my ex wife is 24 and decide to end our marriage because a co worker who is 30- 34 used to listen to our personal problems and she told me that she started having feelings for him, i divorced her its been a year and some times i still think about her but not on the same way love is gone but it hurts knowing that my 5 year marriage ended that way.
2007-11-16 08:32:49 · 27 answers · asked by JUAN C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be happy it ended that way because it could of ended worse.
You could of ended up married for 20 years and then she could of pulled this on you. Or She could of left you for another woman. There's a lot worse. I think you need to accept that fact that it just wasn't meant to be and don't let it bring down your self esteem. She's not really what you need because she would need you too. Enjoy your single life now and don't rush in to anything. You'll get through this. I did. My ex left me for his boss that was 10 years older than me and him WHILE I was pregnant and we had been getting along fine. Karma caught up to his butt though. Now that she's 3 times bigger than him has cheated on him and kicked his *** (not that I wished anything bad for him). 11 years later and they still are together. Yay for them. I have me a wonderful hubby and wonderful family. Now I look back and can't believe I was ever with the guy, yuck! Then I turn to my hubby and mmmmmmmmm :)
You'll get through it!
2007-11-16 09:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you were both very young and there was a lack of trust in the relationship from her. So she wentto this "co worker" and spoke about YOUR personal problems to him when she should have been talking them through with you. I f Iw ere you I would just try and move on as hard as it maybe , the love is gone so you say and soon so will the hurt. Try to think bright thoughts and that life goes on, I am sure she has definately moved on ...possibly with him am I right? You didnt really have much of a solid marriage in the 1st place for her to confide in another man and then to " grow feelings for him" truth is and your not going to like it.... she probably slept with him and he was only looking out for HIs best interest!. So be it...... You dont need to worry anymore there are plenty of other women out there and you never know you may just find someone who will love you for you and has no problems confiding in YOU!.....Good luck!
2007-11-16 08:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by littlemisssaigon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how long ago you divorced her. A rule of thumb is that it takes at least a month of grieving for each year of marriage. Obviously it changes from person to person, but to mourn the loss of a relationship is normal. Work through your feelings of loss and sadness and, yes, anger too. Then you will be in a better position to find a better person to start over with. Good luck to you!
2007-11-16 08:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by Rebeckah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just chalk it up to experience, and learn from it, she was not the right one, there is another one out there for you.
Do not dwell on this situtation, and get out, go out with friends, and get active, I know it hurts, but you have got to get over this, and know that there is another one out there for you.
Honey, there are plenty of marriages that ended in worser ways than yours, and if this is still bothering you, then I would join a group that meets during the week that has divorced people in it and talk to them about how they felt and how and what they are doing to make their lives easier now!
Talking to people who have shared in the same pain like you have and are going through really helps, that way you know you are not the only person out there suffering.
2007-11-16 08:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you'll probably always feel that way about her. It's going to be hard to let go of her, even though you know it's all for the best. However, you need to move forward and just get on with your life as best you can. You might need to let the woman that you share your life with from this point forward how much you loved your ex...because as someone involved with someone hung up with their ex, I'd want to know.
Hang in there and just do the best you can! It's not fair the way she left you, but what's happened has happened.
2007-11-16 08:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would...well if u kno me then u now i can mostly be cold hearted so do jaw drop on my now...
i would put on some rubber gloves and then put on fuzzy gloves so no hand prints are found and then easily i would shoot her in the head after tracking her down then burn the weapon and have the remains of the gun washed into the ocean. BTW the bullet in her head....or in the crime scene i would have installed by the person i bought the gun from so he would be blamed if any1. and later on i would admit to having fun doin it if i had a trial and got away with it....
no i would just find some1 else....although that idea was kinda good.................
2007-11-16 08:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about it. ur lucky it was only 5 years instead of 50 years. maybe she wasn't the right girl for you. if she left you for some older guy, than maybe she wasn't worth it. it's hard, but you have to learn to get over it and start a new relationship with another special someone, if you find them. if you find that special someone, she might be better than your ex-wife. sometimes, if you want, it could be better to fly solo for awhile. your ex-wife fell out of love, and you would just have to learn to accept that.
2007-11-16 08:40:24 · answer #7 · answered by ivory_plr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it is time for you to learn from your appearent mistake of not listening in the first place. My freind if you dont listen to your wife I promise you someone else will!! See what I mean?
2007-11-17 00:43:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your socks smell, you wash them instead of throwing them out and you have thrown out your own wife of 5 years. Haste is going waste. Paste the situation with taste and try to reconcile with her. Old is gold, new may be skew if not dew to cool you to satisfaction.
2007-11-16 08:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by sv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice is that you forget and you start being happy and you look for someone who really deserves you and you learn from your mistakes he won her love and her everything becuase you were either not supportive or you would just argue to much it was not ment to be and you need to understand that is was not ment to be and stop feeling bad learn for your mistakes and find soemone who really deserves a man like you.
2007-11-16 08:38:17 · answer #10 · answered by Lost 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋