Marriage & Divorce - 26 October 2007

Here's my quick sad story: Married for 3 1/2 yrs. In the first three months of our marriage (and ONLY the first three months) bad things happened. He physically abused me and I cheated on him with my exboyfriend. We weren't in love, I guess, when we first got married. I think we only thought we were. As time went on we tried to forgive and forget and really, truly fell in love. We had our son (21 mths old now) and now I'm 30 weeks pregnant with our second child. We were finally doing things right - both full time in college, finally achieving goals together. Although we had our fights, things seemed okay. Not anymore. Over the past few months he's been telling me he wants out & that he's felt like this for a while but he was trying to tell himself otherwise because he did want it to work. He said he can't live a lie anymore: that he can't forgive, he only thought he could. I tried to get him to see a counselor, he doesn't want to. Said it's too late and no use.

2007-10-26 10:02:23 · 29 answers · asked by Chele 1

NOT THAT CHEATING IS OK ON ANY LEVEL, but don't you think there would be less cheaters if their spouse would f*** them. I'm not talking about love-making, sex, intercourse, or anything like that. I mean f***ing. Isn't that why people cheat, because they just want to f***? It is a different kind of encounter.

I know that the other person shouldn't have to do anything at all, but it is kind of like the drug programs you see. The ones where they gov't knows they can't stop people from using heroin but they figure they might as well give out new needles to prevent the spread of disease. I think people knew their spouse would cheat, and could stop them by having dirtier, more animal-like (or whatever) sex with them, that 99% of the people would.

Maybe I just don't understand cheating but what do you think about my theory?

2007-10-26 09:55:01 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-26 09:41:01 · 17 answers · asked by eduard.kompaniets 1

What are your thoughts on a couple living together before marriage? I had always thought I'd wait until I was married, but the more realistic I am, I realize it might be better to give things a try before committing to marriage. Also, my decision would not have anything to do with religion.
Anyone done this? If so, how did it work? Did you get married later?

2007-10-26 09:35:03 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok my b/f and i have not had sex for long time and i am not into him no more and could care less if he leaves but, the other night he blamed the no sex on me i laughed cause he no longer touches me at all and exspects me to do all the work so my Q is why do men always want lady start the playing with and never gets off there butts and do nothing?

i am 39 so old enough to ask this too.....

2007-10-26 09:30:28 · 13 answers · asked by daisy 4

Like i said my bf and i are trying to make a new start but the truth is i dont feel its workingout for me. We have two girls and the relationship always hasnt been good. Im realizing that i made a huge mistake. I went some wheres and i meet this guy and we hit it off just like that and i couldnt control my feelings for him and i feel inlove with him so what should i do ?

2007-10-26 09:21:56 · 10 answers · asked by samantha_smith_vt 1

We both put on weight when I was pregnant with twins. But I lost most of mine while his 50 pounds is still there. He has no desire to lose it either. I tell myself that I still love him, because I DO. But I'm not nearly as attracted to him as I used to be. I feel awful about it!! Is it normal?

2007-10-26 09:18:24 · 26 answers · asked by ~Heathen Princess~ 7

Today, I received an email from my Honey.

My guy is currently serving in Iraq...And should be back sometime next Spring.

But he sent me an email asking for my approval on the possible part time job offer when he gets back. The job entails driving Legal escorts to their customers and waiting a few hours until they're finished with their business.

He says that he'll only do it with my approval and that he'd be making a few grand-ish a week.

I definitely don't feel comfortable with it for the obvious reasons. Basically, these are prostitutes...Temptation in many ways, I guess.
That's alot of money to just "Drive" around escorts. So maybe he was mislead in that part of the deal.

What would you do or think of this?

Women and men's opinions appreciated...

2007-10-26 09:10:19 · 36 answers · asked by darkening_hope 4

I have never bought anything for myself and I have always put my Kids, Family and others 1st. I buy nice clothes only on sale and I have recovered greatly after divorce, after leaving with nothing! I work 2 jobs and I never had any toys, "as the cliche goes", I think I deserve to reward myself ... But I am getting neg. feed back, "Going thru a midlife hugh?, With gas going up your going to buy what?, where you gonna put the kids in it? You get the just...

2007-10-26 09:09:49 · 21 answers · asked by JEFFREY L 1

He's been separated for 10 years and lives in another town. He has a vast amount of assets and so my friends told me that is why he never divorced. I feel he should have been honest and upfront. I don't want to be a "mistress". I feel he wants his cake and eat it, too. Has anyone been in this kind of relationship without regret?

2007-10-26 09:09:46 · 12 answers · asked by lavenderbluelassie 3

I am not looking to be judged I am looking for advice. I recently left my husband because he was physically and emotionally abusive. On his day to have our son he took him and left and will not allow me to see him, which is apparently legal seeing as how we are still married. I have not seen my son in over a month. I am only seventeen and do not have money for a lawyer. I have spoken to the police and have let them know that I am concerned for my son because my husband has abusive tendancies and they have not been helpful. I have contacted womans battered shelters and other help lines no one calls me back. Please Help Me!!!

2007-10-26 09:07:45 · 20 answers · asked by Lil' Mamma 1

2007-10-26 09:07:22 · 12 answers · asked by lkk 2

2007-10-26 09:02:44 · 29 answers · asked by questionable 1

Italian men are so....................

2007-10-26 08:58:40 · 33 answers · asked by Lily 3

Ok, here is the story. My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years. We just recently got a letter in the mail saying that one of his ex-girlfriends is taking him to court for child support. He didn't even know she was pregnant, it is his child, we went for a DNA test. Anyways, now we are upset because he is going to have to pay her and we have a child of our own on the way. I want to know if anyone knows how they calculate how much she is going to get from him. I know they are going to take how much he gets paid and whether or not he pays for insurance or not. I want to know if he can write that I am a dependant of him because I don't work and if they will take into consideration how much he has to pay for rent and utilities. Even though he doesn't want to have anything to do with the child, I would also like to know how to be sure that the baby is still in her care. She has 5 babies by 5 differnt daddies, and she sent one to El Salvador to live with her aunt.

2007-10-26 08:58:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

whydo you in aother words, have no committment status, like, going to the end of the relationship wether it be marital or just trying new things(women) persay. can you handle a woman in a steady relationship just like you would do your job, or are you a continous quitter, leaving babies to be raised alone, get my point.

2007-10-26 08:49:15 · 17 answers · asked by Shirleyann L 1

I think it is. i didn't agree to marry a fatty or to hardly ever have sex. She whines if I whack one off in the shower too, I mean come on.

2007-10-26 08:42:21 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

A few months ago, we moved from a big house to a small apartment. We're renting two storage units that cost us $150/month. One unit is pretty much filled with computer junk my husband has been collecting since high school.

He's a computer geek, and some of the junk has sentimental value. But most of it he keeps because he says, "Oh, I might need a piece from xxx someday."

My current junk removal policy is: If you haven't used something in a year and you can buy the same thing on ebay or wherever for less than $50, then we toss it.

I think that's pretty fair and reasonable, and so does he, but he is still resistant and claims things are more valuable than they actually are. I mean, he had about 40 dusty monitors just sitting on shelves in the garage that he hasn't touched in ten years.

How can I get him to let his stuff go?

2007-10-26 08:34:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi Websites,
I do not have money to pay you but all i know is that the girl that I love is getting married and I hope you can help me to tell her that i love her and do not marry the guy, i dont have anymore communication with her. She is marrying the guy to runnaway into something and i know she is not going to be happy. Please guys i know this is sound stupid or this sounds like movies but this is happening and i can not let it go because she is the only girl that i love and i can not find another one like her. please if you are on my same situation you're going to do the same thing for the person you love. Please help me. Maybe we could do some advertisement or anything i just want her back and prove her family that i love their daughter so much and i'll do anything. Please.

2007-10-26 08:28:34 · 5 answers · asked by anthony 1

My husband of 10 years left without me to go to a reunion. I asked him to stop at a mall to pick something up on the way out of town. He said there was no time. It was a 40 minute delay..I asked him to stop there on our way out of town he said no..I had to pick up the item befor 5pm or loose it so I went to get it and when I returned home, he was gone. When I called him he said that I could not control him so quit trying.

2007-10-26 08:28:28 · 18 answers · asked by nodak n 1

My husband of 2 months has been friends with this female (Amber) for over three years and were once roommates when Amber's mom kicked her and Amber's 3 year-old daughter out of the house. (Amber was my husband's friend's girlfriend who passed away). Early in the relationship I went to each of them and confirmed that they never had ANY history together and they haven't. I also made sure that if they are to remain friends, there should be some boundaries because my husband is now a married man. So far they have complied with some of the boundaries but his friend has no friends of her own. Whenever there's a problem (or she just wants to talk), she calls or texts my husband at all hours of the day & night (which I've verbally disapproved of) . She continues to text my husband silly pictures of her little girl, asking him to watch her dog for days at a time, or comes over unannounced. I'm getting very annoyed. Am I being irrational or should I handle this myself?

2007-10-26 08:28:24 · 19 answers · asked by wrtrchk 5

I have a great friend who I've always been able to identify with because we both dated (she married) men who make less money than us and are not as financially stable as we are. (This is not how we became friends, just a coincidence.) My boyfriend and her husband both didn't finish college and it has severly effected their income potential. That being said, we have always had great relationships because we did not place that much importance on money and material things. She got married a few years back. Now, she is getting divorced. She sad that the stress of being the breadwinner is too much and fears that it will just get worse if they have kids (she wants kids). Now I can't help but think "if they can't make it, what makes me think that we can?". I know I should not base my actions on what is going on in someone else's life but it really shakes me. Plus I want to be a supportive friend and think about what she is going through. I just can't help myself though.

2007-10-26 08:27:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

why his it that my ex wife starts talking **** to me when she finds me at the club shes at? Why does she not want me to go out she wants me home with the baby all day I dont mind but she dont take care of her she gets home and leaves me again with the baby what to do

2007-10-26 08:24:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

when they've spent half their day watching Jeremy Kyle & Loose Women?

2007-10-26 08:23:44 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

they hurt the one they say they love

2007-10-26 08:16:11 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-26 08:07:08 · 15 answers · asked by butterflylover 1

...being a pervert? Everybody knows that all guys are preverts. Why is that so bad?

2007-10-26 08:06:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

We bought a house 4 years ago and my name is not on the title. I saw a lawyer, she told me since he was the one to pay for the mortgage, I can't ask for the share of the property. How about i pay for groceries, household stuffs, clean the house, cook, fix small things around... he never touch his hands on any thing in the house. What he paid is making interest (equity) and what paid is gone, is it fair???

The lawyer also said I can ask for spouse support, but since his financial situation is a stupid mess (he is a gambler), he has nothing left to pay (he earns over 60,000/year)

I am 57 years old, don't have steady job. Some invisible physical problem. What can I do?

2007-10-26 07:59:06 · 12 answers · asked by roses 1

i'n having a maijor issue with my boyfriend, i left my phone at home yesturday, well i know that he goes through my phone which i have no problem with, but someone is playing a sick joke on me and sent me a picture of my ex husband and ben
found it and thought that i keep it one there because i'm not over him. I had NO idea it was on my phone!!! i told him why would i keep a picture of him on there when i know that you look through my phone everyday", and he said it's just an excuse, that i new it was there. i would never lie to him and i didn't know it was there, he's so mad at me, how do i talk to him and make him believe me. I love this man more than i have ever loved anyone!! the thought of losing him kills me

2007-10-26 07:58:47 · 33 answers · asked by yamahaviper_00 2

Because I have!

If you've had this problem, what happened?

And what did you do about it?

Did you accidentally laugh?

2007-10-26 07:53:20 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous