Sometimes when I look at her all I see is one of her Ex's climbing off of her. And yes she was good enought to tell me all about her past. I just want to get over this wall I'm up against, or call it quits because either way will hurt.
2007-11-16 12:23:49 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't "un-ring" a bell. Everyone has a past. Including you.
Just STOP it. Don't dwell on it. Don't allow yourself to even think on it. You can do this. It's your choice.
Let it go! Forget the words she used to tell you of her past. You will have to MAKE yourself do this .. but it IS possible.
Only YOU .. can make it happen for yourself.
If you don't make yourself stop it .. then you will be miserable for ever more.
The choice is yours ... to stop ... or continue on.
2007-11-16 12:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I didn't know much about my wife's sexual past until after we got married. She had kept a journal of some of her experiences that I found and the details were very detailed. My wife always tried to downplay her sexual history, but I found out she wasn't as innocent as I thought she was. She always said her past experiences were bad, but I think she just tells me that to make me feel better. I've been with her for 10 years and it's still hard to forget. I know what you're going through and it does indeed hurt at times.
2007-11-16 22:03:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being very immature here. Were YOU a virgin when you married?
I'm guessing not. But does that bother HER? again, probably not--because she is being mature. What happened before the 2 of you were together might as well be ancient GREECE as far as its relevance to you as a couple goes.
If you call it quits, you're gonna bang into that same wall with the NEXT woman, because the fact is that NOBODY is saving themself just for you.
If necessary, you might need some counseling to help you get over this craziness.
2007-11-16 20:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call it quits? Every relationship has its issues. Don't give up on your marriage without trying to see a counselor first. This is an insecurity you have that can be worked through.
2007-11-16 21:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The focus here is not her past life, but her present. She has chosen to be with you. Her honesty, is her depth of love for you. She wanted to be straight up, no secrets, nothing between you. If you have done things in the past, would you want it held against you? Of course not, neither does she. Don't trouble yourself with who HAD her, be proud that you've GOT her. Honey,,,,,she chose you and loved you so much she even sold out her heart to you. Don't be afraid to love her. You've got a good thing going!
2007-11-16 20:37:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should put your love for your wife first in your relationship and put sex last. Now you have her and if she wanted the others she'd be with them right? You will ruin your relationship if you keep thinking about these ugly things. The devil is putting this into your mind to split you two apart. God is love and love comes from God and if you love your wife you will turn to God and let Him help you not to have these thoughts. Just pray as soon as the thoughts enter your mind.
2007-11-16 20:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by Marina C 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because you have a smaller penis than all her ex's. You also fear that your wife's ex's out-performed you sexually (and they did). You're also frustrated, angry and upset over her having so many men and you so few women (if any at all). That's why.
You want to get over it? Then leave her and don't marry a s!ut. Simple as that.
2007-11-16 20:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by Sophia 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dear leave the past where it belongs in the past...You can't keep beating yourself up over this. Do you want to be alone all your life because every women you meet will have had sex sometime in their life....Or do you want to hold dear this beautiful lady that accepted you for the rest of her life...Think about it
2007-11-16 20:36:15 · answer #8 · answered by wilma s 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dude...if you think about them...then you are trying to compete against them...and if you do that you will lose each time..
she's with you ,not them...your the one she wants not them..and if you can not get past that...then you have a problem...I know my wife had sex with other men in her past...but she is with me...she wants me..nobody else...and that makes me feel good...So that makes me the winner...
If you leave your wife because of her past...that's wrong.. you are judging her...what about your past...would you like people to judge you from your choice's in life...You need to quit thinking about the past..and move forward...If I thought about what people ,hurt me in the past..I would be in a bad mood all the time..It's not what happen back then...it's all about what's happen now...
2007-11-16 20:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is indeed very difficult to struggle. If you don't mind her past, just forget about it. It will not do good for both party. After all, marry is a long life process.
2007-11-16 20:29:23 · answer #10 · answered by Kenji Peterpan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋