I need to understand men better? I know I am more sensitive then my husband and I know a lot of stuff just goes over his head. I just need some ideas on what to do for me? How I can not feel like it's always me that is causing a problem.
2007-10-26 18:14:31 · 13 answers · asked by Bubba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just feel that I am causing stress on him
2007-10-26 18:21:44 · update #1
I agree with "the Mrs." Read doctor Laura's book. I read it a few years before getting married and I still think back to it when times are tough. I can't stand the woman but she is 100% correct. Also, just relax, enjoy being married to your best friend. Tell him how you feel. Ask what he thinks and what his suggestions are. Just be yourself and be honest. There will be hard times in your marriage and there will be great times. Just always remember that love is a choice and marriage is hard. Respect your husband and don't worry, as you are together longer you will learn when to share your concerns and when to be patient. Good luck and remember the most important words. I love you and I'm sorry.
2007-10-26 21:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by Aimee's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
John Grey's book, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" is probably the best one out there that I've read that describes the differences in the way men and women communicate and think. I feel it's a must read for every married couple--or at least the wife. If you can get your husband to read it great--but my marriage improved simply by MY realizing the differences. I learned how to ask things of my husband (use the word "would" instead of "could"), I learned how important it is to leave him alone when he's trying to solve a problem, and how NOT to take it personally. It's a great book. I've read several, but this one is by far the best.
2007-10-27 02:11:02 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Dear!
Rule # 1 Men are from Mars women ARE form Venus ( great book) Simply put you are never to sensitive to voice what dissatisfies you. You are not going to learn what he does or doesn't understand unless it is confronted. But let me tell you this, it doesn't matter how many times in how many different ways that something p's you he has no retention on this concept. 1 in 100 men get it.. And your guy is not one of them.. My soundest advice received and used was PICK YOUR FIGHTS. Be subtle in the training game, and someday if your good at it and he has any part of him that isn't made of rubber he will remember to put the lid down ,rinse the dishes and put it in the dishwasher, Eat when he is hungry instead of waiting until you get home to be fed well then your on the right track. But don't let him start with the control thing in even suggesting you are not validated in your open verbal, conversation this is how you grow together.. good luck
2007-10-27 01:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdreams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See my friend I am too sensitive like you but the truth is that it is a part of your soul. You cannot separate it from you. The only solution of it is that to tell your husband about that you are sensitive and to do everything in life very carefully or else you will get hurted. I hopeif your husband loves you very much he will be very careful. Trust me.
2007-10-27 05:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by Raj Chan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the original John Grey book "Men are From Mars Women Are From Venus." Page for page it describes the differences between men and women's thought process and reactions better than any other.
2007-10-27 01:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about understanding men better- worry about understanding your man. He may not be sensitive compared to you, but you have a need here, and it odes't sound all that unreasonable.
2007-10-27 01:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got married too. Unfortunately I havent gotten to experience what married life is all about yet (thanxs to the Marines we currently live on opposite coasts). But I do know that guys have a tendence to make us feel like that. But he is not perfect and therefore needs to admit to his faults. If you know that whatever he is complaining about is really uncalled for just ingorne it and go and get yourself a pedicure.
2007-10-27 01:26:47 · answer #7 · answered by That Special Someone 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are being overly sensitive and worried that you might lose this man. Just relax and believe that he loves you as much as you love him and enjoy each day. Marriage can be a wonderful thing for two people in love.
Good Luck
2007-10-27 01:23:45 · answer #8 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I truly recommend Dr. Laura's "The Care and Feeding of Husbands". I had a friend give it to me just before I got married and I feel it has benefited my relationship with my husband.
Yes she is a hypocrite but the advice she gives is actually good advice.
2007-10-27 01:19:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
point out the things that are causing the problem, and lie like h***
2007-10-27 01:24:44 · answer #10 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋