trust issues with my boyfriend?

Question

What to do about my boyfriend and his issues????
We've been together for a while just about two years and we have had our ups and down but right now we have totally hit the bottom. Just in each others face 24- 7 and now we are at each other neck about everything. I think it's that we are in each other faces for so long cause we are both home together all the time except when he is at school. I feel like he has trust issues brought on from his previous relationship and he feels like he has to accuse me of cheating. I have a my space and a hi5 which is like my space I have male friends from school which i don't even communicate with they are just listed as my friends. He has my pass word for everything so i'm not hiding anything he just has issues. I can't go in to details it will take to long but everything I have done a women that was cheating wouldn't do she would just be playing herself. I have been very devoted to him his family and this relationship all out of love.

Answer 1

You guys aren't kids anymore and getting into each others faces is never an answer plus no one wins and being in this relationship for the long run, you are both in this together. You both need to sit down and have a normal pep talk without all the yelling and screaming just a heart felt talk and really question how have you guys ended up where you now are from where you started. Based on the things you wrote you seem very devoted to him but you need to continually reassure him of that. If he still doesn't trust you by now, it means he is very insecure and you need to continue to assure him on daily bases what made you choose him and no one else as your man. If you show that you're irritated by his mistrust it will only cause him to deepen his suspicions, when he hurts your feeling you need to sit him down and pour your heart out to him explain how he made you feel. Be the bigger person if you love this man even when he's at fault and eventually he'll get a grip of things. Don't hold the good things you do for him against him because i am very sure that he's counting them and feels like he's not stepping up which is really the issue here. No matter what happens, you need your lines of communication open with each other at all costs and all the times.


*MIScommunication is every couple's #1 enemy when it comes to relationships which leads to misunderstanding.
All hell breaks lose from there.

misunderstanding in money matters, what a spouse is saying and what his/her heart really means (having relations, kids, etc).

The base of every relationship is communication, through it couples can better understand each other, know each other and love each other. When the key ingredient isn't there, everything goes bad and the couples get on each other's nerves and start to rethink their love for each other and might finally decide that it is a wise thing go there separate ways from there which may eventually lead to divorce.

If they pull through however, it's then when their relationship turns for the better and might actually become stronger than when it was in the beginning

Hope that helps, take care and good luck

Answer 2

Girl...do you have his passwords for his accounts? If not then you need to maintain YOUR OWN! If you two are always fighting then you need to give each other space. Maybe you two are not ready for this 'serious' relationship. If he has trust issues then you two need to break up until he heals from that, cause it's hurting you and suffocating you and that's not fair. If you choose to stay...he can end up controlling you and abusing you in the long run. He needs to get help before you two continue...for your sake and any other woman.

Answer 3

Don't fool yourself into thinking the more you do to please him will make him change. Seems like he has relationship issues and maybe issues that he inherited from his family that have not yet come to light. You should not have to be so devoted to him that you lose yourself in the process because in the end you're the one who is going to suffer the most. Do you have a good relationship with your family? Talk to your mom, talk to your friends. Don't alienate yourself from the things that you like and give you joy. If he cares about you that whatever makes you happy will be OK to him.

Answer 4

You cannot deal with his issues for him. All you can do is deal with your issues and make courageous and wise decisions with your own life.

Nobody but you is responsible for your happiness.

Good luck.

Answer 5

People like that you can't change that might be the reason his last girlfriend left