Marriage & Divorce - 16 November 2007

I've been married for about 3 years and my husband has always been an aggressive guy, but recently we have been having physical fights.

Yeah that's bad but the lastest incident has me concerned. We were fighting again and when he finally let me go he started beating on his head and face w/ his fists to the point where he drew blood. Then he started screaming at the top of his lungs about the circus and a princess.

There's other stuff too like him grabbing my face and staring at me really hard and then saying "Your face has the number 7 written all over it." And then touching my face like he actually sees something on it.

I know there must be something wrong with him mentally but I don't know what to do. I want to get him help but he won't listen to me. I know we might need an intervention but I don't know if I should get family involved or leave them out of it.

I've never seen this behavior from him before. I wanna save my marriage but I also want to feel safe. Any Ideas?

2007-11-16 06:34:33 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

does the court base child support on his income only? or he and his fience's combined income?

2007-11-16 06:33:03 · 16 answers · asked by Sugar 5

A letter arrives @ our home, for my wife, addressed to her "maiden name". I have asked her multiple times about her purchasing a second cell phone, she replies, "No". The letter was from a cell phone company, different from our current provider; actually from a Pre-pay company. We have been married for over 10 years. At the same address for about 8 years. Should I be suspicious of this, or count it as mailing error? Help me out...ladies.

2007-11-16 06:30:43 · 9 answers · asked by 2blessed2bdissed 2

Why/why not?
Would your spouse* let you sleep with another for a million dollars?

*boyfriend/girlfriend, fiance/fiancee, partner, significant other,

2007-11-16 06:21:39 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous

...be a better wife to a womanizing, selfish, arrogant, stubborn, pig-headed man, who cares about no one but himself? I hear all kinds of people say "Well, if you would have been a better spouse...". I cannot try any harder. My will is gone. Over the past few years I have done nothing but change, hoping that one day, just maybe, he would love me again. It doesn't matter what I do - I have lost 20 lbs., firmed up my abs and buttocks, cut my hair, taken better care of myself - everything for him. And what does he do? Be-little me and yell at me when he is frustrated (he does this to the kids, too). What kind of monster have I been married to for almost 14 years? He knows what he has to do to make ME happy - a little more affection. That's all I have asked for - but he says that since he wasn't raised that way he can't do it. What kind of BS is that? Ok, sorry about ranting and raving, but seriously, why is always the fault of the one who is being cheated on? Please help!!!

2007-11-16 06:18:42 · 28 answers · asked by raininonsunday 3

I am a 25 year old widow dating a soon to be 50 man. He has 2 kids 16 and 21. I have no kids but want them, when we talk about it he never gives me a strait answer. Will it work? We've been together for 3.5 years and are very happy together other than the kids and marriage conversation. Help?

2007-11-16 06:18:04 · 36 answers · asked by 4fun 1

My soon-to-be ex says it's 15% total, and that his offer for around 18% is extremely generous. My mom says that's the standard per child, not for both children.

Also, he wants to directly pay certain bills, instead of giving me the money. I'm actually okay with that, because I am REALLY bad at managing money. However, I'm a little worried that he would just consider his child support payments would be smaller if the different things he's paying for go down in cost.

He's offering to pay my rent, provided it's not over a certain amount, my car payment (same stipulation) and one of the preschool/afterschool payments a month, and the kids will stay on his health insurance policy. If I trade in my car for a cheaper model, move to a cheaper apartment, remarry or when the preschool/afterschool tuition payments drop, he would be paying less child support.

Advise?

2007-11-16 06:16:57 · 11 answers · asked by CrazyChick 7

I'm going through a divorce. I believe my spouse has money hidden away. The person has to be skilled in looking for money in different areas, places, etc. I live in the Pasadena area. Help.

2007-11-16 06:15:57 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you dated a guy that was the sweetest person on earth, treated you well, had a good job, made you laugh, had a good time with but you didn't necessarily think he was "as intelligent" as you were, would you date him/marry him?

2007-11-16 06:14:51 · 29 answers · asked by sunfir26 3

"A" is the daughter of a man (Say M). "M" has a real sister (say S) who was a divorcee but later got married to a man (Say W) who was a widower. "W" had 2 sons from his 1st marriage (Say X & Y). Would a marriage between A & X be legal?

2007-11-16 06:10:51 · 14 answers · asked by Drizn 1

These two are so often lumped together . But, jeez, choosing a mate seems so much more complicated and difficult when you throw kids into the mix. I think I'd like to just find a girl and then think about kids later.

2007-11-16 06:04:32 · 12 answers · asked by LG 7

my husband of 18 months recenlty met a girl online and has never actually met her in person, but they talk on the phone all the time and email. when i found out i made him move out. it has been 3 months and he has come back twice to try and work things out and then a few days later he is right back on the phone with her. he has not filed for a divorce, we still share all the bills. i recently wrote him a letter telling him that if she is what he wanted then he needed to set me free and the next day he called saying he wanted to be friends. he loves and cares about me but he's not in love with me, he has strong feelings for this other girl. since the letter he has called or texted me everyday. the other day i went to counseling through our church and he asked me about it and i told him i was going so i could be a better wife to my next husband and he hasn't spoke to or text me since then. i am so confused and i don't know what to do or thing. any help?

2007-11-16 05:56:34 · 35 answers · asked by nicspring272 1

My husband cheated on me with his "babymama." She's the one that told me about them having sex. He told me it was a lie. But he never asked her why she told me that. He said she was a B**** and he hated her and that he would never cheat on me with her. I put him out. Now he's calling her conversating with her like nothing happened. Yet still wanting to be with me. What the hell is going on?

2007-11-16 05:52:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-16 05:51:44 · 21 answers · asked by girlplease 1

I recently returned from a business trip and my husband kept saying not to cheat and that all women are the same and other verbally abusive comments. That was last Saturday and he hasn't made it right.
He tends to mend our fights with make-up sex but Im not buying into it this time. I'm done with this cycle of abuse and his insecurity issues from his ex cheating on him years ago. So its been about six days since we've been intimate and I feel like he is just out to satisfy himself and I feel used.

He walked into the room while I was asleep last night, made noise to awake me then stated, Oh don't worry I don't need you I already had someone suck my *beep* and walked out. I was left cut deep. He has said this once before a few years ago and apologized saying he wasn't serious and that he wanted to hurt me and get my attention. Im so confused. I want to end my marriage due to his mistreatment and I deserve to be treated as a lady and not his whore wife. Any suggestions

2007-11-16 05:50:42 · 19 answers · asked by anabanana 2

I'm a married woman, whom would never cheat on my husband ever.I love him more then life itself,we have a great relationship too.I mean we've been married now 12 yrs., so yeah certain aspects of the relationship have fizzed somewhat if you know what I mean, at times our sexlife is mindblowing at times it's not.Which is pretty normal for as long as we've been marriedbut there have been times when thoughts of cheating have crossed my mind.Why?And is this normal?Like I said I love my man and will NEVER cheat but I have fantasized about it.Once again is this normal or is this a sign of bad things to come?

2007-11-16 05:32:52 · 28 answers · asked by catlover30 2

Hi, I have just found out my parents are getting a divorce, and although this really sucks i need to know wat is going to happen and what i would have to do being 15 years of age. Will i have to go to court if that happens? What will i be ask to say? What else will occur. If anyone knows or has any awnsers to this or anything else that will really help if you can please inform me. Thank you very much

2007-11-16 05:31:48 · 6 answers · asked by lordyugi91 1

Please give me a advice wat to do with my husband?
my husband thinks me i m fat and ugly and always tells me to become lean.that s not a problem but alwaays looks at his frds wife with lust in his eyes even that girl behaves in a different way in front of my husband she always comes to my home and speaks to my husband.once wen i m away for work my husband is working from home she came to my home wen her husband is away for workthen.i found ithis out and asked my husband for wat sake she came .he said that she came to give him the tablets as he is feeling head ache.i m suspecting both of them .wat would have happened am i really thinking in a wrong way or they have some bad relation? i can t understand anything wat to do? please help me


ther is one thing i just hide from you .she is my husband best friend s wife.they are best frds from 10 years.before marrying me his best frd once stayed home and sent his wife and his father in law to movie with my husband.they are so close to my husband in that way.i m just married to my husband 9 months back.now tell me the answer am i suspecting or i do need leave this topic and reduceweight to stay happy with my husband

2007-11-16 05:31:44 · 17 answers · asked by free2dream 1

2007-11-16 05:21:23 · 18 answers · asked by number7ministries1977 1

my b/f and i want to wait till we get married , to "u know what", he has been getting really frustrated with me lately because he is not getting any... i already told him to be patient... and he trys... but now we are both afraid that we will not find each other attractive in the future when we do get married.. we've been together for 3 1/2 years... what can we do?

2007-11-16 05:17:10 · 20 answers · asked by Me! 2

2007-11-16 05:16:16 · 6 answers · asked by whttigers3 2

Sometimes I think my husband is emotionally abusive. I do something almost everyday that either makes him mad, hurts his feelings, or aggrivates him. He says that if I could control my temper and "come to the table with a better attitude" that we wouldn't fight near so much. But, there are somethings and sometimes where I feel that he is out of line. He will say things that hurt me and then he gets mad when I get upset. I'm so confused! After the fight, he makes me believe that it IS my fault that we fight for days on end. But outsiders of the relationship think he's a controlling, abusive, jerk. But, he's so smart that I take the blame because he seems to have a good point. How do you know if it's you or your spouse's problem? (This is his 2nd marriage and my first. The first one ended because they couldn't get along either)

2007-11-16 05:14:08 · 54 answers · asked by Hick Chick 2

2007-11-16 05:10:21 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2

My best friend of over 12 years has recently started having an affair. My problem is I know both of the women involved, neither know that I know, but its very uncomfortable when we are all together. You see, the woman he is having the affair is, his mother in law. We all live in the same sub division, hang out quite often, BBQ's, movie night, etc... What should I do?

2007-11-16 05:09:55 · 23 answers · asked by Stephen 5

2007-11-16 05:09:45 · 35 answers · asked by parkdad73 1

with their mother in law? how do you deal with it? i'm goin crazy!

2007-11-16 05:08:57 · 13 answers · asked by *KiM* 6

My husband and I are living in our first place together .. we are young, and semi-struggling financially. We live in a small studio apartment in the ghetto. The neighborhood is very, very dangerous. The 6 month lease we signed is coming to an end shortly, and I desperately want to move. The rent here is the cheapest around, so my husband wants to stay here to save up the most money possible for our future.
While I understand this motive, we might not have a future if we keep living here! He doesn't want me ever exiting the apartment for anything because of the neighborhood. Theirs a grocery store right up the block, but I can't go to it when we're out of something. I have to wait for him to get home at the end of the day.
It's basically like being trapped in a miserable little jail cell all day every day. I only want to move up like $50 more in rent a month, but he's afraid of the moving costs like a new deposit somewhere else. Should I not complain about staying another 6 months?

2007-11-16 05:04:47 · 20 answers · asked by Mary 2

Do most men shy away from women who have been thru a divorce and have children?

I have a little boy and am going thru a divorce. I'm afraid of life after the fact. No one will want me. I have a kid. I'm in no rush. However I'd like to pursue an old friendship with a man I knew before I got married. He was sweet but had to break up the friendship when my boyfriend (now ex hubby) entered the picture back then. I don't wish to scare any guy off. Any advice would be great. THANK YOU!!!

2007-11-16 05:02:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

when she moves out (later today) I will give her one of the cars we own (its the paid for car)
I will also pay for 6 months insurance on the car
she can take anything from the house that she wants, with the exception of my clothes,if there are things she wants I will keep them for her at no charge
I will assume all debt that we aquired in the marriage
and I will keep the house with the mortgage
her mother keeps insisting that I also pay her $1500 per month in alimony until she re-marries (if ever)
and keeps accusing me of being freedy and selfish
we do not have children between us and have been married 10 years

2007-11-16 04:58:11 · 31 answers · asked by 1 free American 5

Three years of putting up with my husbands ex and finally I blow my top and tell her off. Now she is making a big deal and told the kids they are now mad at me. Keep in mind, I didn't address this to the kids but to her. She brought them into it.

2007-11-16 04:57:20 · 13 answers · asked by peach 4