And now she wants me not to ever think of her sexaly again. Says I should be at the age of not thinking about sex ever again. I'm 39, she's 34.
2007-10-26 10:40:14 · 18 answers · asked by shadow of life. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is not a question about sex. This is a question about intimacy. Something is definitely wrong here. And if you don't know what it is, that's the starting point. When my brother-in-laws wife left him, I asked him "what happened" He looked at me and said, "I don't know." And that was a big chunk of the problem. He wasn't paying attention or was too busy supporting the family to pay attention. Ask her outright "What's going on here." As a woman, I'm telling you with 100% certainly, this is an intimacy problem. Get to the source before she finds a male 'friend' with a compassionate ear, strong shoulder and a stiff dick.
2007-10-26 10:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
wow this is pretty heavy your wife does not want you to show any affection toward herbecause it is not her way, or ever think of her sealy again, your 39 and she is just 34 there is something wrong with her and she needs some help. You married this woman should have known all about her before you said i do. but your in love with her and trying tomake things work sometimes we dont always get what we want.
Best of luck
2007-10-26 10:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find out what is at the root of this. It is not normal of a woman of 34 not to want sex and more than that expect that at her command her husband of 39 will not think of her sexually.
2007-10-26 10:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by vivi-mac 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She is wrong we are sexual beings until we die. Yes as we age later on in life it slows down but you are still young you are only 39. She is not wanting sex and she is trying to convince you not to want to have it either. Are you still doing nice things for her like you did when you first met her and fell in love. Are you still calling her those sweet names you called her. Are you still romantic like kissing, hugging, snuggling? It makes a huge difference. Sometimes as time goes by we all get lazy and stop doing the little things we once did. Good luck.
2007-10-26 10:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She's crazy to think that people shouldn't have healthy sexual relationships until they're old and gray.
If she refuses to engage in such a relationship with you, get marital counseling. If she refuses that, she is failing to keep the promise she made to you when you were married and to be a good wife to you. I'd divorce her at that point.
2007-10-26 11:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at 34, she's supposed to be at the height of her sexual peak (women hit it in their early to mid thirties). if she is shutting down like this, there is a larger issue at hand, and it has less to do with sex than it does with intimacy. she's not showing any affection at all? no hugs, no kisses? no hand holding? if she's not communicating through any kind of touch, this issue is deeper than anything you can deal with on your own. counseling, NOW.
2007-10-26 11:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by hh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her and chances are that she will straighten up by herself.
If she decides to behave like that, tell her that she is not able to fulfill her obligations as a wife. I don't recommend that you start sleeping around, but you need an outlet for your sexual desires. If she is not capable of doing it, break up and marry another girl.
I think the law would be on your side if your wife is sexually incapable.
2007-10-26 10:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Weird, is she repressed bc of something in her life , her past? Is it due to religious ideas? Tell us more, this situation probably warrants counseling though. You are both YOUNG!!! People are still having sex when they are retired for heaven's sake. You should not have to put up with a cold wife.
2007-10-26 10:43:54 · answer #8 · answered by Contemplative 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Thats craziness. There is no point in life where you should stop thinking about or stop having sex. Your wife has serious issues and you may have to divorce her. People remain sexually active until they are physically incapable.
2007-10-26 10:43:44 · answer #9 · answered by kmankman4321 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to inform her that if she does not provide for your needs another woman will. When you first met her she was willing, and never once informed you that she would lose interest in sex as she got older. It is women like her that turn good men bad.
2007-10-26 10:49:10 · answer #10 · answered by Cherri 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋