Three years of putting up with my husbands ex and finally I blow my top and tell her off. Now she is making a big deal and told the kids they are now mad at me. Keep in mind, I didn't address this to the kids but to her. She brought them into it.
2007-11-16 04:57:20 · 13 answers · asked by peach 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
slap them
2007-11-16 05:07:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Something is really wrong with her for discussing the issue you both are experiencing with the kids. That's crazy. And why isn't your husband saying anything about this. I mean he should have set her straight along time ago. And i hate to say this because children are innocent, but don't worry about those children, i know you probably love them but they r not yours. Especially if they are teenager, if they are younger it will just blow off.
2007-11-16 13:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by blessed is me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One...screw the kids. They're kids...they'll get over it and in fact...they're kids so frankly they haven't an opinion worth listening to anyway when it comes to step mothers and ex wives.
Two....your husband obviuosly has no balls. Especially since you have to become involved in what should be a situation he should have addressed some time ago.
2007-11-16 13:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't bring it up to the kids. Don't even mention it around them unless they ask about it. If they ask about it be open and honest with them. They are angry at you right now b/c who knows what the mother told them happened...which is sad. Just be the same person you are and they will come around and realize that they shouldn't be angry at you over that.
Set clear cut boundaries for the relationship with his ex. Tell your husband that it is up to him to address issues with her and let him do that. If he won't simply ignore her unless it comes to the children. Don't even entertain anything from her. Seems to work with my fiance's ex quite well.
2007-11-16 13:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by Tina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is weak and probably has yet to get over her ex. You just try to let the kids know how you feel about them ,they will see who the real bad person was. Don't fret there is nothing you can do just let time do its job and try to stay strong, make your man stand up for you with the kids though!
2007-11-16 13:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your husbands place to keep the peace.
Have him address the issue. He should be the one dealing with her anyway... IF they are his kids with her, he has the burden of trying to keep the peace in all directions. Sometimes men like to throw their hands up like they are not responsible, but THEY ARE!!
2007-11-16 13:17:05 · answer #6 · answered by All the way back... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should have never done that. Have your husband talk to the kids, and explain to them "what happened", but not any more than they NEED to know. It's disgusting when a parent drags innocent children into adult disputes !!! Good Luck!!
2007-11-16 13:08:56 · answer #7 · answered by casper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it drop. You have the husband. Be there for the kids. Be patient. Kids can see through words and find the truth of our actions. If you continue to be kind to them, they'll see it.
2007-11-16 13:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by luckyme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's wrong to put adult problems on the kids that's for sure. I'd feel better I finally got to tell her off and go about my business.
2007-11-16 13:05:58 · answer #9 · answered by shellshell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she brought the kids into it then you have legal repurcussions most laws specifically state that there has to bea non confrontational atmosphere conducive fo rvisitation or something to that effect her bringing the kids into it shouldnt be done
2007-11-16 14:13:11 · answer #10 · answered by the_orc_1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
compose yourself and never let someone like that get to you again. now you know what she does. simply tell them, you finally had enough but it has nothing to do with them. they are more important than getting into it with her.
2007-11-16 13:08:09 · answer #11 · answered by mazotti1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋