My wife and I have been married for 7 years and are extremely happy. Today she told me that her exhusband called and told her that he was sorry for the way he had treated her and wanted to know if she still had feelings for him. She said that she told him she was very happy with me and for him to stop calling her. I have no doubt that she is being truthful because, if she had wanted to go back to him, she has had plenty of opportunities. It is just the fact that this man had the nerve to disrespect me in this way. Should I take the fact that she told him not to call anymore and leave it alone, or should I confront him and let him know that he is treading into dangerous territory asking another man's wife that question?
2007-11-16 12:12:30 · 14 answers · asked by jerry m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The ex showed disrespect for you and your wife. If she wanted to be with the jerk, she would be. Let it go. If the man continues to call, change your phone number.
2007-11-16 12:24:08 · answer #1 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always to leave this type of thing alone. He didn't call just to speak to your wife, part of his motivation was aimed at you, his purpose was to rile you up. It's a mean thing to do.
The best way to handle it is to think of his call like it is a cup full of poison. You can't stop him from putting the poison out there, but you can choose not to drink it. When you choose not to drink it, he has failed in his purpose.
Act as if the incident never happened, don't let him ruin your peace of mind. Should you call him back and tell him he disrespected you, it means you are upset and he will be secretly pleased. You will also give him another chance to say things that will rile you or in other words you are giving him a chance to give you another cup of poison and when you are speaking to someone, it's a lot tougher not to drink down.
2007-11-16 20:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing has happened to me. My ex is in jail and has contacted me a few times from there. He wants me to forgive him (which I have) and wants to know if I still love him. I don't. I told my husband about this. I even asked my husband if he wanted to talk to him. (Wanted to know if he wanted to have his say..) he said no, it's better to leave it alone.
You never know. Your wife told this guy she is happy with you. He might be fine with that and over it. Don't add to trouble if nothing is wrong. If he does contact her again, she can tell him "I told you I am happy with my husband now. I am over you" Or not even answer. If he keeps on, it's time to call the police.
Good luck and have a great night.
2007-11-16 20:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it really happened that way, why did your wife feel compelled to tell you about the phone conversation? I would have let him know that he did'nt have a snowballs chance in he-- with me and never call me again, but i would not have told you because it would only upset you.
2007-11-16 20:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by crappiekat1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with what she told him. He may be setting you up. The more you feed the fire the more it will burn, after all; you've got your wife and he doesn't. Ha Ha Ha Ha! Be secure in the fact that your wife told you. You just enjoy your wife and don't think about that nut.
2007-11-16 20:31:36 · answer #5 · answered by Titus12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it be for now but tell your wife strongly to inform you if it happens again. If it should happen again, then get a restraining order as this could easily turn into stalking.
2007-11-16 20:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by Krazinski 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother with him. Take alot of comfort your wife set him straight! He probably won't do it again. He knows that you know what happen. Any grudge or revenge on your part would be better served with a big smile next time your around him!! Don't sweat it!
2007-11-16 20:20:28 · answer #7 · answered by michael w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything unless he calls again. I suggest you block his phone number. If he continues to call, you should tell him to leave the two of you alone or you will file a complaint for harassment.
2007-11-16 20:23:56 · answer #8 · answered by Jodi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go. If he doesn't get a rise out of you and if your wife stops talking to him he may get bored and leave without anymore interference.
2007-11-16 20:41:48 · answer #9 · answered by Darcy R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go for now.. see if he stops calling her.. if he continues to call her and asks those kinds of questions then you should confront him and let him know it wont be tolerated!
2007-11-16 20:17:16 · answer #10 · answered by Psychocollector 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋