What Kind of man leaves his girlfriend (me) and his daughter with no money and takes his son with him (which I watch everyday while he works.) He left me because I caught him in a lie about drinking which was no big deal but he blew it all out of proportion. Told me that he wanted to bash my face in, I was a BI^ch, a S7ut, and my pu55y was sour. what kind of crap is that, i've never been talked to like that. We have been together for 2 years on november 20th. I have raised his son for the 2 years we have been together. Not having a job sucks because of this reason but we wouldn't be able to afford the kids medical or food if I worked. We get more with the governments help. Also I don't feel that my 1 yr old daughter needs to be in daycare so I am a stay at home mom for now. My question is this what is his problem, I hope he is not cheating on me, he says he isn't and he really doesn't have time because all his paystubs are accurate and he comes home when he gets off early.
2007-10-26 16:37:07 · 14 answers · asked by jaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok we have 2 kids together (one is my stepson) but we are not married but I look at him as my own. He says I need to relax but I don't feel I can do that with two children that need the attention right now. And he does nothing but drink, smoke weed, and want to hang out with his buddies and all I want is him to hang out with me, but he says I am too uptight. I am just trying to be a good mommy to my kids. I stay home, do all the laundry, cook everynight, do the dishes, take care of both kids by myself, He just works 8 hrs a day and comes home eats and goes to sleep. Like I am not tired. I chose to have these kids in my life it is not their fault so I give them the attention they need and that makes me boring? whatever. He is selfish and I see it more and more everyday.
2007-10-26 16:47:17 · update #1
lol that made me laugh, my cooch is not sour he just said that to see if it would hurt my feelings. which it did and once I started crying he said see how does that feel.
2007-10-26 16:50:31 · update #2
Anyone who drinks and lies about it has a serious problem. Yes, it probably was no big deal to you but to him it was a disaster because he is lying to himself about his problem.
He does not like you knowing his problem and left you because of that. He may have even told himself that it is all your fault and everything would be all right if you had not said anything about his drinking.
It is serious that he took his son and not his daughter. That tells me that he is thinking that no one but him could bring up his son in the appropriate manner. He wants to influence the boy and not the daughter and if he is drinking he should not have either of them.
You don't want your children around him if he is drinking. If you talk with him encourage him to go to counseling or encourage him to leave the children with you. Get the help you both need.
Good Luck
2007-10-26 16:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by mn lady 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He talks to you that way because you let him and he knows he can get away with it. I'm sorry but you have to know your man is cheating on you,I know you don't want to believe that just like i didn't with my husband but never the less he found the time just like your man.
By him talking to you that way says a lot about the way he feels toward you,he doesn't respect you nor is he in love with you if he was he wouldn't of said those horrid things to you. All you are to him is a nag and as soon as he finds a better place to live that's what he is going to do.
Why are you with someone like that, if your waiting for him to treat you better or show you respect and love the kind that you deserve you have a very long wait because he either doesn't know how or doesn't feel that way toward you any longer either way it's time for you to open your eyes and see him for what he really is,it's time for you to stand on your own two feet get a job so you can take care of yourself and your little girl the right way. He sure in the hell isn't going to do it for much longer.
It's obvious he doesn't respect you the way he should and he is bringing you down to his level don't let him do that to you show him you are better than he is walk away with your head held high and say i deserve better then you and i am better then you.
2007-10-26 17:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He called you a B**** , S*** , your pu**y is sour and that he wants to punch you in the face?
Girl you have bigger problems then him frikken cheating the guy is abusive verbally , emotionally and give him time the physical will hit into it as well , do you and your daughter a favour and dump this pr*ck and I'd be watching how he treats that son of his as well any decent parent wouldnt allow this behaviour around their kids.
My 1st husband was abusive and my kids have reacted badly due to my stupidity in staying 12 years in the marriage dont do this to your daughter .Close shop and get out .
2007-10-26 17:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You cant stop a man from drinking unless he wants to stop.If you took to him 2 years ago and he was drinking then...um...whos fault would that be? Now on the other hand....he sounds like a real jackass and you should realize he is a mistake.Drinking or not...he should never say such things and you should never tolerate it.I wish you and your children all the best!T/C
2007-10-26 16:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by rookiejon 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the better question is, what kind of self respecting person allows themselves to be treated this way?
He obviously has some major issues, but if you actually have a problem with this kind of person walking out of your life, you have major issues as well.
2007-10-26 16:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever tiny thing you did (about the drinking), was the straw that broke the camels back. There are deeper issues. It's unfair to judge having heard only one side of the story.
2007-10-26 16:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Dont waste your time on this lousy dirtball!! You and your daughter deserve much better than this. Why care if he drinks, cheats, etc... You don't need him and you can do much better. Yes, life's going to be rough, but you can do it. Why put up with someone that treats you like s***?
2007-10-26 16:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Tiesto 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have to run from him. He seems to have the potential to be abusive. The verbal abuse is already starting. Oh, and if your cooch is really sour, wash that thing.
2007-10-26 16:46:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Where does he go with his son?
Why couldnt he be going to see a woman then? Men do not have to talk to their woman like that.. I wish you good luck my dear but it looks like this marrige is heading south... Grant M
2007-10-26 16:42:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
All your answers can be found at al-anon meetings. Go to one, find a sponsor, follow her suggestions, and work the steps.
Good luck. I will pray for you.
2007-10-26 16:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋