Marriage & Divorce - 26 October 2007

my ex-spouse n me r currently seperated and have filed for divorce. the kids live with me and they dont want to do anything with ex spouse. ex spouse threatens to bring police to force the kids to see ex spouse? is that legal or is it the kids decision? they are 13, 14,

2007-10-26 13:39:54 · 11 answers · asked by J S 1

My husband is an only child and his parents were older when they had him. He tends to act like 20 or 30 years older than his age. It seems to me as if he wants to relive the life that he had as a kid, because some of the things that his parents used to do he wants to use it in our marriage.

For instance they would get up early on a Saturday morning, get dressed, get in the car and drive -- without a destination. Wherever they ended up, they ended up. He said if they decided to get a hotel room and spend the night they would, otherwise they would turn around and come back home.

He has done this on several occasions with me and it didn't make sense to me. He asked me to get dressed and then we just got on the highway and drove for miles and miles. He stopped in the towns and there were nothing but cows, dirt and grass. What's exciting about that? Gas is too high to just get in the car and drive aimlessly.

Do you and your spouse do this? Do you think it's normal?

2007-10-26 13:39:30 · 17 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

2007-10-26 13:28:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-26 13:27:33 · 26 answers · asked by 112 4

Thanks to those that answered my previous question. Should i confront this girl that my husband is talking to for hours and causing so much trouble in my home? I've been with my husband for 15yrs and he's proven to be unfaithful. I'm still with him 'cos of two children and that i love him to bits.
This current 'worry' amongst numerous others he sends flirty text msgs to is a friend from church. I've told him over and over again how uncomfortable i am with him talking to her for hours WHEN HE IS AWAY FROM HOME!. I don't want it to be a church issue but i'm going nowhere with him. Should i tell this girl who tells me how 'lucky' i am to have my husband to back off? This is eating away the happiness in my home. Please help, and how do i go about it? Sorry its long, but i am desperate. She's pretty (so am i) but she's very single and lonely, keeps saying 'she's cold'

2007-10-26 13:25:13 · 26 answers · asked by sweet-innocence 2

Last night i put on a sexy outfit and my hubby just kissed me and ignore it. My feelings got hurt Cuz i put the baby to bed and got all sexy for him just to be rejected. He blamed it on the baby saying he was awake when he was not. And lately we have been havin allot of problems. I don't know what to do. Im starting to think there are better things out there but i love him so much and we have a son together but i don't know if i can take being taken for granted. I want to take a break so he would know what he is losing but he don't got no were to stay. cuz we been fighting and he refuses to marry me cuz how his first marriage was. This is just a couple problems. He was a wonderful guy b4 and treated me like a princess now im like the maid. And i know he is not cheating on me cuz he works and comes home everynight. What should i do. I dont want to give up or lose him but how can i get him to wake up befor i do cuz were suppose to be a family.

2007-10-26 13:24:15 · 14 answers · asked by JennyP 2

There seems to be so many people with marital problems. Did anyone go to premarital counseling and how has the counseling helped?

2007-10-26 13:23:10 · 6 answers · asked by mudslide_23511 4

I'm 29 years old, divorced since i was 25. I'm realizing that in the past 2.5 years i've made some very bad choices in men. I also feel like my friendships can be weird...i've lost 3 good friends in the past 3 years (both our faults) The friends i do have, aside from one i feel like i dont see them that often. some are married, some are far away. I feel alone and i'm sort of becoming lazy about relationships. There are a few that are great, but aside from that, why bother? I dont think ill ever get married again, i always wanted kids, now whatever, clock is ticking. I want more excitement in my life, but i dont know how to get it?

2007-10-26 13:13:50 · 14 answers · asked by gally g 1

She is the ordered Obligor for health insurance. We continue to carry the kids in the event of a catastrophic emergency.

2007-10-26 12:57:32 · 10 answers · asked by h.dembie 3

My ex wife is making my son become a liar and says bad stuff about me to my son how do i prove her wrong

2007-10-26 12:55:59 · 14 answers · asked by darling_family 1

Men, think about all of the women from your past and in your present. If you were going to list the qualities you most require in one woman, what would they be? For example, I have a list of characteristics I would need in a man. I'd really like to see from a male perspective what the qualities and personality traits you require. Feel free to be as detailed as you care to be! Thank-you!!

2007-10-26 12:55:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

im 33 she 27 i have 3 kids from previous marriage she none, we have been together 4 years ,engaged 1 half years,i just feel that i would like to grow old and enjoy what i have, i would love the married bit just not the kids bit, also she is an only child

2007-10-26 12:30:37 · 17 answers · asked by Scott D 2

If his debt by law will be mine after we get married, how can I avoid it?
Thank you.

2007-10-26 12:25:17 · 17 answers · asked by Lady Di 1

He is totally irrational with me. If I don't answer my phone. He starts threating me with lawsuits and taking my kids away. I finally give in and inform him that I will not argue with him, and when he is rational, I will discuss the issues with him. He will turn around and call my mom and make up all sorts of things. I am 30 and he is 35. Does anyone else have this situtation? Even when I need simple answers about our kids. He will do this, it is soooooooo frustrating!!!!!!!!!!!!! Any suggestions would be great.

2007-10-26 12:23:21 · 8 answers · asked by Dark Angel 1

Okay maybe we have lived a little, done a few things that we regret, but by no means are we damaged goods. I trust myself and reciporate those feelings to others. Unless, you just happen to be my ex-husband. Yeah, we have stayed friends, but I can honestly say, "Never Again!"
If anything those who have been through divorce should understand that itself is a trying experience.
I am not 20 anymore, but I am beautiful.
Guys and Girls do you feel that women in their 30's are just damaged goods?/?/?
Thoughts and Comments Please.......

2007-10-26 12:20:27 · 11 answers · asked by Elainea 3

What to do about my boyfriend and his issues????
We've been together for a while just about two years and we have had our ups and down but right now we have totally hit the bottom. Just in each others face 24- 7 and now we are at each other neck about everything. I think it's that we are in each other faces for so long cause we are both home together all the time except when he is at school. I feel like he has trust issues brought on from his previous relationship and he feels like he has to accuse me of cheating. I have a my space and a hi5 which is like my space I have male friends from school which i don't even communicate with they are just listed as my friends. He has my pass word for everything so i'm not hiding anything he just has issues. I can't go in to details it will take to long but everything I have done a women that was cheating wouldn't do she would just be playing herself. I have been very devoted to him his family and this relationship all out of love.

2007-10-26 12:16:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has depression and refuses to accept it. He says I am wrong, that he doesnt have depression. But he is 56, is trying to work out of our home and keeps getting into deeper debt. He sits all day and reads news on the internet and watches TV. When he finally comes out of his office at 7-8pm, he goes right back in front of the TV and stays up till 1-2am. Then sleeps late and it starts all over. He doesn't do anything unless I push him. His office is a mess. He wont get a job outside of the house even though he is a brilliant attorney. He wont exercise. He takes a herbal anti-depressant, but refuses to go to the doctor and still insists he doesnt have depression. He is 56, has no retirement, no savings, no disability, no longterm care. Nothing. I work and have all this, and I own my own home which we live in. It was mine before we married so he has no financial security for the future. He wont go to counseling and the one time we did, he got furious after we left. Now what?????

2007-10-26 12:15:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well, my husband and I have been together for going on three years now and we have 3 kids together. Recently things have gone down hill. He and I have recently become homeless due to a mild heart attact he had, he lost his job which meant we lost everything. Well, he went off and is staying with my dad and I am staying with my mother. Well, latley he has been hanging out with my 16 year old brother (my husband is 31) and going out on drives mostly all day. He and I have grown apart and I am starting to rethink my marriage. Hes never there for me. Hes always out and I never ever get a break. I don't know what to do because a part of me loves him and another just wants to walk away. I just don't understand how a grown man can just ignore his kids and wife. It just doesn't make sence. I guess my question is, is he cheating? And should I find something better?

2007-10-26 12:05:53 · 8 answers · asked by Lisa B 1

In my opinion, the answer is "no" Your vows plainly state forsake all others. My friends husband gave his phone number to some girl he met and they had been calling each other. My friend knew nothing about this other woman. When she found out, she confronted her husband and he told her the other woman was a friend and the relationship is strictly platonic. Yet the messages this other woman, was leaving on my friends husbands voicemail, suggest otherwise. My thinking, why is he trying to acquire female friends, regardless of the degree of the relationship? He's married. What are your thoughts?

2007-10-26 11:57:47 · 66 answers · asked by forever charmed 2

He paid child support for a child that was not his and the child was concieve while they were married now she is continuely going up on the child support he is already paying for his daughter. We love the kids and we get all of them every other weekend with no problems and they love to be around. They call thru the week asking us to come and get them and take them to school in the mornings we got off to a rocky start but he feels like he needs his money back. It does not bother me at all I need help!!!!!!!!

2007-10-26 11:51:45 · 30 answers · asked by missharrio 1

It seems like the more we are married the less sex there is, and I know stresses from kids and money and every day life are factors, but its just seems like we just can't connect like we did before.

2007-10-26 11:48:12 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is this how people can have more than 1 spouse? I mean a person can love more than 1 child so why not more than 1 person?

2007-10-26 11:36:40 · 19 answers · asked by Johnnyo 2

Did they have a dog?
Did they have bars on their home?

2007-10-26 11:31:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

my wife says i need to give her more space, we dont live together anymore she is staying with a friend of hers we in my opinion barely talk, about 3 hours a week, but she says she wants more space. what am i to do?

2007-10-26 11:19:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

If we doing anything it involves his parents. Either that or we'll go out to dinner which isn't that special anymore, because we do that quite often. We may go see a movie every now and then. I may hang out with a friend every few months but that's it. I'm either watching TV, on the computer or on the phone or reading a book. Me and my husband may watch TV together. We don't have any kids yet.

He wants to go to a highschool football game tonight and is always asking me to go. I hate football and it's chilly here right now. The temperatures will probably drop tonight. We are in Texas. What do you and your spouse typically do on a weekend?

2007-10-26 11:15:20 · 16 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

my husband and I went to see the world cup in Paris last week. We had a great time and flew back the following morning. however due to our horel being situated miles out, we went to the airport earlier and desided to get some sleep.
When I woke up, my husband had gone. I looked at my watch and it was 7am the time we were due to fly.
After putting a tanoyd announcement up and contacting the police we found out he had borded the plane, leaving me with just my passport and no money.
I eventually was put on the next available flight and was fumming. My parents were out of their mind with worry but my husband cannot see what he did wrong! he said he didnt want to loose money and miss his flight-i was sleeping right next to him.
i feel so upset that he put money before my safety and feel like ending our marriage, he obviously thinks nothing of me to do this.
what are all your thoughts, no sarcastic ones please, ive been through enough.

thanks

2007-10-26 11:09:52 · 13 answers · asked by maisiejayne 3

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2007-10-26 10:51:22 · 19 answers · asked by ? 7

And now she wants me not to ever think of her sexaly again. Says I should be at the age of not thinking about sex ever again. I'm 39, she's 34.

2007-10-26 10:40:14 · 18 answers · asked by shadow of life. 2

2007-10-26 10:30:22 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My hubby still acts like he did when we first got together 10 years ago. We have a 4 month old baby boy and 5 year old son, yet my hubby still goes out fri/sat night, stops off at the pub on the way home from work for nearly an hour, goes AWOL to meet his mates, and won't get up and help in the mornings with the kids. He never gets up before 8:30am on a week day, and sleeps in till 11am at the weekend. He NEVER does the night feeds, and i even had to confront him about holding our baby boy as i realised he hadn't held/cuddled him for at least 24 hours. I appreciate that he works, but his job is very easy (he admits he doesn't work that hard as his job is very up and down) and it seems that he doesn't want to spend quality time as a family. He is adamant that he loves us all and doesn't regret having kids, but 90% of the time i feel so alone and might as well be a single mum.

2007-10-26 10:06:33 · 42 answers · asked by cuddlymummy 4