What do you do when you still love your ex husband but you are IN love with your new boyfriend?

Question

I was married 11 years. I met up with an old highschool boyfriend at my 10 year reunion and we started talking and found out we were both still thinking of each other. I stayed married for a year but then we started talking on the phone and I couldn't stay away. When my husband found out I had been talking to another man we ended up in a divorce. All through the process we remained friends. I even stayed in the house with him and my two children for two months. We were a very close family with a lot of traditions that I really miss now. My son always wants to be with his dad and my daughter is a mess going back and forth. We were great but it was mostly friends. My new guy and I both have two children but we have lead very different lives. Our relation is awesome but I hate missing out on my childrens lives. I finally feel like I have the love I have always wanted but is it enough. When do you know when to move on or to turn and run back?

Answer 1

It's a difficult situation when there are children involved but the answer is very simple actually, you have to decide what will make you happy. The choice you make may or may not set well with your kids, if it doesn't then you will have to be more supportive to them but speaking as one whos parents were divorced I can say that most kids bounce back and do just fine as long as they know that both parents love them and they will go on to lead healthy productive lives which is why I say your own happiness should be a top priority.

Answer 2

You'll always love your ex husband. Because no matter what happened, there's always that reason you got married. As far as your children are concerned.....you just have to be there any way that you can. You must have thought of how hard it would be, before doing this. 11 years is a long time. Your children will experience a tremendous shock....most likely. Your job must be to minimize the effect of your decision.

Answer 3

Wait a minute hold up .

You went to a high school reunion and reignited flames from your past and had an affair so of course your husband busted you and you ended up in divorce court ?

Your relationship with your boy friend is ok BUT you dont have your children living with you they are with your ex husband?

Your mixed up YOU NEVER CHOOSE A MAN OVER YOUR KIDS , they are your blood they came from your body my god how stupid , selfish , disrespectful can you be , your children are going to end up despising you for so much.

STAY AWAY FROM YOUR EX HUSBAND , you had your chance you blew it you dont know what love is .

Answer 4

you turned your back on your husband , you started a new life . you got more children to think about now , you should stay where you are work at this relationship it doesn,t sound the best but it was your original decision to choose it , your older son has worked out where he wants to be you owe it to your eldest daughter not to screw with her mind ,and stay where you are and help her through the mess you yourself created for her ,sounds like your ex is grounded and is at a good place , why wreck his life again with your indecision's. what are you going to do with this next set of kids (remember
them ) are you going to ruin their life now because ITS ALL ABOUT YOU..........WAKE UP

Answer 5

Never look back. . . Keep moving forward.

Don't mistake a decent friendship for something else.. you divorced for a reason... let go.

Move on.

Answer 6

Keep moving forward

Answer 7

you can't turn back. your marriage with your ex is over. only thing to do now is to keep your head up and move forward.

Answer 8

honestly, what is done is doe. if you truley deeply love your boyfriend stay with him. but if you love your ex more, try to rekindle. but first make sure your husband still loves you as well