What do u think he meant by this?

Question

Me & this guy see each other some..but not alot..we work alot & don't live real close. We talk on the phone&text, etc. I'm divorced & he's never been married. He said that he knows we should b careful.(I have a feeling that maybe he has been burned by women/or a woman before&he knows how my marriage ended w/my husband cheating) We usually talk casually but yesterday he asked me if I missed him yet. He said he misses me & that he's been thinking about me alot. I told him I think about him alot&that I would of already told him but I didn't know if it was ok or not. He said "me too b/c I didn't want to scare u or fall for u too fast but I've been thinking about u alot." I said he wouldn't scare me & that I would rather know. He says we both know we have to b careful & it's good we r already thinking alike. I told him I don't want either 1 of us to get hurt in any way & he said he's glad we r on the same page. Where do u think we could be going w/this from the things he says?

Answer 1

He just sounds like a guy who has a game plan and is not sticking to it. He wants to take it slow but his emotions are moving faster. Just let him continue dictating the pace and it will all work out.

Answer 2

Whoaaa, Whoaaa, slow down girl. He didn't say he was thinking about marrying you, he just said he had been thinking about you a lot:):) Just roll with it, he's obviously feeling you and you him. Let the chips fall where they may. He's intrested in more than just something casual and isn't that what we usually want to know first??? Ok, so now you knw... Which means it's on to the next step. He doesn't seem to be shy in expressing his feelings, so go with that. You know what you want from him, so let him tell you what he wants from you and from the sounds of it, that's what he's starting to do, so let it happen. You're already trying to figure out where things are going and all he did was stick the key in the ignition and turned it on:):) He hasn't even put it in drive yet. Don't get me wrong because I know all to well what it's like to be at the point you two are at. It's fun aint it and nerve recking too because you just wanna get to the end of the story before you get to the second chapter.
On a more serious note, I've been cheated on by my ex too. The way you're responding to this new guy is typically how most women who have gone through an unfaithful marriage/relationship responds in this situation. Up front we want to see if we can try and read into everything he says and every little action he takes to determine if he's a good egg or a rotten one before we get too caught up. That's our defense mechanism, but the unfortunate problem is that it has a glitch, it can't forsee the future. I'v made this mistake more than once and I do understand it's hard to put your breaks on especially when you "really like" this person. Just follow his lead because he sounds like a man that'll ask for what he wants and then you decide if you want to give it to him or not.
That way, you won't ever beat yourself up about what you shoulda, coulda, woulda done differently. He wants you and he wants to pursue things a little furthur and maybe next month even furthur, but for now just go with him thinking about you a lot. Enjoy the courting, teasing, flirting and the thrill of falling in love... (because you do know that's what's happening, right)? Don't rujn it by over thinking it.

Answer 3

Life is a risk. Just because both of you got burned in a previous relationship, it doesnt mean it will happen again. I think both of you are being a little bit too cautious. If you wait and he waits, then maybe both of you will wait too long and someone else will enter into both your lives and turn it in a different direction. There are no guarantees this relationship will work, but there is a possibility it will. You both have to decide if the hurt of the past has caused too much damage to get into another relationship. If neither of you have healed from the previous relationship then I think it would be a bad idea to get involved. You have to let one relationship go in order to give yourself totally to your new relationship. If either one of you is hanging onto hurt, then neither of you will trust each other....you will both be thinking that the other one will do what was done to you in past relationships. Thats really unhealthy. Every relationship is different....people are different. You either have to accept them on face value and take a chance or hang onto past hurts. You can be cautious for the rest of your life thinking that you could be hurt and end up dying a very lonely woman. You can put the past behind you and start afresh and maybe you will end up excrutiatingly happy. Its all about risk and if you are prepared to take it. You have a 50/50 chance of being happy, so the odds are pretty good.

Answer 4

Girl , you know good and well he is trying to get with you , as you are trying to get with him... Seems like you both just want to take your time, get to know each other, and start off real slow, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that... Go for it, what do you have to lose.?

Answer 5

Well he's probably saying that he really want's to be with you , but the way ur former realtionship ended he doesn't want to jump into anything to serious right now.

Answer 6

You'll get better answers to your questions by placing it in the singles dating section.

Answer 7

he wants to keep you but is wondering if you wanted to go to the next step of your "relationship" that doesnt mean he does..he could have been curious?

Answer 8

i'm thinking things might get a little deeper from here.

Answer 9

sounds like he is ready to take the next step.... go for it

Answer 10

take it full steam ahead