He's been separated for 10 years and lives in another town. He has a vast amount of assets and so my friends told me that is why he never divorced. I feel he should have been honest and upfront. I don't want to be a "mistress". I feel he wants his cake and eat it, too. Has anyone been in this kind of relationship without regret?
2007-10-26 09:09:46 · 12 answers · asked by lavenderbluelassie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let him go hon. He is a selfish creep and he is certainly not going to get over himself anytime soon since women obviously let him get away with it for so long. Tell him why and then set him free. And NEVER go back to him again unless you see the actual LEGAL divorce decree signed by the JUDGE, lady. NEVER.
2007-10-26 14:22:11 · answer #1 · answered by BelieverinGod 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...Most of the time it never works the way you want it to. Sure as hell didn't work for me. Find someone who is available. There is a reason why he's still married that I'm assuming he's not telling you and that you will probably never know. And if he gives you the whole money issue or it costs too much money to get a divorce...run...run far away and never look back. This character sounds shady.
2007-10-26 16:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by LizzieBeth_21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't know anyone who has been in this situation without a regret. Chances are he has no plans for getting married again or being in a seriously relationship. I also wouldn't want to be with someone who is SOO greedy they won't get a divorce because they have to split the money. It's a bad situation to begin with so there is no winning this one.
2007-10-26 16:25:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, yea I dated a guy for a year. He told me he was divorced. I even asked to see the divorce papers, he called his mom, who he said had them and the lying witch went along with it too. I actually ended up talking to the ex and she said the divorce never happened and then I found out that was true. I totally regret being with him b/c i felt bamboozled by him. Men are jerks sometimes.
2007-10-26 16:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its cheaper to keep her....and he will. That man is never going to divorce his wife. It took me 8 years of thinking...he is going to leave, and guess what, he never did. Be upfront and honest with him, tell him how you feel, and then be prepared to leave him. When you do leave, run and dont look back, its the best decision you will ever make.
2007-10-26 16:29:08 · answer #5 · answered by Nurse Blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been dating someone who has a wife and is not divorce but been separated for 10 years have you heard of this sane its cheaper to keep her. He should have told you from the beginning to let you decide if you wanted to be with him or not if you don't feel comfortable than you know what you have got to do. the choice is yours not mines.
best of luck
2007-10-26 16:16:22 · answer #6 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If this guy never got a divorce, you're dating a married man. If your feet aren't nailed to the floor, RUN!!
2007-10-26 16:22:04 · answer #7 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have been in the same situation i say dump him i didn't and i was miserable all those years but now i am happy and in love with someone with no strings attached
2007-10-26 16:19:55 · answer #8 · answered by Ivonne B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheaper to keep her & he dosen't have to make a commitment for marrage>
2007-10-26 16:27:45 · answer #9 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's obviously not going back to the wife, so I don't understand your having the cake and eating it too comment. If you can't handle his arrangement, move on
2007-10-26 16:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋