Marriage & Divorce - 16 November 2007

i feel like i do not matter to him. we have 5 children together and i have been told you do not look like you have one. I have been hit on by many men and I DO NOT GO UP TO ONE THEY COME TO ME. I always tell them I have 5 children and a husband. my husband does not care about my feelings only his. what i think is what he thinks

2007-11-16 12:51:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a child with a US soldier, who is not in her life (we are in the same state still), I filed for child support in July. My case worker has sent numerous letters for him to contact them. He hasn't. He hasn't filled out any paperwork that has been sent to him. I finally called his batallion and they in turn, made him call.

I was told we would both be sent a finance packet to fill out and send back in. I did and today I received a letter that from SRS that said:

"This is to advise you that your Child Support case has been referred for legal action."

I'm not quite sure why this happened or what it means. And being that I can't call til Monday, I thought I'd ask on here. Is it because he is still not cooperating? Like not filling out the necassary paperwork to get the ball rolling for child support?

If that's the case, what exactly should I expect now? Court? Should I call his 1st Sgt. again? Thanks in advance for your answers!

2007-11-16 12:50:33 · 6 answers · asked by Mel 2

after 9 years of being married it is over. damm what the ****. i know i was not the perfect husband, i did ALOT of bad things, but i have done alot of good things......but the good stuff gets over looked. today is day 1 of being single....what now?

2007-11-16 12:50:27 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is an athlete at a university...let's just say he is very good at his game. Well, we married young and will be having a baby next month. Anyways, for the longest time this girl wont leave him alone, she would lie and tell people they have hooked up (when we are always together...not to mention she is kind of beat up looking) she would get his number from his teammates and text him non stop, she writes him e-mails all the time, just wont give up...she was pretty much, obsessive stalkers and started getting wierd to me, like copying my clothes, trying to look at my jeans brands and size, boots, ect. It's so wierd. She eventually transferred and told people my husband said dhe would be w/ her if she stayed (we are havinga baby!). Then the other day, my husband showed me another message she wrote him...she is crazy...what do you do to get rid of freaks like this, I'm scared she would like kill me or something. Let me know, and we changed his number she got it again from teamate

2007-11-16 12:48:08 · 8 answers · asked by elle 3

I want to be with her and touch her everytime I see her and she thinks I'm annoying! My wife thinks I am not normal to want to have sexual intimacy everyday with her and feel her body and caress her everyday. We've been married 15 years and I still want her as much as the first day! She stopped coming on to me after the 3rd year and hasn't made advances or asked me to make love to her more than maybe 4 times since! Who's wrong here?

2007-11-16 12:48:02 · 8 answers · asked by Camelot 1

My ex and I split up 15 years ago. Since then he has only paid maintenence for three months. (the first three months) The child support agency has said that he owes me £4000 (not much for 15 years really) But that because of his low income he doesnt have to pay me back yet. (hes paid cash in hand-Ive tried to report this but the DHSS were not interested)

Will he always be liable for this debt? Of does he just need to wait for our son to leave full time education, then he can go on the books, and be debt free??

2007-11-16 12:46:30 · 5 answers · asked by bagpuss 6

Hi thur, I got a relly embarrassing question. I was married for past 5 years and never had any issues wtih being gay or anything. I got nothing against em but I am straight as a stick. Now she just told me she was "born a man". She won't tell me when she got the change, only that at one time she was a "gay man" who "lived the lifestyle". I was deeply in love with her but now I am confused. It all came out when I wanted her to conceive, I forced her to go to the doctor, and in the office she finally told me the truth.

Should I divorce her or forgive her or what??? I am so confused!

2007-11-16 12:42:17 · 28 answers · asked by Krazinski 1

I'm nervous, excited, scared and happy I finally decided to do something "about it" instead of complaining all the time.
Basically, I don't know what the question is, I'm just so confused at this point...........

2007-11-16 12:28:49 · 38 answers · asked by Reading and Answering Your Q' 3

Sometimes when I look at her all I see is one of her Ex's climbing off of her. And yes she was good enought to tell me all about her past. I just want to get over this wall I'm up against, or call it quits because either way will hurt.

2007-11-16 12:23:49 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I have been married for 7 years and are extremely happy. Today she told me that her exhusband called and told her that he was sorry for the way he had treated her and wanted to know if she still had feelings for him. She said that she told him she was very happy with me and for him to stop calling her. I have no doubt that she is being truthful because, if she had wanted to go back to him, she has had plenty of opportunities. It is just the fact that this man had the nerve to disrespect me in this way. Should I take the fact that she told him not to call anymore and leave it alone, or should I confront him and let him know that he is treading into dangerous territory asking another man's wife that question?

2007-11-16 12:12:30 · 14 answers · asked by jerry m 1

Ok...yahoo marrage & divorce it goes.....???

2007-11-16 12:08:31 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

the way my husband speaks to me is just wrong...I'm 8.5 months pregnant and last night I asked him to clean up his laundry before he left for his trip...well, that turned into him telling me how "worthless" I am. Going on saying "my family doens't even like me" nor do "I have no friends, and the ones that I have don't like me." That "no one would ever want to be w/ me...and he doesn't know how he puts up w/ me!" I just wonder who would say that to the woman carrying his child!!? I want to leave him but thank God he is gone till Monday...I just wish I had a normal life and husband...unfortunately I married young and now wish I could start all over. Please give me some insight!?

THANKS ALL!

2007-11-16 12:03:12 · 36 answers · asked by elle 3

We have 2 children and 1 on the way. Just after I found out I was pregnant with the 3rd he confessed to cheating on me once. Then I discovered another affair he has since admittted to.
This news tore my world apart but I tried to stay strong for the sake of my kids. He said he realised how stupid he acted and was sorry and would never do it again. I decided there was so much at stake and wanted to work things out. Things were going great until the last 3 weeks. He has started staying out late to drink with the boys and he never answers his phone when he is out.
I have a feeling that I was wrong in believing he wouldn cheat again and that he is. Even though he swears he is just out with the boys. I am worried because he has cheated before that I could be just jumping to conclusions out of fear but my gut tells me he's at it again.

Has anyone rebuilt a relationship after something like this? Is it possible or do they really never stop cheating?

2007-11-16 11:15:45 · 17 answers · asked by ? 4

2007-11-16 10:43:31 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Not a stay at home and watch tv one... but a cook and clean, drop and pick up kids and do grocessary and other stuff one. But he doesn't earn anything.

2007-11-16 10:42:24 · 22 answers · asked by Gulab 6

2007-11-16 10:22:46 · 17 answers · asked by Temba 1

my fiance and I are getting married next year and trust me, I dont think we'll be having kids for 4 or 5 more years. but I was just wondering - my fiance suffers from random on and off depression. how likely is it that would be passed on when we have children?

2007-11-16 10:19:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I thought I was ok with this, I had the whole thing planned out in my head....but the day he walked out that door was I think the hardest day of my life.
Now I dont know what I want to do, I was married to that man for almost 3 years, and now I don't know how I'm going to be able to cope walking into a quiet lonely house again.

2007-11-16 10:16:42 · 6 answers · asked by Lucia F 1

I just got engaged.. only, i'm not in love with him! I should be as he is the nicest, kindest, sweetest guy i've ever met and he adores me. . . only, i'm stupidly in love with my ex! why? I can't answer that, I really can't. I hate myself, I really really do. My head's in turmoil and I don't know what to do. Are my feelings blocked for my fiance because I don't want to get hurt again> will I fall in love with him eventually? And how do I get my stupid ex out my head (who by the way dumped me for a 26yr old Brazilian woman who only wanted a passport!) I am in my 40's and yes i should know better but i'm hurting inside and have no one else to talk to about this. I feel like driving a car into a wall at full speed. Any suggestions?

2007-11-16 10:10:25 · 17 answers · asked by Dawn M 1

I have a chance to go back to college and I have been wanting to for some time now but I wanted to wait until my children were of age to do more things for themselves,so know they are 15, 17,it is my big chance but my husband is not supportive no matter what I say or how bad I explain that I really want to do this to better myself and provide a better financial status.My husband is disabled now,he use to be a mechanic, but he is capable of taking care of himself it's just partial disability. I love him but think it is wrong to deprive me of my dreams. what do you think? am I being selfish, I am 37 soon to be 38.please voice your opinion all is welcome.

2007-11-16 10:08:53 · 27 answers · asked by lil frogger 2

I have been married for 9 years and have not ha sex in over three years. Husband ha s become impotent, viagra doesn't work, and he seems unwilling to discuss with doctor.He say's he ok with it, What about me? HELP He was recently diagnosed with diabetes, and blames it on this. Constantly telling me he love me, but expect me to just do without also. He is 17 years my senior, however, that shouldn't matter. He 69, and I, 52 think he is just too old?? By the way he still work full time strenuously

2007-11-16 10:07:04 · 22 answers · asked by lpie2 l 1

When do you let go of the past relationship that hurt so bad that you never thought you would be happy again..and while you didn't to meet anyone else..the perfect comes along but your scared to let them in ..so in return you push them away..

In April 2008 it will make 2 yrs since me and my ex ended it..is it time I let someone in?

2007-11-16 10:05:33 · 9 answers · asked by AMANDA 1

my female partner is tired every night says she is working to hard weekend comes says she is still tired but stays up later then turns her back and falls asleep when in bed .should i start getting concerned ????

2007-11-16 10:04:45 · 9 answers · asked by skips 2

Yup… I am in dueling agonizing stage of getting over my ex… I NEED HELP! I can’t stop thinking about him… I want to get back together with him but I have not told him. I ran into one of his very close co-workers while I was out in a date and his friend told me that my (ex) still loves me and talk about me all the time… and has mentioned that he wants to get back together with me. I called my ex the next morning telling him the story and he told me that it is true that he still loves me, and when I asked if it was true that he wanted to get back together with me he said “my co-worker assumes a lot I did not say that”… then said he did not want to talk about it. And I have not been able stop txting him and calling him and he does not really respond to me… he had mentioned that he wants to be friends but does not call or txt me unless I do… and even then he sometimes does not reply. I just need to stop calling and texting him but I cant.

2007-11-16 10:03:30 · 7 answers · asked by Just ME 2

what do you do when you think the man you love is lying to you but he denies it and you can't prove otherwise?

2007-11-16 10:02:14 · 8 answers · asked by gullible 1

I am not a young inexperienced woman. Ive seen the cheaten and the not over her yet. I have been living with my fiancée for a year and a half. He and I are together (best friends) all the time. The only comparison he does with me to his ex-wife is how much more beautiful, sexual and more of a friend. All they do is barely get along or argue. He has made extraordinary changes to make our relationship work and experienced women know that “changes” for a man means a great deal. So it is perplexing when he calls me Jackie. 4 times the past 3 weeks! (Never durring intimate times - wheew!) They dated for 5 years, married for 5 (happy for 1) and now divorced for 3 years. We have his kids 50% of the time so he is always seeing her & talking on the phone about the kids, so you think that is enough reason to occasionally slip up? Believe me, he knows I am NOT ok with this. He gets frustrated with himself and says it doesn’t mean he wants her back so what the heck do you guys think?

2007-11-16 10:00:29 · 8 answers · asked by Merlin 1

i love my husband so much and i would do anything for him but sometimes i hate him...he hurts me inside and i feel like he is breaking my heart..we had major problems when we are dating and now were married...is it right to feel this way..i dont want divorce him...i love him but idk what to do anymore...help

2007-11-16 09:59:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are seperated(I pretty much left him because he is an alcoholic) He decided he didn't want us,so he has a new girlfriend that is pregnant. We had all of our stuff shipped here where I live. He put aside these boxes that had all of my daughters baby clothes,toys etc. He wanted to take them for his new baby. I told him no,because I bought alot of that stuff and so did my parents. I am not going to give another baby my daughters clothes because it is not my problem he did this. He told me if I don't give him the clothes back,he will not pay me anything for our kids until it goes to court.(he hasn't paid me in 6 weeks,he was paying me $100 weekly for 2 kids) I am not giving the clothes to him and that is final. Am I right or wrong? At the same time I feel wrong because we are talking about a innocent baby that didn't ask for this. Why wouldn't he want to pay for his kids? Thanks for your opinions!!

2007-11-16 09:58:54 · 8 answers · asked by lvbrdy4vr 1

i cheated on wife i didnt have sex of any kind with the girl but i hert her so bad that she had got drunk and had sex with her x-s to make me mad.she applogized for that .now i want to prove to her i want her back help please

2007-11-16 09:56:04 · 19 answers · asked by michael w 1

You've heard this expression "marriage is hard work." Last night my husband was talking to someone newly married and he was saying it's hard work, a full-time job, blah blah blah. I said "hey, I'm SITTING right HERE! and if it's that hard who needs it?" and he retorted "yeah, but you're high maintenance!" He's not wrong about that, but I don't think it's hard work! Sure, making toast every morning sucks and it's true that I'm the taker in our relationship, but good grief - if it really was hard work who'd want it?

So what do you think - IS marriage (in general) hard work?

2007-11-16 09:50:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous