How can i save my marriage?

Question

Where can i get help to save my marriage because is heading for a crash......

Answer 1

There is a great book called Strengthening your marraige by Wayne A Mack. Tehre are lots of activities to do together that bring you closer. Maybe check it out. http://www.amazon.com/Strengthening-Your-Marriage-Wayne-Mack/dp/0875523854
Aside from that try counseling and talking things through rather than fighting things out.

Answer 2

Not enough information to give good advice. But in general there are some things that make a good marriage. Communication is the key. If you and your spouse are ready, willing and able to sit down and talk out your problems then you have a good chance. But that means you both have to listen to each other, not just hear what the other is saying. Secondly, neither of you can get upset, angry or hurt by what the other is saying. You must keep an open mind in order to make change. Third you both must be willing to change the things that are sending your marriage down the drain.
If you can't do these things by yourself then you should try to find a good marriage counselor who can help you both get through the steps and bring/keep you together.
If you would like to spell out the problem, I would be happy to hear you out and try to offer some advice. Feel free to contact me.

Answer 3

The only way that you can save your marriage is with GOD. And it has to be something that the both of you want. If you are the only one that is trying to save it,then tere is nothing that you can do because it takes two to make it work. So make sure that it something that the both of you want first then go to your church and talk to your preacher.And what ever you do, keep your friends and family out of your marriage,because they well break the two of you apart faster than anything.

Answer 4

I say you should both go have an affair with someone else for a while and see how hard it is to start over and be with someone new and all the bullshit you have to put up with. It will give you a much greater view of what you have and how good things can be if you stop nit picking the small things and just focus on the fact that the 2 of you loved each enough to get married so you should be able to sit down and talk out the problems.

Answer 5

When my relationship hit the crash and burn cycle, we ended up in counseling with a licsened clinical social worker. Honestly, I was extremely happy with it. They are generally trained through Humanities Schools rather than Psychology and Medical Schools (or at least at teh University I work for) and she was terrific. Honest, and friendly.

I found her through my company. One of the benefits we have at my organization is this Employee Assistance Program that offered free short term counseling. My boyfriends company had a similar program. Mostly they are designed to provide a brief fix, like six weeks to work on the issues. After that you ahve to pay, but its a good place to start. Check your company website or call HR. Dont be emabarassed, HR is there to resolve employee issues.

Also, check with the local univeristy (or universities). Alot of Psychology schools and Humanities programs offer discounted counseling sessions to the public.

I hope it works out for you. Counseling saved my relationship. We still go, 10 weeks after the near collapse, and it has worked wonders. We communicate, we laugh, we enjoy time with each other again. It was like falling in love all over again.

Answer 6

my wife probably thinks the same thing as the question here, or if she has enough sense she should anyway, I told her the other day that I need a divorce, she said I'm not leaving, I said when I'm ready for you to go I won't ask if you want to go, and now by fate 2 days ago I ran into an old ex girl friend, we are talking online and chatting, hopefully I can get rid of my wife and hook up with this sweet thing, she is so gorgeous and HOT,, !!! my wife is such a turn off,

Answer 7

Marriage counseling.

Answer 8

It takes two. If you both are willing to save it, it can be saved. If your husband is willing try counseling sometimes having a third party to give you different scenarios to think about can help in seeing the others point of view.

Answer 9

SIT DOWN WITH YOUR SPOUSE, NO ONE ELSE NEEDS TO BE INVOLVED WITH YOUR MARRIAGE, IT WAS ONLY THE TWO OF YOU THAT GOT MARRIED RIGHT? TALK ABOUT AND REMEMBER WHY YOU GOT MARRIED, THE FEELINGS THE THINGS YOU USE TO DO, THE WAY YOU FELT WHEN THE OTHER ONE TOUCHED YOU OR KISSED YOU. IT IS IN THE BOTH OF YOU WHY YOU SHOULD STAY TOGETHER, WORK IT OUT AND BE ADULTS, WE ARE NOT TEENAGERS ANY MORE, GOOD LUCK,

Answer 10

If its really bad I would suggest marriage counseling! Just as long as you are both willing to work hard to save it! Good luck!