i love my husband so much and i would do anything for him but sometimes i hate him...he hurts me inside and i feel like he is breaking my heart..we had major problems when we are dating and now were married...is it right to feel this way..i dont want divorce him...i love him but idk what to do anymore...help
2007-11-16 09:59:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have been married 4 months
2007-11-16 10:08:08 · update #1
There is only two things you can do put up with it in hopes that it gets better or divorce him.Everyone says go to a marriage counselor,don't waste your money buy the books that the counselor wrote it's alot cheaper. Most husbands won't tell the truth to you let alone a straighter. I'm going to tell you what my mother told me a long time ago; Oh how i wish i could have my youth back i give it to a man that was mean to me and show me no love or affection or passion.Now that I'm old i can't do anything about it but make sure my kids don't make the same mistake as i did.
That man my mom was talking about was my father and she is right he was a mean man and mean to us.Remember you will be like my mother someday if you stay with your husband.
It's hard to give good advise when you don't know what the problem is and how long it's been going on and why it started.You really need to give more information.
2007-11-16 11:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, know that you can't change anybody. And unfortunately, people don't often change themselves. They are who they are. Loving someone will not change them. Your heart being broken and you hurting inside are clear indications that things aren't the way they should be. I know you love him (a part of you will probably always love him) and that you don't want to divorce him, but honestly, the statistics on him suddenly having an epiphany and realizing that he needs to treat you better are not good. So many people waste so many years of their lives waiting on someone to change. Only you can decide if you are willing to invest the vast amount of time and emotional energy it will undoubtedly take to stay in this relationship. I wish you the best.
2007-11-16 18:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by TwyztedChyck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ignore your problems, they do not go away. They only get bigger.
Now that you know this, you need to start working on your problems. Get your head out of the sand.
Good luck.
2007-11-16 18:18:44 · answer #3 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to go into marriage counslor. It is not a bad thing going there. It is to show your husband that there is a problem and he need to solve it.
2007-11-16 18:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with ken
2007-11-16 18:09:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋