Yup… I am in dueling agonizing stage of getting over my ex… I NEED HELP! I can’t stop thinking about him… I want to get back together with him but I have not told him. I ran into one of his very close co-workers while I was out in a date and his friend told me that my (ex) still loves me and talk about me all the time… and has mentioned that he wants to get back together with me. I called my ex the next morning telling him the story and he told me that it is true that he still loves me, and when I asked if it was true that he wanted to get back together with me he said “my co-worker assumes a lot I did not say that”… then said he did not want to talk about it. And I have not been able stop txting him and calling him and he does not really respond to me… he had mentioned that he wants to be friends but does not call or txt me unless I do… and even then he sometimes does not reply. I just need to stop calling and texting him but I cant.
2007-11-16 10:03:30 · 7 answers · asked by Just ME 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This weekend a guy friend wants me to take a trip to Vegas with him and his sisters and brothers but i feel guilty going.... what should i do i want to go but if he calls me i wont be able to answer!?
2007-11-16 10:03:43 · update #1
I do want him back but he was the one that broke up with me. And I did ask him a couple of weeks back if he wanted to get back together and he said no... not right now.
2007-11-16 10:12:22 · update #2
Lady, quit chasing him! If he wants you, he will come to you. Believe me, the persistant romeo, sing under my window doesnt work when its the girl doing it. All you look like is psycho texting him constantly. If anything, you are scaring him off.
Yes it is quite possible that he has thoughts of wanting you back. Yes it is quite possible that he will ask you out again if hes having these thoughts but not if you keep this up!
Understand that the human condition requires a challenge. Men love the hunt and the thrill of a challenge. When you are making it loud and clear that you are available to him on a drop of a hat, what challenge is there in that?
Make him work for it. If he doesnt, move on. If he does, take it VERY casually and dont throw yourself into it. Make him work for your affection and attention just like he did when you first started dating. If you dont, you are doomed to fail or worse yet, just be used for sex.
Dont ever, ever, ever, ever come out and let someone know that you are theirs whenever they want you. Not only is that degrading to yourself but who wants a wet noodle when they could be getting a tiger!
Also remember this, in a relationship it has to be 50/50 in order to make it work. If he doesnt feel fortunate to have you, he wont respect you and it wont last. If you feel like you constantly have to labor to keep him, it wont last. It can only last if you are on equal ground.
Good luck!
2007-11-16 10:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by catfish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I can't stop texting him or calling him".....YES YOU CAN. If he wanted to get back together he would have: A) told you that when you asked B) Called you C) texted you and D) responded to all of your attempts. You're in denial...let it go. Force yourself to move on and go to Vegas and have a GREAT time. Don't pine over someone that doesn't want you. While you're busy lusting after you ex, a REAL guy could be passing you by. Years from now when you are totally over your ex you may wonder what you missed out on when you were hung up on the wrong guy.
2007-11-16 18:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by laura1977 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you going to feel guilty remember the saying what happend in vegas stays in vegas get out go somewhere and stop stressing over him this is a good thing for you go out and party and just forget about him he said he just wanted to be your friend so that is all be his friend find someone who really cares about you and have fun go. And stop feeling guilty remember you are not with any one anymore you are free and becuase of this you can do what ever you want I am pretty sure that he would not think twice about being with someone else so why should you.
2007-11-16 18:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always want what we can't have......
You know in your heart that if your ex was really interested in getting back with you, you would not have sat here on a Friday night typing your heart out......instead you guys would be rolling on the couch in a mad, passionate, raw animal sexual act.....
But since that isn't the case, and you're always the one to initiate any form of contact with him, that right there should tell you he isn't interested in pursuing a relationship with you.
Go to Vegas. Have a great time. Geezzzzz......get drunk and marry the first drunk guy you run into.
2007-11-16 18:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you break up in the first place? I think you need to consider that before you decide to get back together for the wrong reasons. I think you should go to Vegas. It will be a change of scenery and possibly lighten your mood and get you to think of things other than him.
2007-11-16 18:11:07 · answer #5 · answered by musicgrl42002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on. You miss companionship and the love of what was, not what is now.The present can be hard to deal with if you stay locked in the past. It's time to focus on the here and now and on yourself. Don't miss out on making new memories now. Look forward, not back.
2007-11-16 18:53:48 · answer #6 · answered by dovesong44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is decide if you want him back, or if you want to get over him. When you know the answer, post a question and we will help.
Good luck.
2007-11-16 18:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋