I am not a young inexperienced woman. Ive seen the cheaten and the not over her yet. I have been living with my fiancée for a year and a half. He and I are together (best friends) all the time. The only comparison he does with me to his ex-wife is how much more beautiful, sexual and more of a friend. All they do is barely get along or argue. He has made extraordinary changes to make our relationship work and experienced women know that “changes” for a man means a great deal. So it is perplexing when he calls me Jackie. 4 times the past 3 weeks! (Never durring intimate times - wheew!) They dated for 5 years, married for 5 (happy for 1) and now divorced for 3 years. We have his kids 50% of the time so he is always seeing her & talking on the phone about the kids, so you think that is enough reason to occasionally slip up? Believe me, he knows I am NOT ok with this. He gets frustrated with himself and says it doesn’t mean he wants her back so what the heck do you guys think?
2007-11-16 10:00:29 · 8 answers · asked by Merlin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is not a big deal unless you make it a big deal.
Good luck.
2007-11-16 10:04:39 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's nothing, he loves you and because of the kids he is interacting with the ex. I am sure that's why this happens, I bet when he talks to her he calls her your name. Men are just not good at this, they can't even remember there anniversary date and other things that project automatically for women.
2007-11-16 12:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by Titus12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've almost called my bf a different name (also never during intimacy) and thank God I catch myself. I can't explain why I almost do it but I can say that it has NOTHING to do with any feelings I have for an ex. I don't know why it happens but if he seems to feel bad about it I would let it slide and try to make light of it.
2007-11-16 10:14:09 · answer #3 · answered by laura1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance has called me his ex wife's name 3 times...and I've lost it every time!!! The explanation he gave is that each time he called me her name we had either just talked about her or saw her to get the kids. I don't think it's that they want the ex's back...well, mine would be insane to take her back anyway after their past. I'm not sure what it is to tell you the truth. But you're not the only woman that's happened to. Each time I wonder how he would react if I "accidentally" called him by my ex's name.
2007-11-16 10:13:24 · answer #4 · answered by Tina 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
small matter, they WERE married at one time and `10 years is a long time to be with someone. LET IT GO!!!
2007-11-16 10:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by Sheba 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no excuse. i dont care how much time he spends with her, no excuse. thats wrong! call him a guys name from your past a few times, i bet he will stop
2007-11-16 11:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he still has some unresolved feelings about her and those feelings are cropping up.
2007-11-16 10:12:29 · answer #7 · answered by KI557 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe they've been having more contact with each than u think!
2007-11-16 10:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋