Marriage & Divorce - 26 October 2007

i am a single father, i decided long ago to break knots with my wife who is a gambler, drug addict and gone pregnant with another man. Now, i take care of my 2 kids (2 boys, in fact) it is hard though, but still trying to be a good father and mom at the same time, sometimes i feel guilty not satisfactorically doing my responsibilities as both mom and dad at the same time. Was i commit sin against my kids when i decided to let go of it and at the same time knowing that never i could have both resposibilities? i am just being real with my self i cannot get with the kind of wife i had before.

2007-10-26 17:02:13 · 18 answers · asked by Charles Harn 2

2007-10-26 17:00:37 · 26 answers · asked by mike f 1

2007-10-26 16:53:06 · 14 answers · asked by Shanteria G 1

My boyfriend and I have opened up a business. We both invested our shares in it. I'm a bit younger than him and my parents have helped me out with an important amount of money to invest in the business. We are turning great numbers only our personal lives are suffering. No more time for each other, just work... We have an 8 year old daughter together. He is always to tired to do anything with her, so I'm the one who takes her around. Our relationship has suffered for a year whilst preparing the business as well. Sometimes he gets very uncontrolled and says things that hurt our feelings. If we don't agree he just turns his back and walks away. He doesn't want to listen to what I've to say and he leaves. I can't voice my opinion. The worst thing he said: I regret so much, that I have started this business with you. Myself, I have put so much in it & if my parents knew they would just "smack" me. With clients he is always nice. How can I end this relationship without hurting the business?

2007-10-26 16:52:11 · 8 answers · asked by samba 1

Everyone knows men fantasize about other women, I think women do it just as much, they say men think about sex every 3-7 seconds and women do at least once every 2 minutes, do women undress men with there eyes?, do women fantasize about men they see at the grocery store, gym, church, work with, etc?

2007-10-26 16:50:39 · 27 answers · asked by Gordito 2

if your mother commited a crime such as robbing banks,killing people,etc.would u turn her in or hide her out? just want to know how people truly feel about their mothers and to see how far will we go to protect the loving woman who gave us life.

2007-10-26 16:47:48 · 19 answers · asked by gina 2

2007-10-26 16:44:09 · 9 answers · asked by biggie44 2

i use to be one having thoughts of going back but i don't wanna go hell for it i just really need to make some cash.

2007-10-26 16:42:13 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi, today my husband beat me becouse he rang me i was at my mums he needed the car i was coming home he started ringing me again and i was driving so i answed the phone and said im coming i put the phone down i get home hes started saying why did you put the phone down i said i was driving he said he hear a phone ringing in the back i know he didnt so he started beating me he hit a chair over me i have put up with him for 5 years before i met him i liked going out metting people going aroung the world now i cant talk because he will say im a slag thats what i get for being with him for 5years i loved him i would do any thing for him if he would ask with love i would have give my life for him but not now i wouldnt treat my dog the way he treats me and im his wife a month ago we went thougth ivf and it didnt work what if it did he would still be beating me up.im going to leave him when he beats me then he wents sex the same day if i say no he start saying where have you been.

2007-10-26 16:41:57 · 19 answers · asked by rani 2

2007-10-26 16:37:10 · 13 answers · asked by LEE G 1

What Kind of man leaves his girlfriend (me) and his daughter with no money and takes his son with him (which I watch everyday while he works.) He left me because I caught him in a lie about drinking which was no big deal but he blew it all out of proportion. Told me that he wanted to bash my face in, I was a BI^ch, a S7ut, and my pu55y was sour. what kind of crap is that, i've never been talked to like that. We have been together for 2 years on november 20th. I have raised his son for the 2 years we have been together. Not having a job sucks because of this reason but we wouldn't be able to afford the kids medical or food if I worked. We get more with the governments help. Also I don't feel that my 1 yr old daughter needs to be in daycare so I am a stay at home mom for now. My question is this what is his problem, I hope he is not cheating on me, he says he isn't and he really doesn't have time because all his paystubs are accurate and he comes home when he gets off early.

2007-10-26 16:37:07 · 14 answers · asked by jaby 1

In a nut shell, he cheated, we went to counseling, tried to work it out, but I couldn't spend the rest of my life with someone I didn't trust.

2007-10-26 16:34:25 · 15 answers · asked by mommyof2 1

This girl is family friends from decades.We are friends,few years back fell in love.When we have to meet she makes plans or asks me to make plans but i talk about everything except confirm our meeting.Ive seen her,i love her but i dig my heels in talk other things when time to confirm our meeting.Shes no idea till day we meet if ill be there or not.Why do i act this way?I love her when i want to see her i go to place where shell be.We are both single,shes mid 20s,im mid 30s,live 2 different cities.We have to meet soon i love her.Whats going on with me,explain.

2007-10-26 16:31:57 · 2 answers · asked by preciouzunion 1

please help i feel so confused. My situation is i started talking to a friend of my ex-husband. My ex found out and he is saying to me a lot of bad things of this guy. I do need to let you know although he is my ex we stayed being good friends and honestly i believe everything he tells me so i dont think its because he is jealous of any kind, but the sad part is i just dont see or believe what he saying about his friend, how he treats me and the small things we have shared so far does not match with anything my ex is saying about him. I do have my doubt and feel confuse, i am really falling for this guy but i am afraid if its true to fall for this person knowing i was told before. I did tell him all the things my ex said about him and he denied every one of them. please give some good advice.

2007-10-26 16:22:16 · 14 answers · asked by karen c 2

This guy and i for years are friends in love.When we met he gave his number address then he moved years back he hasnt given his number address.Hes given number which he says is his friends number if i need to talk to him but i suspect its his number.Hes given all his number address around me but not me.Hes single in his 30s professional.All he ever talks asks is about me with my friends or making his friends do that when they are with my friends.He wont meet in person directly but i see him at parties where he comes to check me out.He wont admit if i confront him.Why is he singling me out,treats me special,treats others normal when obvious to all he loves me.

2007-10-26 16:05:52 · 12 answers · asked by aaffairtoremember 1

I was married 11 years. I met up with an old highschool boyfriend at my 10 year reunion and we started talking and found out we were both still thinking of each other. I stayed married for a year but then we started talking on the phone and I couldn't stay away. When my husband found out I had been talking to another man we ended up in a divorce. All through the process we remained friends. I even stayed in the house with him and my two children for two months. We were a very close family with a lot of traditions that I really miss now. My son always wants to be with his dad and my daughter is a mess going back and forth. We were great but it was mostly friends. My new guy and I both have two children but we have lead very different lives. Our relation is awesome but I hate missing out on my childrens lives. I finally feel like I have the love I have always wanted but is it enough. When do you know when to move on or to turn and run back?

2007-10-26 15:52:12 · 14 answers · asked by ekceb08 2

2007-10-26 15:45:55 · 15 answers · asked by janila 2

I was married 11 years. I met up with an old highschool boyfriend at my 10 year reunion and we started talking and found out we were both still thinking of each other. I stayed married for a year but then we started talking on the phone and I couldn't stay away. When my husband found out I had been talking to another man we ended up in a divorce. All through the process we remained friends. I even stayed in the house with him and my two children for two months. We were a very close family with a lot of traditions that I really miss now. My son always wants to be with his dad and my daughter is a mess going back and forth. We were great but it was mostly friends. My new guy and I both have two children but we have lead very different lives. Our relation is awesome but I hate missing out on my childrens lives. I finally feel like I have the love I have always wanted but is it enough. When do you know when to move on or to turn and run back?

2007-10-26 15:29:15 · 8 answers · asked by ekceb08 2

A few days ago I had a long talk with my husband about our relationship. I explained that I didn't think we should be married anymore. He had a difficult time with the news but accepted the fact that there wasn't anything he could do to change things. It's a long story. Anyway, because of our financial situation we both agreed that we should continue living together for now until we can afford to sell our home. Ever since our conversation, he's been doing a lot of nice things for me. He's been cooking, giving me massages, and trying to have sex with me. I've asked him several times not to cook for me.. it just doesn't seem right.. More importantly I'm not sure if I should give in to the sex because I don't want to send out any mixed signals. It's over and I hope he knows that. What should I do?

2007-10-26 14:59:05 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-26 14:47:39 · 12 answers · asked by robeen c from MAURITIUS 1

My husband and I had a huge argument tonight. It was over something stupid that I overreacted to. I said a lot of stupid stuff that I didn't really mean because I was mad. He said he wants a divorce...he says that everytime we have a big argument. He called me names, told me I'm stupid, that I'm ugly and fat and how he can't stand fat people and that he doesn't love me. This situation has repeated itself a few times throughout our two year marriage. Things always get better, he apologizes, I apologize, etc. I really love him. I've been working at keeping my impulsiveness under control and I'm trying to lose weight...both because he has said those things about me and because they are things in myself that need to be fixed. I really do love him and can't imagine life without him...that may sound kind of pathetic, given everything I've said here, but it's true. But I'm tired of apologizing and trying to make things right. Do I need to change or is this marriage meant to be over?

2007-10-26 14:37:52 · 17 answers · asked by Angelia 6

In the past year now sex between my wife and I has gone downhill.She will lay there and tell me she wants some loving,but refuses to return any affection.After watching on of the tv talkshows about men she has decided that men require no stimulation and she's not going to waste her time trying to please me,since that first time she's gained 100 lb's,which IS A MAJOR TURNOFF for me.our marrage of 15 years is getting closer to an end,and she refuses to go to counceling as it's my problem that I must get over.Any advice out there???

2007-10-26 14:27:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Some marriages, turned out to be very successful and lasting, while some other marriages turn out to be very unsuccessful and horrible, thus resulting sometimes in a divorce or separation. I do not understand WHY some couples live a good successful relationship while others are not that successful in their relationships. WHY IS IT LIKE THIS??? Is this part of life, that everything and everyone's luck is different from each other or something???? Sometimes, I feel so unfortunate and unlucky as a husband in general with a horrible wife. Till tis very day, I always dream of a much better woman in my life. I am 40 yrs old and been married for 15 long years. I am positively sure, that I married the wrong woman in my life, but now its too late. I am suffering the consequnces. I only stay because of my kiddos. I feel trap in a tight security prison forever, a unhappy husband with a horrible wife in general.

2007-10-26 14:27:00 · 19 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2

My husband and I was married last year and we still have not sent it out to people to said thank you card because we was moved, and just got a baby, also money...but we feel soooo bad for still not sent it out so now we finally going sent it out but i do not know how to said we are sorry for this really late card?... should i said " we know this is very late card but want to said thank you for the wedding gifts and very sorry for late card because due moved new house, had a baby boy, hope you forgiving us for this late card and thank you so much for the wonderful wedding gifts" i will sent it out with our wedding picture and our baby boy together with the thank you card.. how that sound? or if you can help me what to said how really sorry for we for sent it late card? with your help will be wonderful and thank you...

2007-10-26 14:26:36 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

1. When are you more prone to initiate sex with you husband?

a) After he's bought me flowers or taken me to dinner. He has to do something really special for me to initiate it.

b) Anytime and anywhere. He doesn't have to do anything special for me. It's my duty as a wife.

c) Never. Regardless of what he does I never intiate sex with him.

2. How does your husband treat you when it's time to get intimate?

a) Like a piece of meat. He gropes me and goes straight for the goods. You can forget foreplay.

b) He is very gentle with me and makes sure that I am warmed up and in the mood before anything takes place.

c) My husband never wants to have sex with me, so consider yourself lucky if he gropes you.

3. Does your husband literally get mad when you're not in the mood for sex?

a) Sometimes he gets irritated, but it's no big deal.

b) Yes. He gives me the silent treatment and treats me differently until I give in.

c) No, not at all. He understands.

2007-10-26 14:26:11 · 10 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

I have tried to forgive and forget,but I still get disgusted when we have sex,and am not aroused at all,this bothers him.

2007-10-26 14:26:07 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you still have to get a blood test before you get married? If so, why? What are you tested for?

2007-10-26 14:19:07 · 29 answers · asked by Brittany L 3

I have been with my hubby for 8 years. I go salsa dancing alone all the time. Just recently he told me that he gets upset & jealous when I go. (he used to dance too but a few years ago gave it up). An old dance partner made me an offer of a life time -he wants to partner up again & compete & thinks we could win the championships & earn lots of $$ doing shows. I was extactic as it is something I only ever dreamed of (I retired from pro. dancing 5 years ago to have kids). this is my chance to make a come back but my husband said he is very uncomfortable with it & doesn't want me to do it. I am absolutely crushed & depressed about it. I don't want to hurt my husband but how can I give up on a LIFE long dream? ANY advice would be so helpful please!

2007-10-26 14:16:50 · 12 answers · asked by cabritamarie 1

I'm an Indian girl (east Indian) and I have an elder sister who is lying to my parents. About six years ago she got into a relationship with some guy.After a couple of years he got married to another girl since it was a forced arranged marriage. His parents found out that their son and my sister were still seeing each other even though the guy was married. His parents said that they'd take legal action if my sister didn't stop seeing this guy. After a couple of months they started meeting each other again and continued to remain as boyfriend and girlfriend and have sex with each other. Apart from this, she also has another boyfriend who is a drug addict and an alcoholic and is using her money to buy drugs and alcohol. He claims to love her and even has sex with her. My parents don't know anything about this and think that she's an angel.I cannot tell any of this to my parents because my father is suffering from high blood pressure and my mom would not be able to digest this information

2007-10-26 13:57:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why is it not OK for me to marry my BF of 8 years and it is OK for someone who's not known someone for more then a week to get married and devorce in a month. How is that noe runining the sanctity of marriage?

2007-10-26 13:54:26 · 23 answers · asked by Michael K 4