I have some evidence that she might be cheating, and that its been a problem in the past. I have alraedy asked her about it a lot, and she says nothing happened at all and to trust her. Its hard though seeing what i found written about this guy. she said things like i have a crush on him, i feel like a school girl again. In nervous/excited and all the inbetween. Did he tell you what he said, i hope he likes me, he seemed to. Those are just a couple of things. Anyway,she already got real mad at me cuz i kept bugging her about it even though she told me the first time. What do you all think, and how can i approach her in a non offending way to get the real truthful answers out of her?
2007-11-16 08:22:23 · 17 answers · asked by supremyecy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have evidence, I would confront her. I don't think there is a non-offending way. I mean, if she is cheating, then technically, she is offending you, in a HUGE way, so why should you be wary of approaching her, especially if you say there were problems in the past... If she gets angry, you should just tell her that you are angry yourself for having to question the faithfulness of your wife...
2007-11-16 08:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by Val 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow!!! I think you have all the answers you need. Most likely she will deny it anyhow. Truth is, your wife is unfaithful, and nobody deserves that. Don't trust her. Some people can change, but only if they want to. I honestly could never stay in a relationship where my trust was betrayed. If you do by some reason feel the need to stay with this woman which I hope you don't, counseling would be the first step. Good luck.
2007-11-16 16:29:21 · answer #2 · answered by peyton31602 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think she may be cheating, approach her but don’t bring up the cheating. Ask her if everything is okay, and tell her that she’s been acting different lately. Give her examples of how her behavior has changed, and tell her that you want to know and understand if there’s a reason.
You want to open the lines of communication and encourage her to open up about what is troubling her in the relationship, and proceed from there.
2007-11-16 16:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by PRGfUSMC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Present your evidence to her and ask her to exlain it. Don't ask "Are you cheating on me" right off the bat.
Show her the "evidence" you have and ask "What is this all about?" or something to that effect.
Bring up the word cheating only when nessessary. That word "cheating" and an acusation will not get a serious response because that person will immediately go on the defensive.
basically if you present evidence, with out acussing her with the word "cheating" and she tries to lie her way out of it, you'll know (if you KNOW your wife)
2007-11-16 16:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by Sean C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two are
really not communicating very
well. She has some needs she is not telling you about and she feels you can't meet those needs. What does a wife mean to you? A housekeeper/a mother/a bed partner?
Something just is not right
here. I think you may not
be satisfying her sexually.
She's looking elsewhere for
something.
2007-11-16 23:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to have visual proof to throw in her lap that you know she is cheating ,dont just go in and accuse her of doing it have cold hard facts , if not its just her word vs yours
throw the evidence right in her face and dont ask her tell her to explain this
she'll get defensive try to turn it around like its your fault you werent there for her that the reason she swayed from you
rebut that with all you had to do was talk to me, if you were working to much and you werent home she was lonely.
Marriages Fail nowadays because couples do not live by the TLC rules of marriage granted alot of couples dont know the rules but here they are
TLC is
TRUST
LOYALTY
COMMUNICATION
you need all 3 of those to have a successful marriage
2007-11-16 16:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by Dan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her boyfriend to get off her and talk to her about it. If both you and her boyfriend can't satisfy her, maybe you should put a third shift on and work her a $ $ around the clock. But seriously, it may be a passing fling. She may love her boyfriend, bur be IN LOVE with you. Sometimes sex is only physical.
2007-11-16 16:31:02 · answer #7 · answered by maxinebootie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first make copyies of what you found
and put them up just incase you end up in court about it.
two just ask her and then show her(the copies not the original) of what you found from there you either work it out if your strong enought or you move on but either way give your self some space to clear the mind and heart
2007-11-16 19:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by 10tolife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know dude you might have to dream up a plan to catch her if you really think its true. now for me i would ask her only one tIime. if she wants some other bum then she needs to go on and be with him and leave me alone. then i would let it go unless some other proof emerged. im not stupid, and you're probably not either. but you cant live your life being insecure. only confidence wins. so don't worry. just go about your business and keep your eyes and ears open. if she's cheating she will hang herself and don't be a puss.
2007-11-16 16:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by slickric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is hiding it from you then she will never tell you. If the evidence you have is very condemning then the only thing you can do is tell her to move out or you move out because of what she has done.
2007-11-16 16:31:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋