There seems to be so many people with marital problems. Did anyone go to premarital counseling and how has the counseling helped?
2007-10-26 13:23:10 · 6 answers · asked by mudslide_23511 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did, it does help. However it truely depends on your lifestyle after marriage. I call that reality. Look at me here ......... married woman answering questions at 1.30 am because my husband has pissed me off so much over a girl he can't stop secretly communicating with! Please go for counselling, write the notes and don't throw them away when things are working well. Trust me, you will need it sooner than you think, that is, if you will find the strength to read it.
all the best
2007-10-26 13:32:00 · answer #1 · answered by sweet-innocence 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did go to premarital counselling. the problem is my then fiance pretended through the whole thing and now he is airing things which he withheld at that time. When he was asked if there was anything about me he didnt like or would want to change, he said absolutely nothing. When asked if he had a problem with a strong willed woman he said no, he could handle it. Now these are his biggest complaints. He was a hypocrite in the counselling, so to answer your question, premarital counselling wont help if both partners arent open and honest about what they each are looking for in the relationship.
2007-10-26 13:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
I did go to premarital counseling if you want to call it that. I was doing my own therapy work and the therapist did some sessions with my fiance' and me before the wedding. Did it help? I think it helped bring to the forefront areas that presented potential problems.
I am a therapist and think a variety of factors play a role in counseling, the success of it, etc. Premarital counseling will not save any marriage from problems, divorce, separation. Marrigae takes a lot of work. The irony is that the "issues" that the premarital work highlighted were the very issues that created problems in the marriage....I should have spent more time before I got married addressing those issues. Hindsight: 20/20.
2007-10-26 13:31:29 · answer #3 · answered by Green Eyed Girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did. But we were only married 10 years. He cheated on me 3 times that I knew of.
2007-10-26 13:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by anna_90242 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we didn't but things have worked out great for us anyway. thank god. i know, in the catholic church, they wont marry you unless you've been to counseling.
2007-10-26 13:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't
2007-10-26 13:27:27 · answer #6 · answered by ApCyuMz_05 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋