Marriage & Divorce - 26 October 2007

2007-10-26 18:47:37 · 12 answers · asked by purple dove 5

Who are the ones that should go to marriage counseling? Who does not need to go to marriage counseling? Did you go to marriage counseling?

How long did you date prior to marriage?
How long have/were married?
How old were you when you married?

Please try to answer all 6 questions. Please do not answer, "I am not married" because as you can see that would not really satisfy my question. Please write more than 5 sentences. Please respect my wishes. I am doing a research project on love.

Please share a story or someone's story. Please be descriptive since that is what I am looking for. I got the time to listen.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

2007-10-26 18:47:06 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

What signs do you look for when you are rating a woman for marriage? What are red flags that indicate inmaturity in a woman that would not be fit for a wife? Have you ever been wrong?

Please do not submit answers like, "I do not rate women!" because then you are not answering my question since the question asserts that the answerer does indeed rate women for marriage. Please submit more than 5 sentences. Please respect my wishes. I am doing a report in psychology on love.

Please share a story that you may have or that you may know of. Please be descriptive for that is what I am looking for. I got the time to listen.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

2007-10-26 18:35:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

So this man has been flirting with me for months, sets up a situation for us to be alone, and when I move in for a kiss he backs up and says "I have a really good woman at home and I don't want to mess that up"....WTF? So I bolted but after he flirted with me for months afterwards and even tried to arrange for us to be alone again, I got to thinking maybe what he was trying to telll me was that he wanted an affair, no strings attached. IOW, he didn't want to upset his kids and home lfe but yet found me very attractive. Or was he saying he'd changed his mind and wasn't interested?

What's your opinion?

2007-10-26 18:34:03 · 14 answers · asked by galadventurous 1

2007-10-26 18:33:19 · 9 answers · asked by Lee 1

Married 23 years, 2 yrs ago we almost divorced and I moved out for 6 months. He was a control freak and very jealous until I found out he hadf some g/f's on the net and a lot of porn but not intrested in me. I came back thinking things had changed for the better. He does nothing but lie. his job comes first then he told everyone we know how I spent all his money. Now he gives me an allowance, he makes twice as much as he did and doesn't like anything about me. doesn't want me to get a job but I may anyway. our kids are grown but he wants me to watch our daughters son all the time. He spends money on me with no complaints from me or him but he acts like he doesn't need or care for me. His answer is if I didn't you wouldn't be here. Bottom line is I am just not happy. He was jealous before and I hated it. he still is but only for things he doesn't have an interest in. I was jealous for a couple years after I caught him but I don't care any more. I want out and I'm scared.

2007-10-26 18:27:38 · 23 answers · asked by Madison 2

My husband of 6 years won't stop breaking my heart... Time and time again we've gone back and forth on every issue possiable from adultery to verbal abuse, and he still refuses to get himself together- He just dosent make his family #1 priority. So I had him leave. He's been gone for two days now and truthfullly I'm lost, I try to keep myself busy with our children and other responsibilities but its so hard, I loved him he was my sunshine and now nothing feels "right" I know I did the right thing because my physical and emotional health was at risk. But I guess what I really miss is that male companiionship, I don't miss waithing up til 3 or 4 in the morning, having him call me names for little or nothing etc.... And he wasn't much but he was all I had, I don't have any other family besides him and our children and I'd just like to fill the hole he left behinde, I've been praying non-stop and that helps but I still would like ideas on how to occupy my time and completely move on...

2007-10-26 18:23:10 · 9 answers · asked by Chava 2

TREASURE OUR "ALONE" TIME.

There is no more lovely, friendly, and charming relationship, communion, or company than a good marriage. -Martin Luther

We often got o great lengths to protect our valuable. We polish our silver and wax the car, rent a safe-deposit box for the diamond brooch we inherited, and insure our possessions for the full replacement value. Yet we often neglect one of our most priceless treasures. A strong marriage demands an investment of time spent together--polishing and protecting, nurturing and affirming.

Don't underestimate the value of a good marriage. It can provide you with lifetime of comfort and encouragement and a strong sense of family even after the kids are grown and gone. But marriage requires constant maintenance, regular one-on-one "alone" time. Don't allow the urgencies of a busy day to crows out the care of your relationship.
Don't allow anything or anyone to interfere with those precious few moments you find to spend alone together.

2007-10-26 18:21:32 · 6 answers · asked by A.Ryan 4

i know this is going to sound paranoid, but oh well. lets say im suspicious that my husband is not really at work right now but at the movies. a new movie came out tonight and all week hes been talking about going to see it. and then tonight he tells me he has to work late. (which does sometimes happen fri and sat night) anyways, can anyone think of how i could out if hes really at work?? i dont want to confront him, in case im wrong. and i cant call his work because he works for a place that wont connect me with a human this late.

2007-10-26 18:20:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 2 years but, have been with this same man for a total of 16years. We have a daughter together. Lately has been hanging out alot with his friends and not coming home.He didn't come home at all last weekend. My birthday was October 13th and he spent it helping a friend move during the day and then continued to hang out and get drunk all night. So much for my birthday. I think he may be cheating but I have no real proof. Am I being nieve or just paranoid. He has cheated on me in the past about 13 years ago and when I would ask him he would always say no. He now says he would never do cheat since it's against our wedding vows. I don't really need this man except he and our 14yr old daughter are very close. She is a freshman in high school and I don't think it's fair to her to disrupt her life by getting a divorce.

2007-10-26 18:16:51 · 30 answers · asked by Lashon H 2

2007-10-26 18:15:55 · 16 answers · asked by Bubba 1

I need to understand men better? I know I am more sensitive then my husband and I know a lot of stuff just goes over his head. I just need some ideas on what to do for me? How I can not feel like it's always me that is causing a problem.

2007-10-26 18:14:31 · 13 answers · asked by Bubba 1

2007-10-26 18:08:48 · 15 answers · asked by Buff Me 6

My ex-husband sent me a pack of paperwork, through certified mail, that is a petition to modify the custody arrangement,of our daughter, that we set in the divorce decree. Its full of false accusations, that are very simple to refute. My lawyer wants $3500 just to look at it, which I cannot possible afford, and I also live in a different state. He lives in Texas, which is where the divorce was finalized... and I'm in Arizona. I need all the advice I can get, please help. =( (I'm using a friends account to post this, but I'll check up on it)

2007-10-26 18:08:12 · 7 answers · asked by Wraithwind 2

My husband and i have been married for almost 4 years and are going through a divorce, we have a 3 month old.... my husband has severe PTSD and anger problems. he has only given me about $200 for things that she needs,he has never gone to a dr's apt for our child or when i was pregnant. and he has threatened to kill me . Will i get full custody of my daughter...

2007-10-26 18:03:02 · 12 answers · asked by Nicole L 1

For 8 years my 2nd husband and I have been picking up and dropping his daughter off from her mother's house for our weekend and holiday visitation's he did this before with his 1st wife as well (the daughter is from the relationship before his 1st wife) .

We pay child support monthly , buy her clothing , pay for all her school needs , her mother uses the child support to feed her other 4 kids by 3 different dad's for 1 week $145 dollars a fortnight (every 2 weeks) .Her mother expects clothing I payed for be handed down to her sister's and not to my daughter from my 1st marriage.

She has only in the whole 8 years dropped or picked her daughter up 5 time's , I payed for her daughter's prom outfit , dress , jewelry , shoes matching bag cost me $700 , we payed for her sweet 16th and the present from us , her mum and step dad .

My husband says I am just being a b**** by wanting her mother to take turns dropping and picking up am I? we have 5 kid's in our house why cant she?

2007-10-26 18:01:33 · 15 answers · asked by JadeyOz 5

She has eloped with her boy friend with her 2 kids. He is only 23 years and not settled in life. He is financially not strong. She is facing lot of problems. Her kids have stopped studying. She is in a rented house and her life is going now where. I cannot help her coz i am also not financialy fit. I have advised to return back to her husband. Can anyone suggest what she needs do in these type of stitutation

2007-10-26 17:57:21 · 10 answers · asked by Sweety 1

My husband and I were only married for 20 mths and in that time had a daughter. We separated when I was 6 weeks pregnant with our son. I instigated the separation because he was verbally abusive, told lies and managed finances very poorly and unfairly. I moved out of our family home and started seeing someone else. My ex has wanted us to reconcile for about 9 months and won't give up! He says he has changed and realises now what a 'tool' he was. I would so love to have a proper family and even though my new partner is lovely, I'm not sure we have a long term future together. I can't seem to be able to get the idea of trying the marriage again out of mind, even though most of my friends and family say I'm crazy to consider it. My ex has the kids almost half the time and I miss the kids when I don't have them and find it really hard and lonely doing it on my own. In addition to this I do actually miss my ex. Am I crazy to consider reconciling? I don't want to make any more mistakes!

2007-10-26 17:54:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Background: I had to hide money and pain pills from my x-husband. Five years later I am still 'putting things away' and I live alone! (That's not even the dumbest part!) For example, just the other day I put money 'aside' for a rainy day and today I CAN'T FIND it! What dumb thing(s) have you done lately? (I COULDN'T FIND an appropriate catergory to put this under - it figures! LOL)

2007-10-26 17:44:54 · 12 answers · asked by DPL06351 5

Well, this is my case. I´m colombian and I have had many experiences about it, but in particular two serious and the most important relationships for me , one with a swedish woman and another with a norwegian. I was married with the first for 3 years. a very deep love and passion but it becomed impossible to be agree about the place to live. I wanted to live in my country and in her country as a second choice, and she was so stubborn with her idea of living in Spain. She never wanted to understand how different is to be an inmigrant from the south living in Europe than an european living in southamerica where always strangers have been welcomed. We had all the good things living in my country: good jobs for both, my own flat and car and my love. But she wanted that I left my good life here to go in an adventurous crazy plan migrating to an increasing paranoid-xenophobic society. Then we get involved in a day by day discussions until it be over. Sad, isn´t it?

2007-10-26 17:44:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi,
I have been married for three years and our relationship is strong, life is good and we are happy. I love my wife and tell her every day. Sometime I think we tell each other that we love each other too much. It doesn't feel as special hearing "I love you" as it used to. What else can I say or do that is different? Does any one know what I mean??
Thanks in advance.
Matt

2007-10-26 17:40:21 · 10 answers · asked by matt 1

2007-10-26 17:37:50 · 9 answers · asked by Helen D 1

when a 18 year old female says to a 18 year old male "aww. Your so cute" does that show interest


if it helps she is 3 months older but i dont think she knows also she always seems nervous around me

2007-10-26 17:29:21 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm worried something is wrong with my marriage. here are the facts pls tell me what YOU think.
i'm 7 months pregnant and sex has been a once in two weeks affair because of my low-lying placenta. earlier it used to be regular and fun for both of us. lately he doesnt seem interested in initiating it. big red flag.
he's moody and distant lately, (since a week) not affectionate. is it because he just isnt attracted to me now i'm pregnant? :(
i read on the net about signs he's cheating and these are the ones that DO match:
he suddenly got three new shirts to wear to office. but it was from credit card points that he offered me first to spend on something in the store, when i said i didnt want to shop for anything, then he used them.
since the doctor advised me to start walking he has also joined me and the website says a man who's suddenly interested in working out/keeping fit is a sign of cheating.

2007-10-26 17:27:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

grandma bought my 2 kids teddy bears wife got upset and twisted bears neck and threw it against wall in front of kids her friend and wife interrogated 13yr old for 3 hrs then wife went into back room and harrassed my daughter she cried herself to sleep and told me the next morning what happend my wife and her friend made my 13 yr old apoligize to them in order for her to attend her jr high school concert

2007-10-26 17:24:53 · 10 answers · asked by ddddddddddd 1

me and hubby been together for over 3 years. We have a 4month old baby.

I feel very unappreciated and not loved. I was layed off from my job about a month ago and havent been able to find another job. and he rubs it in my face every day. We have a new house so that makes things worse. He constantly says things that put me down...because i dont pay for anything he says I dont care about my son or anything ( i take care of him while he practically does nothing, and when I ask he complains) He's only nice when he wants sex and then afterwards he's rude. Rude to me around his friends, is always "too busy" for me and the baby.


There are just so many things going on im tired of feeling not worthy and not good enough, what should I do?
I know this sounds petty, but Im not happy at all. Im miserable, I love him but im not sure why anymore. Please help.

2007-10-26 17:14:08 · 24 answers · asked by -----------n 2

When I met my husband I thought he was not for me for many reasons, went from that to marrying him in 5 months.... that's all it took to fall in love with him.... anyone here married that quickly?

2007-10-26 17:10:41 · 21 answers · asked by Latin Princess 1

We all get a bit grouchy or grumpy sometimes; have bad days or feel blue. How do you help your spouse/partner get out of 'a mood' if they are in one?

2007-10-26 17:06:02 · 25 answers · asked by pussycat 5

in between, my husband met this woman and is marrying her early next year. This will be his 4th marriage and walked out on each one. Don't you think it's too soon after he had 18 years with me? (the longest marriage)

2007-10-26 17:05:22 · 11 answers · asked by BFCP 3

This girl is family friends from decades.We are friends,few years back fell in love.When we have to meet she makes plans or asks me to make plans but i talk about everything except confirm our meeting.Ive seen her,i love her but i dig my heels in talk other things when time to confirm our meet.Shes no idea till day we meet if ill be there or not.Why do i act this way?I love her when i want to see her i go to place where shell be.We are both single,shes mid 20s,im mid 30s,live 2 different cities.We have to meet soon i love her.Whats going on with me please explain.

2007-10-26 17:04:06 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous