In my opinion, the answer is "no" Your vows plainly state forsake all others. My friends husband gave his phone number to some girl he met and they had been calling each other. My friend knew nothing about this other woman. When she found out, she confronted her husband and he told her the other woman was a friend and the relationship is strictly platonic. Yet the messages this other woman, was leaving on my friends husbands voicemail, suggest otherwise. My thinking, why is he trying to acquire female friends, regardless of the degree of the relationship? He's married. What are your thoughts?
2007-10-26 11:57:47 · 66 answers · asked by forever charmed 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I noticed alot of people were saying if it was for business than it was okay. They dont work together, they were not childhood friends. I am talking about a "brand new" female.
2007-10-26 12:24:21 · update #1
I hope they wouldnt be 'other' females, otherwise that would would mean they had a bit of a sexual identity crisis so No, they shouldnt
2007-10-26 12:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a good point, but I think it all depends on what is really going on. If a married man gave his phone number to another female, it could just be for a work-type situation or maybe they are just friends. Girls and guys can be good friends; heck, all my best friends are guys and they have girlfriends and its fine between all of us. In fact, I have even made friends with their girlfriends!
Also, the woman(married to the man) probably should not jump to conclusions and investigate further into it(which yes, I see you have explained). Besides; say the wife finds messages from the other girl that aren't exactly what a "friend" would say. Maybe the other girl is the one who wants to cheat and the married man just wanted to be friends?
2007-10-26 12:06:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO NO HELL NO.
My ex dumped me 3 weeks ago, still hurt and missing him, however, when my mind is working I remember (we were together for 61/2 years) he always talked to other women, he stated it is 2007 and men do have other people they socialize with. What a bunch of BS. When they talk they build somekind of relationship may it be friends or what ever, the point is they have a connection they like each other and as soon stuff ain't right @ the house he will sleep with her, because she cares so much about him.
This looser needs to stop now or he will cheat that is for sure. How about your female friend starts talking to her male friends how would her looser hubby like that.
HE IS A CHEAT he propably already f... her. She needs to let go of this guy he is not serious in their marriage.
I learned the hard way.
2007-10-26 12:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by maria s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Married people should not give their phone numbers to members of the opposite gender, even to establish a friendship unless it is a friendship of both sets of couples. Otherwise, one thing leads to another and pretty soon the relationship outside the marriage is more intimate than the one inside. My rule of thumb now that I am married has been to deal with men strictly professionally, yet kindly. I expect the same from my husband with regards to women.
2007-10-26 12:03:49 · answer #4 · answered by fnipohc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely not! Men should not be giving out their phone numbers to women and woment should not be giving out theirs if they're married! I'm sorry, but honestly 9 times out of 10 the ONLY reason a man will even speak to a woman much less chat with her on the phone is if he's trying to get into her pants! There are those few real girl FRIENDS, but they are few and far between!!
2007-10-26 12:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by nwside_houston 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless the phone number exchange is done for business, then the husband is in the wrong. Giving your phone to a member of the opposite sex goes beyond harmless flirting. It establishes a contact for what purpose exactly? How would he feel if his wife went around giving her number to newly acquired male "friends"? Shame on him.
2007-10-26 12:05:54 · answer #6 · answered by Martha 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely not! That is usually how affairs, emotionally or physical start is by the phone call. Then they become more and more frequent, then your husband starts to see her without you knowing and everything goes downhill from there. Trust me... Going through it now. She needs to put a stop to it immediately before it goes any further if it hasn't already. Try reading the book "Not Just Friends". Its a real eye opener to how affairs begin and how to deal with it.
2007-10-26 12:36:36 · answer #7 · answered by BreakingHeart 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Heck no they shouldn't be taking numbers and there is a very respectful way to handle that! It was nice meeting you but my life at this point is very complicated and I am married and making new friends right now won't make my situation a good one to be in if I give you my number and if I take yours....
That's what the husband should say!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-26 12:13:50 · answer #8 · answered by rita_hiemy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He should not be giving his number to any females! A friend with the opposite sex in a marriage should be friends with both husband and wife not just ones personal sidekick that they secretly keep in their confidential file. Something don't smell right here!
2007-10-26 12:04:58 · answer #9 · answered by Luv4Nevaeh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oooh that is not a good situation. There is no reason why he should be giving out his number. That is when you have a serious talk with your hubby! especially if the other woman is leaving messages that suggest otherwise. Man, that sucks for your friend, good luck to her.
2007-10-26 12:01:15 · answer #10 · answered by sjhockeyfan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In order to forsake all others, you would have to move to a deserted island and have no contact with anyone.
One of the commandments says 'Thou shalt not kill'. Every time you step on a bug you have broken that one. Grow up. Stop being so insecure. You can whine if they ever have sexual relations.
2007-10-26 12:03:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋