Husband can't get i up?

Question

I have been married for 9 years and have not ha sex in over three years. Husband ha s become impotent, viagra doesn't work, and he seems unwilling to discuss with doctor.He say's he ok with it, What about me? HELP He was recently diagnosed with diabetes, and blames it on this. Constantly telling me he love me, but expect me to just do without also. He is 17 years my senior, however, that shouldn't matter. He 69, and I, 52 think he is just too old?? By the way he still work full time strenuously

Answer 1

If viagra isn't working and his diabetes is out of control at that age, then he really has an uphill battle. He has to get serious medical assistance to deal with this.....

Answer 2

Sorry to hear this, you must feel lonely. Ok, well, ask him to stop blaming the diabetes and DO(!) something about it. Sounds familiar, on a shorter marriage (2 yrs), and younger husband (<40). (you should read another posting where woman complains husband wants sex everyday and she can't cope!) - can't get everything we want, can we? : )

Have him get a complete physical, check the plumbing (to make sure his testosterone and other hormones levels are correct), and determine if he's depressed. Stress can kill a sex drive. A mild level of serotonin can decrease the sex drive -- so maybe he should talk to his doctor about that. You should go to couple's counseling to figure out what the issue is. Age doesn't matter -- there are 89 year olds who are as frisky, if not friskier than teenage boys.

Make sure you rule out he's not getting the sex elsewhere. I see no excuse. He's not too old. Ok, also, he should make a conscious effort for the both of you, let up a bit on the strenous work, and make it standard weekly romantic date. Have a serious talk with him, he shouldn't expect you to do without -- it's not normal, nor a life for you. What does he say when you threaten to leave him? Here's a big hug to you : ) Good luck!

Answer 3

You need to talk this out with your husband. Tell him you are unsatisfied and you need to be pleased by him. I speak from experience, my husband had open heart surgery, diabetes, and high blood pressure, so all of the meds made him impotent . Like your husband he is unable to take viagra, it almost killed him last time he took it. We learn to work around that. There are other ways to be pleased by your husband. Try them and stop thinking that he is too old to get it up. By the way, working strenuously and not being able to get an erection has nothing to do with each other.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

First of all your husband is not a well man and sometimes the medication will effect him , He expects you to do with out sex you married this man for better or worse and thats what marriage is all about sex is not all there is to marriage and if you are just that hot take a cold shower. Perhaps the reason could be from stress on the job and stress at home just relax and take it to god in prayer.

best of luck

Answer 6

you are right and should have some say in this, but it is true that diabetes does effect his erection. this is a reason most men don't like to even say that the have diabetes. you should really talk to him and explain to him that your situations are not the same and he should get help for the sake of the relationship. ask i don't think that age has anything to do with this, i once asked a very old couple if they still had sex and they said that they did, because it was more of a necessity. he must remember that we are sexual beings.

Answer 7

Many men suffer from erectile dysfunction (ED) -- the inability to achieve and sustain an erection long enough to have enjoyable and fulfilling sex. For a variety of reasons ED is most common in men over 45. The sex drive is often lowered even further in older men who are taking medications of various kinds.
Most of us assume the sex drive gradually diminishes as we get older, so we are prepared to accept ED as a natural condition. But the fact is, the inability for many men to sustain an erection may be more the result of treatable physical conditions rather than an actual loss of sex drive.
Until the early 1980s most people -- including most trained urologists -- assumed that ED was basically a mental or psychological problem. But in 1983 at a presentation to the American Urological Association, Dr. Gilbert M demonstrated that a penis could be made erect by injecting it with the drug phentolamine. In a public demonstration, he used his own penis to make the point.
Gil had discovered that the penis could be made erect by relaxing the normally constricted blood vessels leading into it. Once the blood vessels are relaxed, they let in more blood and the penis inflates something like a balloon to form an erection.
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Answer 8

If he doesn't want to listen to you and go to the doctor to get it sorted then I feel you have 2 options: Number 1: Trick him into going to see a specialist to talk about something else then start talking about his diabetes (tell the doctor this first)., Number: Get a lover! Everybody has their needs and if your man is unwilling to seek assistance then he can 'kiss your ass' as you still need a bit of loving before you become too old to enjoy it!

Answer 9

I agree w/previous answerer--can't he think of alternatives to 'laying steel pipe'?! Hands broken, too? Next thought, though, is, 'has he otherwise taken care of himself w/diet & some exercise?' If not, why makes people that way? Medication alone won't do if a person works against it. THAT would bother me more. Best of luck to you in this situation.

Answer 10

Find urself a younger man and let him take care of you sexually, he will have stamina, Just dont tell hubby, get the fix u need and be quiet, u need a friend with benefits so to speak......Good Luck