I had this dog befor I was married. She like my dog when we were dating, we married and last year and had a child. She now says she does not like his drooling and shedding. I got him shaved and now keep him outside. He use to be an inside dog for the last 7 years. She does not like him and wants to get rid of him.What should I do???
2007-10-26 04:49:48 · 39 answers · asked by RealityCheck 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her the dog is now a part of the family and that you'd no way get rid of the dog as you would your child. I would wonder also if there is something she's not telling you. I find it hard to believe that she was ok with the dog for 7 years and now is not. I think there may be more to it and you and her need to have a frank conversation on it.
2007-10-26 05:00:29 · answer #1 · answered by Einstein 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No way! Do not get rid of him! He is part of you, and you had him before you were married. She could have decided that before the wedding, and it should have already been discussed. She thinks just because you are now married and have a child that she can be the ruler and tell you to get rid of him. You never should have shaved it and put it outside. She needs to realize the dog is part of the family. If a man ever told me that, he'd be gone. However at this point after a child, it's a little tougher to say. There's no way she liked the dog then, and now all of a sudden she doesn't?? Sounds like she was putting up with the dog until things were settled and now the truth comes out.
You need a backbone and stand up to her. What else will she try to change?
2007-10-26 06:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by Shelber 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pick up your Bissell every once in a while and clean up after him.
Sure, all the hair and dander probably isn't the best for the baby, but you could probably make an effort to keep the house clean. I vacuum every day after my dogs & I don't even have any children. Shaving him at this time of year was a BAD MOVE unless you live in Florida because it's going to get COLD outside - and then you've just stripped the poor dog of his only means of staying warm. and to top it off, you've banished him to the outdoors. HELLO! How do you expect him to stay warm now?
Bring the poor thing inside already and tell your wife she's crazy if she thinks you're getting rid of the dog.
You could consider keeping your dog in a room of his own except when you're around to play with him, that might help too.
Honestly, if my man said I needed to get rid of MY dog - he'd be the one sleeping outside. Sorry, but I've known my dogs longer than I've known him. They're my babies and if he doesn't like it, he knows where the door is.
2007-10-26 05:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump that *****!
Not the dog, the one that HATES ANIMALS AND CHILDREN! Take the kid and run. If she thinks "drooling and shedding" are just too much to take.... How do you think she will be able to handle caring for a child? A dog is not much different than a small child and if she would flip/flop on dog-loving how long until she gets weary of her own children?
Okay, maybe that's a bit excessive... But how can someone that would put out a dog that's known nothing but your love for the whole of its life be an even mediocre mom?
Find an old friend that will take good care of your old friend... He deserves better than an animal shelter or life suffering the wrath of a fickle she-devil... Maybe an uncle getting on in years, or a old friend that the dog likes already.
Good luck.
2007-10-26 05:02:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hrd to decide, huh? Yeah, some people here say "easy, get rid of the dog" like the dog means less. But it's not about a dog, it's about how much will you give up and how much will you let someone take over your life. I honestly don't know what to advice you, I am in the same situation. I guess I would say stick to your guns, but I am not doing that so so much for setting an example.
2007-10-26 05:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a serious talk with your wife. I have a doberman who lives in the house, she is only outside when I am not home, and sometimes I will leave her in if I am not going to be gone long, so I know how your dog must have been pre-marriage. Your dog must be feeling awful, having to go from being indoors to outside, and now she wants you to give your dog away. If it was me I would tell her absolutely not, in fact I would let the dog be inside and I would help clean up after my dog. You really need to stand firm on this, let her know that you had the dog before you and her were together and you will not get rid of it. It sounds like she is trying to push you around, and that's not acceptable..good luck..
2007-10-26 04:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa K 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What's changed - you say she liked him when you were dating?
Man, I hate this question as much as you hate having to ask it.
Life for your dog, shaved and banished to the outside, is doubtless not very good.
That said, you and your new bride need to find a way to resolve disagreements that works for you both. The "I decided so we are going to" model just doesn't work very well. It would be reasonable to limit your dog's indoor access (he shouldn't be left alone with the baby, for example and needs to be taught how to interact with your new child - there are good books on introducing doggy to baby).
You could offer to keep him out of certain rooms (your bedroom, the baby's room) and limit him to other rooms (your den, if you have one, and the living room), and put time into training him (it's harder to object to a well-behaved dog).
You need to communicate to her that she is important to you, but you do love your dog and it would be painful to get rid of him, so the two of you need to find a way to make this work - each of you gives in a little.
If it comes down to "me or the dog," you still need to put in the time training, because a well-trained dog stands a much better chance of finding a home.
She should also know that it's been found that kids who grow up around dogs and other animals have more robust resistance to infections (like colds) as they get older, and are better socialized. Helping to take care of a pet as your child grows up (and even very young children can help fill the water bowl for the dog) helps teach responsibility and compassion (doggy is thirsty?) for others and can speed cognitive development.
Offer to be the one who cleans up after your dog - as in "if I ran the vacuum before we go to bed (or whenever, once a day), then that would take care of some of the problem, wouldn't it? Then do it without having to be nagged/reminded.
If she just will not budge (and I'd look long and hard at how you guys resolve disputes if she won't even try to work this out), then you should call a rescue group for your dog's best chance at a happy re-homing.
2007-10-26 05:08:26 · answer #7 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people like me, for example, lol! like dogs when they are not my own... I don't have to clean up after them... =) she was probably like me... but didn't get enough courage to tell you she didn't want a dog if you both married... basically, you have to choose between your wife & child, and the dog... you are a sad person if you choose to keep the dog... if you choose the dog, she will probably put you outside to sleep in the dog house too, lol! now that she has had the baby, she sees how slobbery dogs are... and all the hair that will get into the baby toys and the baby putting the toys in their mouth! yucky! blah... I agree w/ m3star and the guy below me... get some goldfish or something, much cheaper, too... also agree w/ the first comment by reno... up top...
2007-10-26 05:15:38 · answer #8 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RealityC, sad that after the papers are signed that her feelings for this dog have changed. Try and talk with her and let her know how important a relationship you have with this dog, as she must have been aware of prior to marrying you. If the dog was causing a problem with your child or causing allergies or something I would agree with her. But knowing the dog and his behaviour before she should not be expecting you to get rid of him now. Best thing I would suggest is to discuss it with her and try to come to the best compromise to keep you both happy. Best of luck to you and your best friend, your dog.
2007-10-26 04:56:11 · answer #9 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell her HELL NO. She is not taking your feelings into account by asking you to get rid of someone that has been a part of your life longer than she has. You have done a compromise by making him an outdoor dog. That is hard to do especially after he has been indoors for so long. Honestly I think she is being a BIT*H by asking this of you. That dog is a part of your life and she can not ask you to just toss him to the side. Ask her how she would feel in this position. An animal is like having a little kid. How would she feel if she had say a cat or whatever her favorite animal may be for 7 years and all of a sudden you ask her to get rid of it! I don't think she would be to happy with the idea. You should tell her no you are not going to get rid of him that you have done everything you could to compromise but her asking you to get rid of him is going to far. If the marriage is going to work she needs to learn to compromise. You have now she needs to. Getting rid of the animal should be out of the question. He is apart of your life and has been for so long and he is not going to have that many years left in him it would be wrong to get rid of him now. Well I guess I have said enough. SO please don't do it. She will get over it.
-m3star- You are a FU*KING A**HOLE! People like you don't deserve the air you breath if you think like that!
2007-10-26 05:03:15 · answer #10 · answered by ???? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋