I want to be with her and touch her everytime I see her and she thinks I'm annoying! My wife thinks I am not normal to want to have sexual intimacy everyday with her and feel her body and caress her everyday. We've been married 15 years and I still want her as much as the first day! She stopped coming on to me after the 3rd year and hasn't made advances or asked me to make love to her more than maybe 4 times since! Who's wrong here?
2007-11-16 12:48:02 · 8 answers · asked by Camelot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have spent time when I won't ask her at all. I don't ask her everyday and don't believe anyone should ask, it should just happen! I have spent some time without asking her for over 2 to 3 weeks sometimes and even then she didn't even bother to ask me if all was ok, or try to do anything to love me besides a morning kiss before going to work.
2007-11-16 13:03:46 · update #1
I'm 40 and she's 45, in great shape, and healthy. I do try to give her massages as I love to touch her, but can't as after a while, massaging her turns me on and then want more, and she just won't let me do more. But I still do massage her or brush her hair when she let's me! She just says that lovemaking is really just for newer couples and after so many years married, it shouldn't be so important. But seems to me that everything else besided me is more important to her.
2007-11-16 13:21:04 · update #2
Your VERY normal and that's great to hear that you want your wife and ONLY her, and she could consider herself the luckiest woman in the world that her husband feels that way.
2007-11-18 11:08:01 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you aren't abnormal to want to love on your wife everyday....but give the woman a break! Try not asking for it every single day because it probably does get aggravating and annoying after awhile. Give her the cold shoulder a little bit and see if she comes around that way. Once she sees that you aren't asking for it all of the time that might peak her interest. Make her "want" it. Good luck!
2007-11-16 20:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by Sherrie F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one is right or wrong. Depending on your ages, women do tend to loose libido in later years. Even menopause can cause a cease in libido altogether. Are their children in the marriage? That alone can cause a decline in a women's sexual activities. It might be helpful for your wife to be checked by a doctor to make sure nothing else is going on.
It's wonderful that you still find her as attractive as when you first met. It's not a secret that a man's libido is more active than a woman's.
Maybe try not asking so much and give her the opportunity to ask you.
2007-11-16 21:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by NanaCat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel so bad for you. My boyfriend is the same way and I loveeeee it!!! We've been together almost 3 years and I never thought I would find anybody like him. Maybe you should try a little bit of counceling together or sit her down and just talk to her, or ask her what she wants...
2007-11-16 23:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by cutiepie88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must be crazy...oh and about the libido going out on us older ladies...DREAM ON HONEY!
I am just as...... if not HORNIER than ever! I just had a baby 2 months ago, and I am primed and ready for the fun! I just hit 40 baby...and I want it all and I want it NOW!
So please, get your facts straight...
Talk to your wife and see if there is something that you can do for her that isn't sexual. Maybe more pleasing, like a massage?
Just a thought....blessings
2007-11-16 21:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are normal and your wife is lucky although she probably doesn't see. it that way. Sorry, but she doesn't deserve you
2007-11-16 20:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Wish I had a man like you!
2007-11-16 20:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by twina246 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They always want the opposite of what they have.
2007-11-16 20:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by csiders30 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋