My husband and I are seperated(I pretty much left him because he is an alcoholic) He decided he didn't want us,so he has a new girlfriend that is pregnant. We had all of our stuff shipped here where I live. He put aside these boxes that had all of my daughters baby clothes,toys etc. He wanted to take them for his new baby. I told him no,because I bought alot of that stuff and so did my parents. I am not going to give another baby my daughters clothes because it is not my problem he did this. He told me if I don't give him the clothes back,he will not pay me anything for our kids until it goes to court.(he hasn't paid me in 6 weeks,he was paying me $100 weekly for 2 kids) I am not giving the clothes to him and that is final. Am I right or wrong? At the same time I feel wrong because we are talking about a innocent baby that didn't ask for this. Why wouldn't he want to pay for his kids? Thanks for your opinions!!
2007-11-16 09:58:54 · 8 answers · asked by lvbrdy4vr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your completely right!!!! Do not give him the stuff you bought for your baby. It's not your fault he went and slept around. If he doesn't give you money, FINE! Take him to court. He will still have to pay either way. Just make note of when he does give you money and when he doesn't. Kind of have like a diary of some sort. Girl, don't be a fool and give him the stuff your family bought. I know I wouldn't!!!!
2007-11-16 10:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by Kristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In many ways, divorce is ironically like a marriage. You'll find that the negotiation and the compromise does not stop after you guys are divorced. The question to ask now is: "Is the baby clothes worth going to court?" Only you know that answer. If I were you, i would give up the clothes and get my money. I know the clothes means a lot to you, but if you don't mind the hassle of taking him to court then go ahead and keep it. My suggest to you is to negotiate and compromise. Just like in a marriage, you'll find those tactic very useful in a divorced relationship.
2007-11-16 18:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everythihg you or HE bought for the baby belongs to the Baby.
Some states it may be considered "community property" and a equal 50-50 share to each of you.
I would go ahead & let him have the stuff, keeping a few sentimental items, and get that court order for temporary custody 7 maintenance until the divorce is finalized.
Then have everything spelled out clearly about child support & visitation.
After all, they are just material items & what matters most is the well being of your child & yourself.
Good Luck,
2007-11-16 18:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda H 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is a jerk, he is neglecting his responsibilities with kids and on top of that he has an other on the way before the divorce. At this time you can't force him to pay, but if the court order goes through he will owe you all those payment.
2007-11-16 18:06:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take out what really matters to you and the things your parents gave you and then let him have the rest-think of it as giving to charity or the goodwill or something-it's just stuff-also contact the child advocacy office you only had to wait for one month
2007-11-16 18:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by suan b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you rather be right, or happy? That is your choice.
My best advise is let him keep the stuff. It is only stuff anyway. It sounds like you are doing a good job moving on, now keep going and do not get bogged down with the little stuff.
Good luck.
2007-11-16 18:03:34 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh your husband has nervous......I would be pissed if I was in your position......Your husband hasn't paid you anything in 6 weeks...what makes you think he will pay you one dime even if you do hand the baby clothes over?? Let him buy new baby clothes for the baby....What a jack*ss!
2007-11-16 18:06:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him the clothes, that's ridiculous!!!!! Run and find yourself a good lawyer, and have his assets seized. Now!
2007-11-16 18:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by Barb G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋