Something is Wrong with my Husband.?

Question

I've been married for about 3 years and my husband has always been an aggressive guy, but recently we have been having physical fights.

Yeah that's bad but the lastest incident has me concerned. We were fighting again and when he finally let me go he started beating on his head and face w/ his fists to the point where he drew blood. Then he started screaming at the top of his lungs about the circus and a princess.

There's other stuff too like him grabbing my face and staring at me really hard and then saying "Your face has the number 7 written all over it." And then touching my face like he actually sees something on it.

I know there must be something wrong with him mentally but I don't know what to do. I want to get him help but he won't listen to me. I know we might need an intervention but I don't know if I should get family involved or leave them out of it.

I've never seen this behavior from him before. I wanna save my marriage but I also want to feel safe. Any Ideas?

Answer 1

He needs help. -Seriously.
What if he hurts or kills you? He needs to get checked out. Being that you are his wife, you can have him committed.
He desperately needs help. Do what you must to get him the help he obviously needs before it's too late.
Meanwhile, consider notifying your parents and his parents.
They all need to know what is going on so that they can help support you through this situation and help enforce any discision regarding your husbands treatment.
At least get him to see a doctor to check and see if he has a Bipolar Disorder.
A general practice physician may be able to diagnose bipolar disorder by eliminating other conditions. But a mental health specialist, such as a psychiatrist or psychologist, is better trained to detect the signs and symptoms of bipolar disorder and would likely be more knowledgeable about the latest treatments.

I had to do the same thing a while back. I let his parents and my parents know what was going on with my husband and they helped enforce his place of well being.
The doctor diagnosed him with Bipolar Manic Depression.
He was pretty bad and I was at the point where I was afraid of going to sleep with him in the same room.
The doctor prescribed him Lithium and Seroquel. It helped tremendously. It was like night and day with him. Things are better. -"Thank the Lord."

The point is, you want to get him treated before you end up regretting not getting him the help he truly needs.
-Stay safe.

Answer 2

The next time he hits you or is violent, go to a safe place in the house like the bathroom locked and call 911 immediately. When the police come tell them he has hit you, has been mentally abusive and is talking crazy out of his head. They will arrest him and take him away. Don't wait for the intervention, as your husband can kill you and then it would be too late. Don't wait, get out fast, and go to a woman's crisis center for help. You cannot save your marriage until your husband gets immediate help. I would call his family after you are safe from his grasp..this man is dangerous and he could kill you without giving it another thought. He is out of his mind! You can't reason with someone with mental problems as serious as his...get out of the fire and then get him help if you want, but save yourself from this animal.

Answer 3

He does need mental help and I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I have been there (my marriage ended because fo it) so I don't know that I should give you advise, there are so many things I wish could have been done differently in my situation even though I don't know that it would have helped. Maybe you should seek out someone to speak to and get some advise on handling the situation. Whatever you do, don't try to handle it on your own. Good luck!

Answer 4

I would certainly get your family envolved because I do not think you can do this on your own. He will have to be put in lock up and they will check him out and see what is going on in his head.
Does he take drugs because he sure sounds like he is on something. The number seven and the circus and the princess thing is really deep.
I think he is beating on his head with fists because he does not like what he is doing and becoming and has no control over it.
He really does need some help because if he can do this to himself then he could certainly harm you badly sometime.
Tell the family about this and seek their help and advice because you really need it!

Answer 5

It sounds as if your husband may be experiencing a serious psychotic episode and I would tread carefully. I would find a "qualified" psychiatrist to determine if this is a maniac episode due to Bi-polar disorder, the result of a serious head trauma, or illicit drug use.

You can meet with a psychiatrist, with out your husband
joining you, just to discuss his behavior in a confidential matter. This will equip you with the proper tools in handling this matter.

Please tread carefully and treat this with utmost severity. Take care of your self.

Answer 6

it is a situation wherein u have to act, no choice. but how? well, if ur families r supportive u can bring them in and talk him down for getting professional help bcos it is not possible for u alone to even start the topic with him as he may feel insulted and start fights again.
but counselling is the only way out of this to find out the reason and eventually cure him. all the best!

Answer 7

This man may have physical problems, such as a brain tumor, which could very well cause such behavior.

I would suggest you speak first with a doctor about his bizarre behavior. A family doctor if you have one. I would think he should be seen by a qualified physician before he harms you or someone else.

You should definitely get family involved...especially if they don't know about his bizarre behavior. I'm sure no mother would want to see her son like this, and would want help for him.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 8

You need to move out and after you're somewhere that he can't find you, then let him know you want this to work out and you'd gladly go to counseling with him. But he's not allowed to be in your life as long as he's a threat.

Are you sure you want to save this marriage?
You said you've been having physical fights (plural)...so this has been escalating and you're still there? You need some counseling tooooo......

Answer 9

It sounds to me like this is a drug problem. When a person changes, unless there is an organic problem like a brain tumor, it usually suggests drugs. I suspect your husband, and probably you too, have used drugs right along, but his use has gotten much worse. Assuming there is drug use, nothing is going to help, except the obvious- quitting drugs. I'm not going to bother about the violence, cuz only an idiot doesn't know that is totally unacceptable.

Answer 10

Seek a safe place! Find a friend to stay with, but don't let him know where you are. He is out of control. There may be a logical psychological reason-schizophrenia? Bipolar? I wouldn't feel safe staying in that home one minute longer. Get your stuff & GO! You can't help someone who won't help himself! Is he doing drugs? I don't want to seem like a pessimist, but your situation sounds really scary! BTDT regarding domestic violence. Please get help!