Marriage & Divorce - 26 October 2007

it has been a few wks since we officially broke up after 4 years b/c he was unhappy... his bday just past and i feel really bad for not sending him a bday txt msg, should i still send a belated one?

I broke up with him first but it was out of anger and I didn't mean it. So i gave him time to cool off and tried to get back with him. But couple of weeks later, he confirmed with me he doesn't want to get back and wants an official split. I took it badly and I did ask him back again but he said he wants to be single, feels stress-free, tell me to not have hope, find another man. Do you think this relationship was bound to have ended sooner or later even if I didn't break up with him out of anger? Or do you think there were other things besides this that triggered this result? I just really regret what I did and wonder if this is really all my fault.

2007-10-26 07:51:21 · 7 answers · asked by angelgirly111 1

Me & my live in boyfriend have been dating for about 8 months. We moved in together shortly after dating. He is a great guy. I have 2 boys, 4 and 1 yrs old. So, we don't have alot of alone time. It just seems like we've gotten into such a routine of going to work, picking up the kids, coming home, eating, then going to sleep. Same stuff, different days. Most weekends, we just hang out at home and do pretty much nothing. In the beginning, we had so much fun together, even if it was just watching a movie. I guess my question is, what can I do to get out of the everyday routine of life. I feel like we've been married for years. If I'm already "bored" now, I'm afraid of what the future holds. I know every relationship looses it's "newness" , but it's still hard. Any advice? Thanks.

2007-10-26 07:43:33 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I think she wants to get one because she thinks I think it's hot. I don't know how she ever got that assumption. Truth is, I don't know if I'd like one on her or not. I know, I know...it's her body, her decision. But if she wants my feedback, and I think she does, what should I say?

2007-10-26 07:36:29 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Honest answers please

2007-10-26 07:31:50 · 80 answers · asked by Anonymous

His parents currently live with him, and he has never lived alone. He plans on selling his house and moving to the area I live in to keep my 13 year old in the school of her choice. He has a brother and 2 sisters, but due to circumstances, my fiance is the most practical choice, as they both have a full house with their children/grandchildren living with him. The father is retired, the mother has never worked, and currently, the father pays utilities. The thing is, I prefer my space and I am afraid that if they move in, I will feel like a visitor in my own house. The parents will be there more than I am. I am afraid that my daughter will be uncomfortable as the marriage and move is going to be a big enough of an adjustment. The parents SEEM easy going, and I don't have any problems with them so far, but I haven't been around them very much either. I am afraid that I will resent the situation and that there will be tension once we are married, where we have had no tension thus far.

2007-10-26 07:24:02 · 33 answers · asked by lbar7442 2

2007-10-26 07:00:21 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-26 06:58:30 · 32 answers · asked by seaview 6

Okay. I'll be brief.

This past spring my stb ex and myself sold our first home and bought a new one, spent a good deal of money of decorating and about a month afterwards, I discovered she had a fascination with a married co-worker.

She stuck with her story of there is no-one else, I am not cheating, it's just a crush. In addressing this situation she immediately asked for a divorce. She moved out of the house a month later and moved in with a nearby relative.
Ssince that time I have twice been informed of infidelities with at least two different individuals and have discovered that I contracted herpes

She filed a restraining order on me earlier in the week saying I was harrassing her. and that what she is doing know is none of my business. I am asking about situations that happened during the marraige.

I've been traumatized, emotional, financially nd now will have a physical reminder for the rest of my life.

Do I deserve an explanation?

Am I out of line?

2007-10-26 06:53:02 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife likes to drink when we go out 3 or 4 times a week, but she more often than not gets drunk.

The other night she drunk so much she was crawling around on the floor when we got home. When she went to work the next day I had to go pick her up because she had the shakes and felt dizzy.

I take care of her when it happens but it worries me that she always has to drink so much.

2007-10-26 06:52:26 · 33 answers · asked by Hypnotoad 2

if you watch porn a lot..does it make regular sex with your wife not as fun? would you rather watch a porn then sleep with your wife?

2007-10-26 06:45:04 · 28 answers · asked by Heather 3

it has been a few wks since he officially broke up with me after 4 years b/c he was unhappy... his bday just past and i feel really bad for not sending him a bday txt msg, should i still send a belated one?

I took the break up badly and I did ask him back before but he said he wants to be single, feels stress-free, tell me to not have hope, find another man. i have now completely moved on but i don't want to feel like we are enemies. Or should i just wait until he decides to contact me one day?

2007-10-26 06:44:27 · 29 answers · asked by angelgirly888 1

all the time. He told me he was broke because he paid cash for really cheap old car he bought (this was a few months ago) then i found a receipt where he actually took a loan out to buy the car and has been paying payments on it. Out of the blue he told me he cancelled the internet and I discovered it was still on accidently by plugging in the wireless. Since he had told me it was off he lied about where he got some videos and said his brother put them on a memory stick instead of telling the truth. I asked him about the internet and he said I, and then we were spending too much time online so he lied about having it cancelled. I only go online to check email once a day and look up occasional recipies. He belongs to a ton of forums and posts all the time. He goes online first thinh when he gets home, last thing before bed and even gets up early in the morning to go online. I know it seems petty but I feel really betrayed that he lies about the littlest of things. w/o reason

2007-10-26 06:29:31 · 27 answers · asked by viper pilot 2

I want to get married at 27 I believe I would have finished accomplishing what I want to do by the way I am 21

2007-10-26 06:28:57 · 35 answers · asked by princess1class05 1

I've been married 6 years, have 2 wonderful kids but I'm really starting to miss the thrill of the chase, you know going out with mates at the weekend clubbing, getting really drunk, and chasing the opposite sex,

I now don't have any mates as we all settled down and parted ways, I had to give up alcohol due to a medical condition, My other halh hates clubbing so never get out.

I suppose I feel bored, I miss chasing after the opposite sex, Is this normal??

2007-10-26 06:24:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

i was dumped. i've started a new life, and happiest i can be. my ex is still stuck in same place. miserable. i'm feeling kinda guilty that i'm enjoying it.

2007-10-26 06:09:39 · 17 answers · asked by KJ 6

because the most employed woman never resepct deeply thier husbands and even they simple say to accept divorce because they has a job?

2007-10-26 06:04:11 · 12 answers · asked by Chico and Octavio are brother. 1

my friends were talking about going around balltapping guys and I have no idea what their talking about, does anybody know?

2007-10-26 05:57:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

One that has done nothing but talk negatively & downgrade you in every given opportunity. We're both married to Brothers, that aren't extremely close (their choice). I'm just curious on how others handle this situation?

2007-10-26 05:57:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, I am a stay at home mom. My Hubby works from 6am-2pm (First Shift). I get the kids ready for school, which anyone who has kids will know it can be a pain in the a--. When I get done doing that I come home, clean, do laundry, normal stuff. When the hubby gets home, he gets on the computer, then sits around all day either playing his guitar, or watching tv. When I ask him if he can do the simplest things, he gets upset saying that he worked all day, and he is tired. Ok, I understand that but don't I work all day also? His day ends when he gets home mine goes till I go to sleep. Am I doing something wrong by asking him to help out, am I not doing enough? What do you think? I am going crazy here.

2007-10-26 05:52:01 · 24 answers · asked by arliebrunic@sbcglobal.net 2

My husband yells at me and cusses at me from the moment we get up till the moment we got to bed he doesnt want me to have any friends and is always trying to start trouble with me and them i cant go to the bathroom without him following me and wanting to sit by the dorr till i get done at home he raised his fist to me but he never hit me hes alot bigger than i am hes not affectionate anymore he wont keep a job he wants to be under me all the time and i am sick and tired of it but i cant bring myself to leave when i do try he starts being sweet for a while then he goes back to same old him after about 2 or 3 days i have a kid so im scared to leave him because what if i dont ever find some one else what should i do

2007-10-26 05:29:16 · 30 answers · asked by usmhotchic123 2

if you felt your partner had cheated on you through seeing emails and chats he had online, but they paid a £800 to do a lie detector test and passed it successfully, would you believe they hadnt cheated? also if they were a cheat do you think theyd would have done it within 6mths?

2007-10-26 05:25:38 · 19 answers · asked by jak33 1

next suday it's going to be one year of married .i want to know do my husband love me .everything i do for him but,i feel that my husband wants more from me.he had 5 year old daughter and i had 7 year old son.his daughter misbehave and did't give me any respect my son and my husband they were have a great relationship my husband had a problem with my step dad.everytime when i do thing for my husband i felt that he want more and more when his daughter misbehave he likes to bleam me and my son.my husband like to blem first and leter find down it's not ture he said sorry for a 100000000000 time and make me feel very guilty but,i didn't do anything wrong he loves his daughter very much and love in the wrong way i am thinking of sucide can u please anybody give me advice thank you

2007-10-26 05:18:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

5 months ago I found out that my husband for 18 years has had an affair, He said it's over and he wants to be with me. can i trust him again.

2007-10-26 05:16:57 · 19 answers · asked by unsure 1

I live in India. My husband is living in U.S.A. We got married according to Hindu Marriage act in India.We want to file divorce by mutual consent in India. Is it necessary that he has to come in person from U.S.A for filing the divorce? If it is not necessary, how to proceed with this mutual consent divorce?

2007-10-26 05:14:25 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-26 05:11:01 · 22 answers · asked by Something_Else 1

unforgivable.I am madly in love with my husband.He has never showed any signs of violence but the other day he shot and killed my 8 year old dog for kiling his chicken..How do I ever forgive him???????

2007-10-26 05:02:21 · 26 answers · asked by gin2634 1

I've been dating separated man for 7 mths. He doesn't live w/ his wife but he still hasn't filed for divorce & wants to file jointly & not "make it messy", so he's letting her call all the shots. She doesn't want divorce & always tells him things that she/ they have to do b4 she'll agree to file & drags her feet & he lets her.

I finally got tired of waiting for her to agree to file & felt guilty for being w/ him while they're still married, so I broke things off w/ him last night for good until he's divorced. Today he forwarded me an email from her that she wrote this morning, saying that she did one of the things she'd said needed to be done b4 they file. This is the 1st time she's ever taken any initiative towards divorce & the 1st time he's ever shown me email from her.

I find the timing very coincidental/ suspicious. Could he have fabricated/ modified email? Did he call her after I broke up w/ him & say "get a move on it" & she finally did? What do you think this means?

2007-10-26 04:53:26 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been together since 2004 and we have a 2 year old. I work as well as he does...though I do not make the same amount. Both our checks go into a joint checking and then he pulls $x,000 per month into a savings acct to which he refuses to include my name. He also will not put my name on all the credit cards. I have never stolen any money from him and I have to ask to even spend money for a copay to the doctor.
I don't feel like this is normal. He threatens me with divorce/seperation like every other week. I cook,clean, work, do everything. He never lifts a finger or helps me with anything.
I feel oppressed. If it makes a difference in the answer- he is from India and I am a white American. Maybe thats part of the reason? Maybe if I was an Indian wife I would be treated equally? I feel so depressed and miserable. If it wasn't for my son....I don't know what I would have done by now
Please help.

2007-10-26 04:51:21 · 24 answers · asked by Jersey Mom 3

I had this dog befor I was married. She like my dog when we were dating, we married and last year and had a child. She now says she does not like his drooling and shedding. I got him shaved and now keep him outside. He use to be an inside dog for the last 7 years. She does not like him and wants to get rid of him.What should I do???

2007-10-26 04:49:48 · 39 answers · asked by RealityCheck 1

My wfe and I have been having problems for 1.5 years. We are legally seperated but are still living together for financial reasons. She wants us to work things out and get back together. We have an 11 month old daughter. I don't like the thought of my daughter not having a real family. I don't think I love my wife anymore and I am not happy in my marriage. We haven't had sex since June and I am not really interested in her that way anymore. I am so confused about what to do. Should I just get out of this marriage even though it will hurt my daughter? Don't I have the right to be happy? I am just curious about what people think.

2007-10-26 04:44:37 · 83 answers · asked by Anonymous