Will you ever feel secure in that relationship? How do you feel about the ex after the divorce is final? Do you feel sorry for them? Do you worry about the time your partner spends with his/her ex (assume kids)?
P.S. I did not have an affair.
2007-11-16 06:42:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't see how someone would be able to feel secure ex specially if you cheated to get in that relationship,And if i still loved the person i would feel bad,And yes i would worry about the person spending time with there ex and kids because just because you have papers saying its over doesn't really mean they actually feel that way.
2007-11-16 11:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the old saying is what goes around comes around.
All relationships should have a strong foundation if they have the slights possibility to work. If one person started the relationship as an affair they are more likely have another one, as they are obviously not trust worthy. But remember there are always different reasons why a person may have an affair.
I would not feel threatened about my partner spending time with their ex if my relationship was built on a good start and everything between my partner and their ex is finalised on both sides other than the kids as they will always need to be in contact with each other due to the kids.
2007-11-16 07:26:44 · answer #2 · answered by april 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can answer this one from personal experience. My relationship with my husband started as an affair, after he caught his first wife cheating on him, and even after he tried to work on their marriage, she wanted the "other man". We have now been married for 7 years.
How do I feel about his ex? I don't to much care for her, because of the way she has treated him, and delt with him concerning their kids, and I also feel empathy for her, because she still has not accepted her part in her marriage falling apart.
No I do not worry about the time he spends with her, because he does not even want to be in the same room with her.
I am very secure in my marraige, because I would never wish the hurt, heartache or pain that he went through on anyone else--not even my worst enemy.
2007-11-16 12:16:48 · answer #3 · answered by ladysea8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be naive. at first, do no longer assume that what he's telling you is genuine. remember, it fairly is a guy having an affair, no a single guy playing the sector. So, submit to in ideas which you're in basic terms getting one fringe of the tale and that's no longer hers. Affairs many times by no ability paintings because of fact the nostalgia and the electrical powered energy is confident to positioned on off. whilst it does, he would be "working issues out" together with his spouse. that i'm prepared to guess a dime to a greenback on. additionally ask your self, why no longer wait till AFTER the divorce is very final to this point around considering the fact that he's the style of nobel guy? If he replaced into going to end the marriage (because of fact that's as undesirable as he says), he could have finished so with the aid of now.
2016-12-16 10:43:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother had an affair on my father and was with the guy until he died suddenly 14 years later - but in that relationship she had definatly kissed but maybe more (i dont know) other men and they had huge fights about her sexuality and flirtatiousness that bordered on provocative. They also argued about her ex husband - they argued a lot!
It was her messed up character that caused her to behave like this.
2007-11-16 07:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if that were to be me having an affair, then stayed or continued to date that person, I would fill relay insecure because if he cheated on his wife and had a double life who would not think that we would do the same to me. and if the lover never new that he was married that would be even worse because then I think I would fill like a home wrecker and fill guilty that I have separated a family even if he says that they are having problems. If they are relay having problem than me should leave her first.
2007-11-16 06:55:10 · answer #6 · answered by Cali~Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it didn't. No I wouldn't feel secure. I guess I would feel bad. I would feel really bad. I would definitely worry because if they separated when feelings were still there, then the more time they spend together the feelings may come back.
2007-11-16 06:58:20 · answer #7 · answered by antoinette m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married to my husband for 5 years now but i was leaving my ex anyways and my husband was in the right place at the right time.
2007-11-16 07:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by karls dream 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm, when i was involved with him i had no clue he was married (stationed overseas). we were a real family, in my eyes, my kids loved him, so did my family and me. he left his wife when i found out and i actually thought we would be ok and we ended up getting married, hope had my naive behind going. he wasnt honest with me or his ex, i feel very sorry for her, he knows this too. i learned a lot about him and him being unfaithful with me as well. thats a lesson i had to learn the heartbroken way.
2007-11-16 07:04:16 · answer #9 · answered by not this way 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I firmly believe that if they will cheat with you they will cheat on you. This is because you have already told them that it is acceptable behavior and they will repeat the action. I wouldn't worry about the time spent with the other person but instead worry about the time spent with me and what diseases I might have caught from those encounters.
2007-11-16 06:47:19 · answer #10 · answered by MJ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋