I'm a married woman, whom would never cheat on my husband ever.I love him more then life itself,we have a great relationship too.I mean we've been married now 12 yrs., so yeah certain aspects of the relationship have fizzed somewhat if you know what I mean, at times our sexlife is mindblowing at times it's not.Which is pretty normal for as long as we've been marriedbut there have been times when thoughts of cheating have crossed my mind.Why?And is this normal?Like I said I love my man and will NEVER cheat but I have fantasized about it.Once again is this normal or is this a sign of bad things to come?
2007-11-16 05:32:52 · 28 answers · asked by catlover30 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its a sign.
2007-11-16 05:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by luv_doesnt_hurt_lies_do 4 · 3⤊ 5⤋
It is BOTH normal and a sign of bad things to come. Perhaps not too bad though.
Marriage isn't natural so it takes work to maintain it. The real question to ask yourself is this: are you the kind of person that can go through life with only one sexual partner and be fulfilled? If not, there may be trouble later. Some people can be in love, highly physically attracted to -- and even constantly sexually satisfied by someone and STILL want a new body to explore. Social taboo here, it's just the way it is.
If you're not like that, then things will probably be better for you and yours in this issue.
The key to answering your question is knowing yourself. Not an easy thing to do in life.
2007-11-16 05:40:59 · answer #2 · answered by Avatar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its normal. As long as you don't cross that line. Its more like fantasizing. Try some of those things you have thought about doing to the other guy to your husband. It might spice things up a bit.
2007-11-16 05:47:04 · answer #3 · answered by Green Eyed Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies are normal, cheating on your partner is not normal, so I guest talk to him and express yourself on what you feelings are and what your missing in the relationship and make sure you let him know you still love him and you just want things to be better,
I mean 12 yrs so do something about it and tell him your desires and fantasies (not the one from cheating;-).
2007-11-16 05:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by Tjarley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The temptation to taste the forbidden fruit is more common than you think. Afterall it is human nature. However what separates us from the animal kingdom is love, respect and loyalty which is what you obviously have for your husband.
You may feel tempted, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with fantasies, but remember that what you and your husband have is very special.
2007-11-16 05:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by Bonnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 12:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, I believe everyone feels at some point in their life attracted to someone else; you might meet someone and get an instant 'animal attraction'; that is normal, as temptation is always out there. It is loving and valuing your partner that sets those who cheat from those who remain faithful
2007-11-16 09:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say NEVER. Everyone is capable of cheating. Everyone likes to think that they would never do it but we are all capable. Your thoughts are normal though. We are all sexual beings and it is normal to think of what sex would be like with other people. Those who say that they don't do it simply repress themselves. If you have genitalia, blood flowing through your veins and air in your lungs then you are a sexual person, and normal to think about it.
2007-11-16 06:12:00 · answer #8 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is normal. Especially for people in long term relationships. You state that you'd NEVER cheat, so don't let yourself feel guilty over something you aren't going to do.
2007-11-16 05:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by b b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies are great. Anyone who says that haven't pretended their spouse is someone else during sex is LYING!! Fantasies and porn help keep us faithful. As long as you don't go out an act on them(cheat) there is no harm.
2007-11-16 05:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No worries, all of us have our moments when we feel a but unloved or distant and allow our minds to drift to notions of life over on the other side of someone's fence. As long as your fantasies stay just that and you do not outwardly pursue action...I'd say you are totally normal.
2007-11-16 05:43:51 · answer #11 · answered by Scorpio 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋