2007-10-26 14:47:39 · 12 answers · asked by robeen c from MAURITIUS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i guess that there's really some details missing.i am the father.we seperated for reasons which today seem nonsense but two years back were enough to crush the whole world!!!i have met a nice woman in january of this year and though she is fully aware of my past, she is agreeable to the fact that though i have a past, i also have a future.i am not looking for a new mum for my kids.their mum is and remains thier mum just as i am their father.it's just that i can not figure out how to get the best of htis situation
2007-10-27 01:54:41 · update #1
Maybe you & your spouse can go to counseling? If not, children know that things aren't right between mom & dad. If you simply can't work things out, please reassure them it's not their fault.Tell them sometimes adults can't get along just like they sometimes can't get along with friends their own age. If you tell them on their mentality level they might understand. Say mommy & daddy are happy apart but not together but we are still friends. Don't fight in front of them, bash each other to them or make them feel that they caused it. It will scar them forever. Show them you are still a family even though you don't live together. They always need that bond with both of you.
2007-10-26 14:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would be very sure before you tell them anything. If you are sure, I would slowly introduce the person to your children. Have him over for lunch or for a short visit so you can see how your children react to him AND him to them.
Your main responsibility is to raise and keep your children safe. Hopefully everyone will like each other and get along.
Best of luck to you.
2007-10-26 14:52:39 · answer #2 · answered by Barbia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play it down, keep it all real cool. Don't keep any over nighters until you have the ring on your finger. Set an example.
2007-10-26 14:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by SilentSupporter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them that u want to find a new mother for them. Tell them that she will take care of them more. And u will not worried anymore if u go for outstation. and tell them that u should get attention and love from wife. and tell them that she will take good care of u too. just tell all the good dream that will make them agree.
2007-10-26 14:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by ctnuuranis 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
we ,my children are going to have to start over. we will make it and we will survive. we have to pull together. mommy is going to make sure that you have the things you need, not what you want until we get to where we need to be.
good luck and god bless.
2007-10-26 14:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't they know already? Really need more detials to give you a better answer.
2007-10-26 14:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont tell them anything, gradually they will adapt to your new life,unless your making big changes.
if thats the case then you could start off by saying how much you love them,and that mommy has to/needs.....
2007-10-26 14:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by jake2244 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not going in new life yet. You're still married to their father.
2007-10-26 17:12:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie think about the question that you need advice on than think about it again than think about it again than write it down than read it back to hear if it make sense to you. apparently you didnt do that this time. its called effective writing, and reading. GodBless
2007-10-26 14:59:12 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they probably already know that they dont have a live in daddy
2007-10-26 14:50:15 · answer #10 · answered by QueenKoopa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋