My husband's mother and sister don't like me. They are close with the ex-w and never gave me a Chance?

Question

My husband's mother and sister don't like me. They are close with the ex-w and never gave me a chance. I have not done one single solitary think to neither of them. Now the ex-w is a horrid person. She is very disrespectful to me when she calls my home, and all I did was put a stop to it and stand up to her. I advised her the she will act as a respectful adult when she calls my home, and I have never called hers. (Ex: As soon as I answer the phone, she says "look b*tch, put *** on the phone")... That is not appropriate and will not be tolerated so now she is not welcome to call. She told the mom and the sis that I said she can't call my home while her child is there... Do you blame me... Initially she could call, but now... after that.... Ha, Sh*tting me if she can call and disrespect my home where me and my husband pay "ALL" the d*mn bills... Again, Do you blame me....?

Answer 1

Sucks when you get into a relationship where your partner has kids. Cause the ex will and should be involved. But I would not want to live my life that way so I would minimalize or cut all contact with the ones that are negative and even go to the point of a divorce cause it's not right to be treated un-human

Answer 2

I think I'm in the same boat as you, although I'm not married and i have only been with my boyfriend for a couple of weeks, they dislike me and will not give me a chance because they were so close to his ex-girlfriend. It upsets me because she will call him to talk to his mom or his sister, and it's like no matter were i go there are constant reminders of her. I think the best thing to do is whenever you see her number on the phone let your husband know and he can answer the phone and if your husband is not home then do not answer the phone, his parents and sister will see who the better person is.

Good luck girl and if you ever need to talk please send me a message.!

Answer 3

I don't know what you could gain by talking about the ex to your mother-in-law and her daughter. I don't blame you for not accepting calls when the ex is rude and disrespectful.
The only way you can really deal with them not liking you is to ignore that, always be pleasant and respectful to them. Make your priority that of being the best wife to your husband that you can be and never speak disrespectfully to him about his family members. You may eventually win them over if they see how good you are to your husband. If you don't, it's their loss but don't give them any ammunition to use against you ever!! And don't discuss the ex with them again.

Answer 4

I don't blame you. Your husband needs to stand up to his mother, the ex and also his sister and defend you if he hasn't done so already. Who cares what anyone else thinks? I know this is also your family too being that your married to your husband but don't put up with the added bullsh*t. You don't need it. And his ex is prob just some crazy jealous b*tch. Why else would she hate you so much? Especially if you didn't do anything to her. I have the same problem with my soon to be ex husbands gf. I'm not even with the guy anymore and any chance she gets she runs her mouth. I'm like wtf??? I didn't do crap to you. But I don't care. Matter of fact I rather enjoy it because it just tells me she's jealous, insecure and very unhappy. Oh well..I win! Just like you're winning..lol

Good luck with this.

Answer 5

Maybe suggest to your husband that your inlaws need to sign divorce papers too!

If you don't have call display, get it. then don't answer the phone when she calls.

Having one of her kids in your house, means you still need to show them how real adults interact when you have to come face to face. They will see who takes the higher road.

Now, that said, you need to get a weekend away with your husband, and talk to him about how you are being treated by all. It is his responsibility as it is his family and ex that are treating you wrong. He needs to grow some balls and stand up for you. Family can always be replaced.

Answer 6

if she talks to you like that...hang up. there is no reason why anyone should talk to another parent like that. and yes you are a parent, stepparent, but still a parent. if she is calling to speak to her child, that's fine, but she muist maintain some dignity for the sake of her child. what would happen if you answered the phone on speaker phone and her child heard? would she appreciate that?

no matter what, the seed has been planted by the ex to treat and think of you badly. so only time will fix this. be polite, but stand your ground.

Answer 7

sounds to me like she's hating and taking it out on the wrong person. You have every right not to be disrespected,
she needs put her feelings were they belong and its not with you. He left her you didn't she need to direct her anger to your man. If there is a child involved she need to just cut that sh*t out if not for nothing else for the happiness of the child having to live in that situation.
You take care of that child and your man and in time they will see what you're about. Do that, God will Bless you and you will have the respect of all.

Live Love & laugh

Answer 8

soundslike the family is in love with the ex, excpetfor your hubby of course. You stood up to the ex, now it's time to stand up to the fam. They are still acting like you aren't the wife so get your husband to satnd behind you when you do confront the mum and sis. if they cant accept you , too bad. don't let them push your life around.

Answer 9

While I don't blame you a bit, your HUSBAND needs to be the one to tell her these things. Your husband needs to be a man and stand up to her, and stand up to his mother and sister as well, or at least he needs to be the one to tell his mother and sister how things REALLY are.

Answer 10

i have to say if my mom in law talked to me like that i would hang up on her or tell her don't call my house again...