my husband is in prison is it okay to cheat?

Question

i love my husband and we have two little girls but i am very lonely of you know what i mean would it be wrong to cheat and not tell him

he isn't due tobe out until may 2012 and this isn't the first time he has been sent to prison

i don't want to leave him cause he needs me he didn't so anything really bad to be in prison he just made a mistake no one was hurt he just did something really stupid again but i waited on him the last time and now i am waiting again

its just so complicated he committed a crime to pay my bills because i was in so much debt and i love him for that but everyone needs affection sometimes right

Answer 1

My husband was in prison and I never cheated on him. I had made my decision that I was going to stay by my marriage vows. If I couldn't, I would have divorce him instead. I love my husband and would not cheat on him. I would be heart broken if he cheated on me.

Now my husband was convicted of a non-violent crime, and sentenced for up to 7 years. I decided that I could deal with this. If it was longer or or he committed rape, murder or sexual assault, I wouldn't have stayed with him.

There are plenty of emailing list for people who have loved ones in prison for support and there may be other support groups in your area as well. If you would like more resources, please let me know.

Answer 2

i think this is where the test of your love come in
you can see someone else but it will always be in the back of your mind he might ask and you can lie but you might have a tell that he know about and it's all mess up.
but he needs you now as much as he need you
stay strong at least he can hold his head up and say i got a women that love me enought to wait for me and not stray which will empower his love for you.
on that note being he's in jail should he cheat and not tell you
dont sound so good flip does it
you have to put your self in the position other than the one your living and know what your other would feel.

Answer 3

MY HUSBAND IS IN PRISON AND HAS BEEN THERE FOR 3 yrs GIRL AT FIRST IT WAS EASY BUT AS TIME GOES BY U GET LONELY AND U HAVE NEEDS SO I HAVE BEEN CHEATING ON HIM BUT NOW THAT IT'S ALMOST TIME 4 HIM 2 COME I'VE BEEN GOOD BUT U HAVE 2 THINK LIKE THIS IF U WERE LOCKED UP WOULD HE WAIT HELL NO SO GIRL DO YOUR THING U AI NT WRONG AND WHAT HE DOESN'T KNOW WONT HURT HIM BUT WHEN HIS TIME STARTS WINDING DOWN U GOT 2 GET IT TOGETHER

Answer 4

Husband Trouble part 2?

Answer 5

If YOU were in prison, would it be okay with you if HE slept with someone else?
And where will your daughters be? In the house while you're with someone new (thus getting very confused by the presence of a guy they can't mention to their dad) or with a babysitter (who has to be paid to watch your kids while you screw around on their dad)?

Answer 6

I would suggest not dating at all, since you don't seem to have good taste in men. Imagine if one of the wonderful guys you'd pick would molest your girls for heaven knows how long? Wait until your daughters are 18, put them first, and put your wants and needs on the back burner until then.

"its just so complicated he committed a crime to pay my bills because i was in so much debt and i love him for that but everyone needs affection sometimes right"

Hon, no way should a guy EVER break the law to pay someone's bills. What did he do to commit that crime? I can guarantee the general public gets to pay for his crime as well. We already are. Did he steal? If so, the public gets to pay higher prices for everything because of people who steal. Did he commit fraud? Again, the public gets to pay for that as well. And you said it's not the first time he's gone to prison, which means this is a way of life for him, and will probably never change. It's one thing to make a mistake, but he's been to prison before, and no one with any sense would put their neck out like that, especially for debts that weren't his. Because I can guarantee you are just as much or more in debt than you were before. Here's my advice. Forget having sex and put that energy into getting a job or a second job to pay the debts.

Answer 7

just cuz he is in prison, you are still married. so yes it would be cheating...why are you still with him? get a divorce and move on...when or if he gets out in 2012, do you think that would be the last time he will go back? and remember when he finds out when he gets out, what's gonna happen? he's gonna either kick your *** or your boyfriends *** and then there he goes back to prison...3rd strike? 25-life!

get a B.O.B. and take care of yourself...

Answer 8

What about your commitment to this man? And then he went and committed a crime to help you(which was stupid yes, but he did it for you)and ends up in prison and now you wanna cheat on him? That's messed up. If you can't handle it, then you need to talk to him about it and resolve it one way or another.

Answer 9

you took a vow "in good times and bad " and im sure you ended it with an "i do" the reason people get married is because they believe they have found there soul mate .

in saying that Prison's do offer congical visits
if they dont is he in there for life then you would have to look into getting a divorce if your that lonely .

how do you think woman feel having there husbands in Iraq for years on end

Answer 10

Cheating is wrong, regardless of your circumstances. You made a vow about "for better or worse" remember? This is the worse part.

If you're that lonely, buy a toy, or get a divorce.