well but I wasn't around that day I only talked with him on the phone. We didn't mention it at all so I didn't notice any weird mood or anything.
What should I expect?

2007-11-16 07:59:07 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-16 07:56:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-16 07:54:14 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-16 07:52:10 · 31 answers · asked by Ahwell 7

I know a couple that was married, got divorced, and now wants to be married again, but wants to know if this is possible with out having another wedding ceremony.

2007-11-16 07:49:43 · 20 answers · asked by jaminj 1

My best friend is beautiful, thin, & always looks put together. I'm a size 4, so it's not like I'm huge by any means, but it hurts my feelings that he will say I'm fat when we are fighting & tell me I need to lose weight. Every now & then, he will make comments like, "Why can't you be like her?" or "She always looks good, why can't you?" I may not be as thin as I used to be after having 2 kids, but what gives. Isn't this hitting below the belt or am I overreacting (as he says)?

2007-11-16 07:46:23 · 24 answers · asked by Katie 2

i really like her. we get along well. she has been through alot. she was with the same guy from 14 to 26. since then they have split. they have 3 kids. she started dating. its been about a year since. it seems like almost every weekend she calls with someone new she has slept with. i dont know what to say. dont want to be rude to her. but i have told her that she wont find anyone by doing that and she needs to hold off for a while when she first meets someone. she hasnt taken my advice and i dont know what else to tell her. shes being used and wont even admit it. she acts like shes the player when she really isnt...what should i do???

2007-11-16 07:43:15 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband's mother and sister don't like me. They are close with the ex-w and never gave me a chance. I have not done one single solitary think to neither of them. Now the ex-w is a horrid person. She is very disrespectful to me when she calls my home, and all I did was put a stop to it and stand up to her. I advised her the she will act as a respectful adult when she calls my home, and I have never called hers. (Ex: As soon as I answer the phone, she says "look b*tch, put *** on the phone")... That is not appropriate and will not be tolerated so now she is not welcome to call. She told the mom and the sis that I said she can't call my home while her child is there... Do you blame me... Initially she could call, but now... after that.... Ha, Sh*tting me if she can call and disrespect my home where me and my husband pay "ALL" the d*mn bills... Again, Do you blame me....?

2007-11-16 07:42:52 · 15 answers · asked by Dani_n_keem 2

If you dated a guy that was the sweetest person on earth, treated you well, had a good job, made you laugh, had a good time with but you didn't necessarily think he was "as intelligent" as you were, would you date him/marry him?


He's a fireman, so it just took a list to get on the Dept. (highest paid in the state, good money)
He never went to college (I did) but that doesn't even bother me that he didn't. There are just some things that I know (that I think is basic knowledge) that he doesn't quite get. I don't know if loving him for all the good qualities I listed above, that it will just annoy me later for this one thing when we spent our lives together.

2007-11-16 07:41:23 · 48 answers · asked by sunfir26 3

Just filed seperation from my Husband for 2 years. We were together for 6 before we got married. I love him a lot, but he was mentally abusive always telling me I was attractive enough, and he was always checking out other girls. he completely demoralized me on many levels. He even had internet and phone flings. To top all that off his family was a royal pain in the ***...constant interference and nagging. There a family of liars, and his own father cheated on his mother. He said he never wanted to be like him, but I truly believe he has. I feel I can't get over this I am grieving and my tears won't stop. Some morning's I will wake up happy and ready to go...other's Ill feel like my life is totally shitless and pointless. Why am I crying for someone who treated me so bad? If there life after a divorce...is there life after total heart break? Please some suggestions on how to move on...or what to do. I need some help! There is no shot at getting back...help???

2007-11-16 07:41:22 · 15 answers · asked by Confused4life 2

If yes why do you love them? if no why are you with them?

2007-11-16 07:39:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me & this guy see each other some..but not alot..we work alot & don't live real close. We talk on the phone&text, etc. I'm divorced & he's never been married. He said that he knows we should b careful.(I have a feeling that maybe he has been burned by women/or a woman before&he knows how my marriage ended w/my husband cheating) We usually talk casually but yesterday he asked me if I missed him yet. He said he misses me & that he's been thinking about me alot. I told him I think about him alot&that I would of already told him but I didn't know if it was ok or not. He said "me too b/c I didn't want to scare u or fall for u too fast but I've been thinking about u alot." I said he wouldn't scare me & that I would rather know. He says we both know we have to b careful & it's good we r already thinking alike. I told him I don't want either 1 of us to get hurt in any way & he said he's glad we r on the same page. Where do u think we could be going w/this from the things he says?

2007-11-16 07:29:23 · 12 answers · asked by thisgirl 1

My wife is mad at me because in a minor dispute with my family of origin (parents/brothers) she feels I am taking "their side". In my opinion, in this circumstance, it is my wife who is overreacting and being pretty irrational. I've kind of tried to be a bridge to smooth things over a bit between the two parties (clearly a no win option, I feel like "Raymond"!),
but she sees this, angrily, as not being supportive of her.

So it seems I have a weird choice--be a "good husband" and be supportive of my wife's feelings--but act in a way that is not what I truly believe and not be true to myself--or act in a way I believe is true, but that therefore is being "not supportive"

Experiences? Advice? Help?!
Thanks...

2007-11-16 07:25:43 · 16 answers · asked by robert b 1

Lol.
Okay, here's the deal. I'm very independent.. especially after spending 2 years alone while my husband was in Iraq. I learned how to do things on my own like change the oil, mow the grass, etc. My husband seems to think some things are a mans job and when I do them (or try to), I'm hurting his manhood. It didn't help that I called my dad after our son flushed a bouncy ball in the toilet instead of letting him handle it.
I know this is important for some men (don't fully understand why) so what can I do (other than keep my mouth shut in the future) to help him feel manly? Any ideas?

2007-11-16 07:21:47 · 21 answers · asked by Nina Lee 7

I always wondered why unhappy men stay married? Or why does a wife stay if she knows her husband does not love her and has told her so?

2007-11-16 07:14:10 · 32 answers · asked by PurplePeace 5

There will be filing for divorce next week, but with Rx drug addiction, spouse can drain complete between now and then. Using low income lawyer, in small county in Washington state, so not much lawyer availability. 2ND PART how do I, before lawyer gets around filing next week, and having spouse removed from premises, stop my liability for spouse to incur debt I am liable for. Can I file a form at the court house BEFOCan I publish in a newspaper? Does it have to be a certain # of newspaper? do the papers have to have a minimum circulation. I realize spouse may have right to a portion of our joint funds, but with drug addiction at this level,. Spouses has has already drained dangerous levels of our assets and am nervous to wait even the week the lawyer will take, if the lawyer gets filing on time. Your advice and guidance appreciated. Particularly filing some simple preliminary form at courthouse or how to announce my not be liable for debt he may incur before lawyer gets around it

2007-11-16 07:12:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Last night my spouse gave my child (5) medicine in a shot glass. When he left the room, I poured it into a measure cup and it was over 3 teaspoons! I poured it only 1/2 teaspoon back in the shot glass for my child. My spouse was angry when he heard us and got mad. Saying he usually gives him the medicine after I go to bed! Reading the directions. It is 2 teaspoons for a adult dosage, not to exceed 4 tsp in 24 hours. He is giving my child 3 tsp or more in 24 hours. He thinks he is right about everything, but this really scares me. What should I do to protect my child from this??

2007-11-16 07:06:02 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

Where can i get help to save my marriage because is heading for a crash......

2007-11-16 07:03:39 · 40 answers · asked by effect 1

2007-11-16 07:01:28 · 45 answers · asked by effect 1

Any stories about being "balanced" with an ex-wife or have you had a b/f play both sides with the Ex? Or that he was "too nice" to stand up to the Ex or gave in on everything?

I have a friend going through this and she says it feels terrible feeling second to anyone's Ex. Shouldn't be that way. Not if she is making him happy in life now and is his present & future. His kids are involved and they've had no problems with the situation. They all love each other.
All along he has told her she is first (after the kids) and then she figures out he has been trying to make her, the kids and the Ex happy. In spite of damaging their relatonship. Ex also interfered early in their relationship. My friend is a really good person and wishes no ill-well on anyone, but it has caused trust issues now. Who's happiness do you think should come 1st, hers or the Ex? How can she trust he will put her 1st now, as he says? She knows what I think, wanted to get some other views or opinions. Thanks!

2007-11-16 07:01:08 · 12 answers · asked by 2008girl 3

if your wife only wanted to have sex with you twice a week but took care of herself to internet porn everyday?

2007-11-16 07:00:49 · 15 answers · asked by Heather 3

i love my husband and we have two little girls but i am very lonely of you know what i mean would it be wrong to cheat and not tell him

2007-11-16 07:00:22 · 40 answers · asked by foxxylesley 2

2007-11-16 06:57:59 · 13 answers · asked by BananaPancakes 2

My wife has 2 sisters. Both divorced. Her mom wears the pants in the house. 3 sisters live in other countries and they talk to their mom all the time but rarely talk to the poor father. I say poor because he has lost his 2 kidneys. He is really sick but they all talk to their mom all the time… Their dad was a money making machine for them.

My wife always tried to control me. I asked her more than a year to go to a counselor together. Finally we went to 2 different counselors but she did not show up the second time because she says: I am smart and educated and I know what is right!

Both of sisters got divorced because they love the way their mom is acting,. No man can handle it but their Dad! I want you to share your experience with me… My wife never thinks she may make a mistake and when you tell her about her mistakes she gets angry. She threatens, she screams…

She has filed a divorce as another threatening tool to control me. She thought after seeing the divorce papers I will say: O.K, I will be your slave and will do whatever you want but I am not going to do that.

Here are some of her controlling issues: She gets mad if I go to the gym, or play tennis with my friends (I was an athlete my whole life)…whenever we go somewhere she says: whey do you behave like this? Whey did you talk to her? What were you telling to her?? It is so insulting. I believe when I got married I am committed to only one woman and she is my wife. I never think I will be with somebody else… but she just does not understand. I lived with her for a year and a half and every day was like hell…

Do you think my wife can change? Just stop asking why and start enjoying life?
Oh, she is 34 years old by the way. She is beautiful and I am a handsome guy. I always trust her but I think she is very insecure seeing I get a lot of attention.

2007-11-16 06:54:51 · 9 answers · asked by mazyar m 1

I own a home and I am getting married in a couple of months, does my home automatically become 50% my spouse. We live in Florida.

2007-11-16 06:53:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband I have been married for almost two years and we have a beautiful son together. However, he is not honest with me about money and other things. I don't belive he has been unfaithful. He also lied to me when we first married when he was in the military. He told me he was working when in fact he was AWOL and we were expecting our son. We had no money or health insurance, and I had to leave the state to be with my parents, because they evicted us from the on base housing. He remained behind to finish up his paperwork with the military. While we were apart for two months, he did not contact me at all. We now live in his home state where I have no family. I have a great job and my son is the only thing I look forward to everyday. He has walked out on us twice for several days at a time and when he says that he will change, it's only for a week or two, then everything goes back to chaos. Should I leave him or stay for the sake of keeping the family together?

2007-11-16 06:49:38 · 65 answers · asked by Taina 1

Thanks for answering my question, but what you are suggesting sounds a little like a fairy tale. Ok, I may be a little bitter right now, but come on ... I thought he was my Knight in Shining Armour - he used to pride himself on not turning out like the rest of his family, but somewhere along the line he lost sight of his goals. I cannot add all the details, 14 years is a long time to try to summarize in one little paragraph!!! Anyhow, I do appreciate your answer, I am just not sure if I am ready to give up on him. I can see the potential.

2007-11-16 06:45:39 · 13 answers · asked by raininonsunday 3

Will you ever feel secure in that relationship? How do you feel about the ex after the divorce is final? Do you feel sorry for them? Do you worry about the time your partner spends with his/her ex (assume kids)?

P.S. I did not have an affair.

2007-11-16 06:42:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-16 06:39:16 · 15 answers · asked by am 1

about anything in life, my husband playing with his friends now

2007-11-16 06:35:42 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous