we were married for 2 years and have a four yr. with medical problems.. i don't know if i love him, i don't know what to do?
2007-11-16 08:23:46 · 22 answers · asked by m_vanness1979 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You divorced him for a reason don't set your self back up for heart ache!
2007-11-16 08:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by PRGfUSMC 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, think about it.
You have but one life, one trip around the ride. Is it worth sacrificing that one life for money or to make things a little easier in that instance.
I will say this....life without love is not a life worth living. If you go back to a man you dont love and into a relationship where you can never truely trust him, how can you possibly be happy?
I have heard many times people say stay together for the kids. Now while I understand that the kids feelings need to be taken into consideration, it is not the only factor to consider in the decision making process.
I was married to a woman that had two children and admittedly, we both stayed together for the children. In the end, we divorced and only honestly have six wasted years of our lives to show for it. That was six years that she and I could have spent looking and possibly finding real love and real happiness.
Think of it this way....if tomorrow meant you would find the love of your life and find happiness like you never have known, wouldnt you want tomorrow to start today?
By considering taking a guy back that you cant be happy with, you are basically giving up on the chance of finding real love and happiness.
2007-11-16 16:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by catfish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he cheated on you, now wants you back. Hmm, now that he has done what he wants and that didn't work out, he wants you back. Sure we all have stresses in our lives, but you handeled yours w/o going outside the marriage, he didn't. And he not only cheated on you but on your daughter. If you don't know if you love him, don't settle and force it for comfort, this will only cause fighting, resent and stree, which your child will have to endure from the both of you. If he is serious and you want to, then don't jump right in, do not move back together,live apart and go to counseling to fix the past issues before even thinking of making a future. Nothing excuses what he did. You can forgive but can you forget and can you trust and will you love each other or will you settle thinking it is best for your child, which that is the worst reason to get back together!!!!
2007-11-16 16:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How nice "he thinks" he wants you back is that dependant on the other woman deciding? or if he can find someone else before he so bravely "takes you back" You owe him nothing, he owes you. He owes you child support and whatever medical support and fatherly support he can give your child. He cheated, honey it is not worth it. Don't get sucked into that merry-go-round of deception and BS. Just wait no doubt there will be an out pouring from the teen wives gallery saying "ohhh give him another chance for your child"...WRONG
2007-11-16 16:33:30 · answer #4 · answered by Diamond Dogs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him; don't go back for convenience. Make a way on your own without him. You can still get child support and save the grief. I know; I was with someone who didn't cheat (that I know of) but was a rotten spouse; we had a kid; broke up for two years and I took him back more so for convenience; he went back to his old ways and I feel it best to be separated and get child support than go through this grief; have a chance to find an honest man; not a cheater...hope this helps..be strong and of good courage.
2007-11-16 16:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by Wonder Woman 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How important is to have support raising your child?
25% of men cheat and 15% of women
70% of couples get together after the affair
If you can forgive 100% go back if you are resentful stay away
2007-11-16 16:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated, so therefore i would say walk away don't look back, especially when you say you don't KNOW if you love him. And i would demand that he pays for his son. Go to a lawyer that can help. Because it dosen't sound as if you are really wanting your hubby back with good reason! God bless and hope the best for you.
2007-11-16 16:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like he didnt satisfy his mistress and now he is doing without, and wants to come back to a sure thing, and to keep from paying support and alimony. Believe me he will do it again! Dont play second fiddle to no one honey, and tell him the child support and alimony is the F/n he gets for the F/n he got, and take good care of the kid!!
2007-11-17 08:49:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that the woman he cheated on you with is no longer interested in him so he is running back to you. If you don't love him then don't get back with him...simple as that. He should be part of your child's life though no matter if you are together or not.
2007-11-16 16:34:05 · answer #9 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you could be friends with him because you have a child together that needs the both of you. but i wouldn't get back with him he will just sleep with other people and know you will be there to take him back . god bless your baby and the medical problems
2007-11-16 16:33:07 · answer #10 · answered by I love my DIRTBIKE! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he THINKS he wants you back. tell him that door is closed. he has ran around and did all the things that he wanted now he wants to come back. i wouldnt even give him the time of day but i would make him help with the child and medical bills, etc.
2007-11-16 16:57:41 · answer #11 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋