Marriage & Divorce - 16 November 2007

2007-11-16 09:38:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm just tired of being ingle, with no boyfriend. people say I'm cute, smart, nice....... But what should I do to meet guys and have a relationship that might lead to marriage. I'm so bored. I joined a club, went to bookstores, coffe shops, took classes. What's up with me ?????
I'm so bored, and scared that I'm gonna be by myself for the rest of my life I wanna have a family
Thanks for advices from wise people

2007-11-16 09:32:15 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife says I dont turn her on and I ask her what I can do but she sayd figure it out and I have tried too but it doesnt work. What can I do?

2007-11-16 09:21:09 · 15 answers · asked by Stevie 2

Please don't take this question as silly. It is somewhat difficult to control myself. I am afraid that I will get attracted to other girls after marriage ,may be after a period of time .. What should I do to avoid such incidents ? I am 29 now , planning to get married soon.

2007-11-16 09:20:17 · 14 answers · asked by tough_guy 2

I have a male neighbor thats about 60 years old, retired with a good pension. My wife visits and talks to him a lot. He visits her at my home but seems to always leave before or when I get home. Also, they sometimes like to have a few drinks together to the point of her being trashed when I get home on a few occasions.

Now I dont want to jump to any conclusions but what is going on here? My wife and I are both in our mid 30's by the way.

2007-11-16 09:16:02 · 10 answers · asked by cougar_mccxxi 2

My husband used to adore me before, but he no longer values me, says wtever I do is my duty and job but wtever he does is an act of generosity over me and i should be grateful for it.
He wants me to compromise on every level and but doesnt want to compromise himself at all. he refuses to forgive and forget

Pls dont suggest tht i leave him and move on, i need to get his head straight .....so realistic ans pls....

2007-11-16 09:15:33 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it normal for your wife of four years to refuse to have sex with you when you're alone with her at home (no period or physical problems involved)? What would this mean?

2007-11-16 09:11:38 · 17 answers · asked by cougar_mccxxi 2

Please.............................
I know she still loves me.I can't live without her.
Please help me...I have not eaten for 3 days...sleeping peels can't make me sleep,too.I know that she has not eaten for 3 days...I am worrying too much about her....she has switched off her cell phone....
can u scrap her on orkut?
her profile is:
http://www.orkut.com/Scrapbook.aspx?uid=6172854952689891403

i m serious........and i know she is awaken right now............I can't scrap her as she has told me not to scrap her....her exams r coming in a week....I dont want to spoil her results....she is too much upset......i want her to be fresh before her exams...please help us to meet again......I am requesting u......

2007-11-16 09:08:24 · 8 answers · asked by Bhavik Koladiya Delta Airlines 2

My husband and I got married in August. We are both 25. For work, he does summer sales and makes about $60-80,000 in one summer but he's gone from the end of April-end of August. The rest of the year he goes to school and works part time. I have a good job with benefits and 401k and all of that and I make about 50k a yr. This year, his company offered to let him go out Jan-Apr and he would like to do that. But he wants me to quit my job to go with him. I think that is stupid. He makes more than me but his job doesn't have benefits or anything like that for our future. Plus, this is the last year he is doing sales like this. He says I can always get another job and he expects me to quit so I can move to another state with him for 4 months while he is in mtgs from 9-noon then selling all day until 9 or 10. This is really causing some major fights. I feel lucky to have this job

Am I being unreasonable here? Of course I will miss him but it just doesn't seem to make sense.

2007-11-16 09:05:36 · 21 answers · asked by Leah 3

would u trade ur life 4 another life?? i wouldnt

2007-11-16 09:05:05 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

THeres this guy tht I have been talking to that claims that he wants to get a divorce but he is still living at home because he can't afford to move out, and still pay for everything........he says tht he wants to be involved but kind of also says (at other times) that he can't imagine being away from his two year old. When I bring to his attention that the stituation seems like a bleak one for me.....he says that he won't have me waiting forever its just complacated......I can only imagine whats going on in that house, I mean we talk on the phone constantly and he "says" that he is sleeping in another room. Can all of this be possible?

2007-11-16 09:03:26 · 7 answers · asked by femmefatale_2804 2

2007-11-16 09:03:03 · 18 answers · asked by frontbutt22 1

My husband is an E7 in the military and we decided to live apart till he retired. With his BAH he pays for our home and the Bills ( he gets $2k for BAH = overseas). Anyhow, I have a job that only pays 30k a year so i dont make ends meet with my paycheck (to many bills and a 2 kids to take care of on my own). I have been asking my husband for money but he feels that i should be able to to take care of us 3 with my paycheck. He has two other kids and pays them 800 dollars in child support. I have asked him to send us some extra money for trips (kids are in traveling sports) and he refuses and only sends me money for entry fee's. So the base pay he keeps and we see nothing, does anyone else see something wrong with this or is it just me or am I better off getting child support? He insists he pays for everything and yes he does but its because of us that he gets paid that extra money for our home.

2007-11-16 09:00:38 · 4 answers · asked by Liz 2

Ok...
well I geuss I'm trying to be christian but I have horibble habits!!!
lieing and cursing are my most horrible ones and It feels like a burdon to try to be christian ...
To be honest I really dont wanna go to hell
and I'm very scared of my faith...
I'm 12 and feel like this is effecting my life and am scared to ask my mum or dad these qestions cus there not big time christians...My church is 2 or 3 hours long and horribly boring...
so I try to avoid going to church or atleast that one...
when I started going to another church for younger people my grandma wouldnt let me go back...
please ...I need advice!

2007-11-16 08:59:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am from a very close family....hubby is not. My husband and I alternate family functions each year. I get Thanksgiving this year and he gets Christmas. This year my family is getting all the extended family together for Thanksgiving (aunts, uncles, cousins/kids, grandparents, great grandparents). This is approx 25 people (4 generations) in 4 different houses and some of us have to travel. I warned my husband prior to marriage that I am very close to my family and that I am used to spending a lot of time with them and he assured me he understood. Now that we're married, he never has time to deal with the travel/stress of family functions and I rarely get to see my extended family. For some it's been 3+ years. He is already complaining about how miserable TG is going to be and saying it's MY JOB to make it comfortable for him. I offered to stay in a hotel, but he's too cheap. He seems to think I can somehow "control" 20 other people and have everything to his way. What can I do?

2007-11-16 08:58:33 · 8 answers · asked by Amy27 4

My wife is open Minded and probably wouldn't mind to be involved in a threesome but I dont know how to start talking to her about it.

2007-11-16 08:57:42 · 11 answers · asked by SOL 1

My husband and I have been married a little over a year. Before we got married we both had bachelor/bachelorette parties.
We talked about what we both would be doing. We agreed that both of us would not go to a strip club. We both wanted to respect our relationship and made a decision together. Neither of us had never been to one and I at least had no desire to go to one.
I had my party had lots of clean fun and did not go to a strip club. The following weekend my husband had one and he and his friends went to a strip club. To this day this annoys me to no end. We made a decision as a couple to respect each other and he didn't. I know guys go to strip clubs all the time...and honestly I would not care if he wanted to go to one and we went together. but the fact is he didn't respect our decision as a couple. .I still have some resentment over this situation. How do I move past this??

Serious answers only please

2007-11-16 08:51:50 · 10 answers · asked by Sara 2

He went on vacation last week and I got really depressed. When he got home he asked me how I'd been and I said "Pretty bad." He didn't ask me to elaborate or if I was okay. I've cried for the past three days right in front of him. I'm having some health problems I need to talk about with him, but nothing I do seems to get his attention. Today he handed me some kleenex while I cried, but then turned on the TV while I sobbed for half an hour. Any suggestions on what I can do to get him to notice me?

2007-11-16 08:48:22 · 24 answers · asked by Jody 6

2007-11-16 08:40:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband and i had been together for three years total and where good friends before then . Then I married him about a year ago he is 22 and i am 28 when we got together i had my tubes tied he begged me to untie them and have a baby with him so i did. I was his world and he lead me to believe the baby would be also. But now that the baby is here he still wants to run like we have no responsibility I am a stay at home mom and i have no time to myself at all no friends or anything i dont go anywhere without my husband . But him on the other hand still acts like he is single and free not by cheating or anything but by always wanting to leave me at home with the baby to do what he wants and when i mention me going somewhere and him staying at home with the baby he gets mad its like he dont think he should do this because he works or because he is a man and i am a women and its my job . So my main question is am I selfish because he seems to think so.

2007-11-16 08:39:04 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been married for 8 years. We are best friends, have incredible sex and our relationship is the envy of our friends. But the last six months he has been growing more and more distant from me. I know he has stress at work, but that has always been the case.

We used to have sex 4-5 times a week, now it is only 1-2 and only if I get things started. He never turns me down, but never acts interested unless I openly propostion him.

In addition, it is important to note that he has been watching porn even when I'm home or available for sex. He has always watched porn, I do too sometimes, so that is not the issue. It is an issue now because he has energy for porn, and not me! I'm not prude, I am in good shape, I am good looking and I LOVE sex. We have done everything he watches in porn and more.

SO what is wrong? Why porn when I'm home? Why this lack of interest? He says he is too tired, that it isn't me, but I am afraid I'm losing him. What can I do?

2007-11-16 08:33:13 · 19 answers · asked by Heather L 2

my ex wife is 24 and decide to end our marriage because a co worker who is 30- 34 used to listen to our personal problems and she told me that she started having feelings for him, i divorced her its been a year and some times i still think about her but not on the same way love is gone but it hurts knowing that my 5 year marriage ended that way.

2007-11-16 08:32:49 · 27 answers · asked by JUAN C 1

he has 8 wives and 26 kids
whats a (un)proud mama to do!?

2007-11-16 08:25:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

we were married for 2 years and have a four yr. with medical problems.. i don't know if i love him, i don't know what to do?

2007-11-16 08:23:46 · 22 answers · asked by m_vanness1979 1

should i tell my wife i cheated on her

2007-11-16 08:23:14 · 9 answers · asked by bar m 1

I have some evidence that she might be cheating, and that its been a problem in the past. I have alraedy asked her about it a lot, and she says nothing happened at all and to trust her. Its hard though seeing what i found written about this guy. she said things like i have a crush on him, i feel like a school girl again. In nervous/excited and all the inbetween. Did he tell you what he said, i hope he likes me, he seemed to. Those are just a couple of things. Anyway,she already got real mad at me cuz i kept bugging her about it even though she told me the first time. What do you all think, and how can i approach her in a non offending way to get the real truthful answers out of her?

2007-11-16 08:22:23 · 17 answers · asked by supremyecy 1

I'm married, but some guys don't notice or care ; so when they hit on me, should I ignore them, put them in their place or what? I smile alot so maybe they get the wrong idea, but I am very in love with my husband and think its disrespectful for them to say something sexual to me.

2007-11-16 08:17:47 · 25 answers · asked by casey308 2

I have the biggest trust issues involving men....i never trust men more than 50%....not my husband,not my brothers,even my dad....the worst right now is my husband...he's running his own busniness & is constantly flying off somewhere for the past 5 months. sometimes,i only got to see him once a week. he doesnt talk bout his work much, he rarely call when he's away, he always has this weird look on his face when i ask him things regarding his work or the people he works with....plus the tone of his voice is soooo not convincing. I'm having the hardest time trying to believe him...i keep wondering whether he's having an affair or not?....Please help me!!! What do i do?

2007-11-16 08:14:28 · 25 answers · asked by ladylike 2

married with kids and 15 years my junior. Age doesn't matter but the married part should. What would you do?

2007-11-16 08:06:27 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

more info for question asked earlier...
she says she doesnt want anything serious. then she says she does. she never brings them to her house. when this happens the kids are with their dad or family. she takes good care of them, mostly on her own! she may just be getting crazy after a life full of being married, to a loser. but she has went home with someone she didnt know. that definately worries me. she plays like she is strong and never gets hurt. but i know her. i think she hurts alot more than she lets on. thanks for all your answers.

previous question i am explaining:
i really like her. we get along well. she has been through alot. she was with the same guy from 14 to 26. since then they have split. they have 3 kids. she started dating. its been about a year since. it seems like almost every weekend she calls with someone new she has slept with. i dont know what to say. dont want to be rude to her. but i have told her that she wont find anyone by doing that and she needs to hold off for a while when she first meets someone. she hasnt taken my advice and i dont know what else to tell her. shes being used and wont even admit it. she acts like shes the player when she really isnt...what should i do???

2007-11-16 08:06:16 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous