Ok, here is the story. My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years. We just recently got a letter in the mail saying that one of his ex-girlfriends is taking him to court for child support. He didn't even know she was pregnant, it is his child, we went for a DNA test. Anyways, now we are upset because he is going to have to pay her and we have a child of our own on the way. I want to know if anyone knows how they calculate how much she is going to get from him. I know they are going to take how much he gets paid and whether or not he pays for insurance or not. I want to know if he can write that I am a dependant of him because I don't work and if they will take into consideration how much he has to pay for rent and utilities. Even though he doesn't want to have anything to do with the child, I would also like to know how to be sure that the baby is still in her care. She has 5 babies by 5 differnt daddies, and she sent one to El Salvador to live with her aunt.
2007-10-26 08:58:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off, screw anyone who insults me for being with him when I didn't even know about it until recently. Secondly, I am not going to live the rest of my life struggling to buy my baby pampers when this slut, yes SLUT, is taking money for a baby that she isn't even taking care of. Go to hell anyone that can't answer only the questions that I asked.
2007-10-26 09:10:08 · update #1
And another thing, I am dedicated to being a stay at home mom you stupid bitches that keep telling me I am selfish. I am the victim in all of this ok, not her . She is the one who chose to open her legs and have unprotected sex and get knocked up for the 5th time. I am not going to suffer and let my children suffer because of a mistake their father made before he met me. I only have one child and that is by my husband, I have every right to call her a whore. Beeeotch.
2007-10-26 09:24:33 · update #2
It really depends on where you're at. Every state has its own formula. Most states have (and you can find either through the clerk of court's office/website or the state supreme court website) the child support calculator available to you. Some states allow you to consider spouses and other children, some say too bad.
You may want to consult an attorney. Many of them will give you a free or inexpensive consultation and let you know whether or not they can help.
The way to make sure she's the child is physically in her care is to get visitation and enforce it.
2007-10-26 09:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its definately just based on his income alone bills and rent go in question but thats it. I know its hard becuase my father had this problem while my sisters and i were growing up. I dont think the judges see the financial hardship it puts the child support payers family in. Just a suggestion maybe you should tell your child that he/she has a step sister/brother. I didnt know until i was 15! I was shocked and totally lost respect for my father. Im not saying not paying for child support is the way. Yet i feel where your coming from. Another thing ...People need to stop being so judgemental on here and if you dont want everyone in your buisness dont put it out there. Good luck!
2007-10-26 10:12:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First the money is for the child not her. Second if he wants nothing to do with the child(what a shame for the child) he can sever his parental rights. No they do not consider the wife or other children, I know I am a Spouse of a child support payor. But the court will send a form for him to fill out that you put everything you pay out of pocket on it, car payment,rent,insurance, everything. He can have a child welfare check done, that would be best or when he goes to court talk to the judge about the situation, but the part of all the daddies, won't matter to the judge. Good Luck
2007-10-26 09:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all he doesn't sound like a good person to not want anything to do with his child whether he knew or not that is his child. think about if you two ever split up will he feel the same? don't kid yourself he would. Second of all they go by how much him and the mom make. They caculate a percentage of his pay. But if he is any kind of man or father or human being he will pay more to make sure that child that didn't ask to be brought in this world by two people tht should know what birth control is gets what that child needs and deserves. Every child deserves a roof over their head, decent schooling, clothes, regular trips to the dentist, doctor, eye doctor, etc. Children are expensive. That man disgusts me...doesn't want anything to do with the child shame on him and stupid you for backing that up. That will be your childs half brother or sister.
2007-10-26 09:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is a form you may be able to get on line try google. Also, look into visitation to make sure the child is being taken care of. The woman sounds like a baby factory for income. I know it will be hard for you but look out for that child who had nothing to do with it all. God bless.
2007-10-26 09:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I receive child support and they go by how much each parent is making, regardless if one is not working they will say that you make at least minimum wage. the step-parents money has nothing to do with this they do not take it into consideration, they do consider rent and utilities, but that is it. no car payments nothing. and they do consider how much visitation the parents have with the child.
2007-10-26 09:17:02 · answer #6 · answered by tinkerbell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an attorney. Seriuosly. Unfortunately, we males are screwed in situations like this. I could spend pages and pages telling you what happened to my brother. An attorney, yea would cost you money, but at least he might keep your monthlies down. Especially if she has 5 kids from 5 other daddies. She sounds like a girl that is a career baby maker. Please seek some professional help.
2007-10-26 09:16:46 · answer #7 · answered by pumper 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well if you dont want to struggle then maybe you should get a job. There is nothing worst in this world than people that complain about paying child support he made the baby.
2007-10-26 09:19:26 · answer #8 · answered by sarah W 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Typically it is a certain percentage of his gross pay. I think in Wisconsin it is 17% for one child. If he can prove that this would be a financial hardship on him (more so than it would be for her) then he might have a case for a reduced child support.
2007-10-26 09:03:03 · answer #9 · answered by countryguyhfc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants nothing to do with his child? What kind of man says that? No really, you answer this question for yourself. You have a real winner there.
Yeah, it's his child whether he likes it or not, and he has to help raise him/her. And don't insult the other mother. Your idiot fiance is the one who had sex with her when she had 5 children already.
2007-10-26 09:03:58 · answer #10 · answered by ron-D 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋