She has eloped with her boy friend with her 2 kids. He is only 23 years and not settled in life. He is financially not strong. She is facing lot of problems. Her kids have stopped studying. She is in a rented house and her life is going now where. I cannot help her coz i am also not financialy fit. I have advised to return back to her husband. Can anyone suggest what she needs do in these type of stitutation
2007-10-26 17:57:21 · 10 answers · asked by Sweety 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The reason for leaving her husband is he is harassing her and they live in a village, but she is brought up in a city. She is educated, but he is not. Her parents have runied her life. Now they are also backing off.. They dont show a helping hand. I am helping her emotionally. Pls suggest
2007-10-26 22:17:25 · update #1
running away after having kids is not the solution to the problem.2)no matter how hellish her life....her priority should be the kids.3)she should try to give the kids a stable upbringing otherwise when they grow up, they will have difficulty in relationships...am sure u don't want that to happen.4)knowing how un-forgiving our society can be, last thing you do is run away, that too with a bloke!..you will loose all sympathy from those who could help you in future.5)spiritual strength is what she should be concentrating on at times of such difficulty.6)bhajo...ram naam, Allah, Christ, Buddha, or any saint....ur only salvation in the near future...all will be ok in long run..because difficulties in life are never permanent..just like happiness is never permanent!...gud luck..may ur god go with u.
2007-10-27 04:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by prtpjs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She needs to make herself happy. If she left the security of her husband and a stable home, there must be a reason. Maybe she used this 23 year old as an escape from something not so nice.
It really doesn't matter how poor she is, all that matters is that she is happy and free to be who she wants to be. Her kids, no matter how great they do in school, cannot have a great life if their mother is unhappy.
She loves her kids, she feeds them and has a place for them to sleep at night, then she is doing her job.
Shame on anyone who judges someone without walking a mile in their shoes!
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Her kids are better off with no father than one that harasses their mother. If she were to stay with him, she would teach her kids that it's ok to be mistreated and unhappy. Her leaving is what takes courage, and her kids will learn from that how important they are as people and to never let anyone use them as their doormat. The kids will be stronger because of it. Good for her. It sounds like she's not going to have much emotional support from family, so she will need that from you. Don't worry about her financially, as long as her kids have food, she will be fine, just continue to be her friend.
2007-10-26 19:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend has got herself into a vicious cycle of self destruction and it is going to take a lot of determination to get out of it. Running away from adversity is not showing courage. If her husband is harrasing her she should have exercised other options including legal methods. She has commited and immoral and unethical act of eloping after marriage and that too with toddlers in tow.
1. She can go back to her husband and beg for forgiveness.
2. She can get herself a job, continue her studies, file for divorce and find someone else more mature next time.
3. She can continue her life with her boyfriend and do nothing.
Let her decide what she wants to do with her Life by considering the options before her.
2007-10-26 23:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by Pramod R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Point to note
She is not mature in thinking
She need to plan her life before she does anything ..
My advised to her ,think first before she act.
Emotion alway get in the way to do the right thing
2007-10-26 18:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by steven l 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the friend is you....get a job and take care of the kids
2007-10-26 18:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by jelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her pursue a respectable career so that she can lead to good life for children.
2007-10-26 19:46:41 · answer #6 · answered by neela m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no wonder she isnt it.s called morals something she seem.s to have forgot when she got married and broke her vow in her marrage leaving with a man who is out for a free ride my opion?
2007-10-26 18:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what goes around comes around, get those kids back to a safe place
2007-10-26 18:04:17 · answer #8 · answered by Gordito 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
really fu--ed up
good luck to her and u
2007-10-26 18:21:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has to suffer for misdeeds.
2007-10-26 18:09:19 · answer #10 · answered by SRINIVASAN R 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋