help me please. whats going on in my marriage???

Question

I'm worried something is wrong with my marriage. here are the facts pls tell me what YOU think.
i'm 7 months pregnant and sex has been a once in two weeks affair because of my low-lying placenta. earlier it used to be regular and fun for both of us. lately he doesnt seem interested in initiating it. big red flag.
he's moody and distant lately, (since a week) not affectionate. is it because he just isnt attracted to me now i'm pregnant? :(
i read on the net about signs he's cheating and these are the ones that DO match:
he suddenly got three new shirts to wear to office. but it was from credit card points that he offered me first to spend on something in the store, when i said i didnt want to shop for anything, then he used them.
since the doctor advised me to start walking he has also joined me and the website says a man who's suddenly interested in working out/keeping fit is a sign of cheating.

2 members on his team relocated to another team and he's short of two men now so he needs to start working on his day off.
the passenger seat in his car was changed. a colleague of his had gone out of town and my husband said he needed a ride back to his place (when he got back) because his car was in service while he was out of town. but he did not tell me about giving this guy a ride till i found the car seat all changed.
things that do NOT match:
he leaves his phone with me around all the time. never recieves calls/ text messages that are suspicous or never leaves a room to answer calls. when he gets back from work or on weekends and he gets a call he attends to it with me around or never gets any at all.
he doesnt make seperate plans for us for the evenings or weekends. we're always together and we just do the regular things we always did.
no suspicous purchase receipts that i could track.
the financial aspect of a baby is worrying. is he just worried abotu this or what???

the answers hve given so much relief. have been feeling so up and down that i didnt know what to think. all of u sound so sensible compared to my own crazy thoughts! the baby & i thank u for helping me calm down.

Answer 1

I don't think that he is cheating. He is probably stressed because of the increase in his work load. Add the decrease in his sex life. He might not initiate sex because of your problems. He does not want to hurt you or the baby. Men tend to get antsy when they are expecting a baby soon. Sometimes I think that they worry about being good enough more than women do. He offered you the points first. Why throw away good points? I wouldn't put anything into those new shirts. He is not working out. He is spending time with his wife and being supportive of her. You need to walk and he does not want you to do it alone. I also think that this is just your hormones. They are on a roller coaster ride right now. I don't think that you have anything to worry about. Congratulations on the baby.

Answer 2

He is concerned about you and the baby, and your getting the craziness some women get just before and just after the birth of a child. the net can be a wonderful place for getting information but it can be an instigator as well and provide not enough or misleading information in many areas which can lead you to faulty information or conclusions.
Just enjoy the attention of your husband, don't become too paranoid, have a healthy baby, and then make up the lost time in bed when you both feel more like it. Good luck and congratulations on the baby!

Answer 3

Your husband is not having an affair. In fact it is just the opposite, sounds like he loves you so much he is willing to go to any lengths to keep you happy and safe.

You said you could only have sex ever couple of weeks due to a problem with the placenta. Did you ever consider he is afraid of having sex with you because he does not want to hurt the baby? Sounds like love to me.

Do you know what not having sex for long periods, after having regular good sex before, is probably doing to him? He is sexually frustrated and worried that something could happen to your baby.

He is still coming home, still acting loving and not hiding anything. Be thankful you have a loving husband and tell him your sorry he has to be frustrated during the pregnancy and maybe offer to help him out without having actual sex to harm the baby. Easing his frustration will go a long way toward making you feel closer and more confident of his love.

Good Luck

Answer 4

I don't think you really have anything to worry about. Sounds like he may just be thinking about how the baby will be here in a very short amount of time. There are men that have trouble having sex while their spouse is pregnant due to alot of reasons.. Such as worried about hurting the baby, hurting you, not as comfortable. Could depend on how much weight you have gained during the pregnancy. I gained alot of weight and had a huge butt and belly so it was difficult for my husband to handle that. Just sounds like everything is becoming very real to him and he is a little freightened especially if this is your first child. I suggest discussing how you are feeling with him and ask him if something is bothering him. Having a new baby brings a lot of stress into the household, its a big change. Have your talk with him and be patient. Best of luck.

Answer 5

I think he is concerned about the baby and this is why he is not having sex with you now. I would not read into the shirt thing too deeply either. He is probably just as excited as you to have a new baby and dressing up may just make him feel important. Walking with YOU is not a sign he is trying to change his body..
I read that website too. I don't believe that saying, if you think he is, than he probably is. I have checked marked some of those as well and it was all in my imagination..

Answer 6

You should not be worried at all. I'm almost 7 months pregnant too and in my case I am the one that has absolutely no sex drive. I love my husband and I know he is waiting for me to get over this phase. He has bought new clothes too, started working out again, but I just think of it as he is doing it for me and to be healthy, to have a positive feeling about himself. Please don't stress is not good for you or the baby, right now we are very sentimental and our hormones are at a peak level, I'm sure is just your imagination..... Gush I wish I had the sex drive you have at this point in pregnancy ;-)

Answer 7

The Biblical Definition (King James version) Genesis 2:24, Gen. 24:sixty seven, Numbers 30 . New testomony a million Co. 7:a million-7 examine the Anglican e book of straightforward Prayer, it really is the ceremony I had chosen. although, we did no longer have The Eucharist.

Answer 8

I think your over-reacting. Everything has a simple explanation. And the sex thing...my hubby was scared he was gonna hurt the baby and he also said it was just weird knowing a baby was so close to his thang. Maybe thats why..or he's just tired. I don't think he's cheating. Cheer up! This is supposed to be an awesome time with that little coming.

Answer 9

Relax, it doesn't sound like he is cheating to me. Your lives are about to change forever, with the arrival of a new baby. He is probably a little stressed or worried. It sounds like you are worried and over analyzing situations.

Relax and enjoy your pregnancy :)

Answer 10

I think he's worried about the baby.

He offered the points to you first, if he was dressing for someone else he would get them even before offering them to you.

He's walking with you, to be with you, not get fit.

That's how it all looks to me (married 22 yrs)

Congrats on the baby!