Is being a single parent a sin to my kids?

Question

i am a single father, i decided long ago to break knots with my wife who is a gambler, drug addict and gone pregnant with another man. Now, i take care of my 2 kids (2 boys, in fact) it is hard though, but still trying to be a good father and mom at the same time, sometimes i feel guilty not satisfactorically doing my responsibilities as both mom and dad at the same time. Was i commit sin against my kids when i decided to let go of it and at the same time knowing that never i could have both resposibilities? i am just being real with my self i cannot get with the kind of wife i had before.

Answer 1

You did what u did because your wife had problems and was self destructing and u refused to let her take you and the children down with her. Yep its hard being a single parent , u just do the best you can, and as long as u do that, the kids will be fine....Eventually u will find a woman to love someone that will be good to you and your sons, and then u will have your complete family and be able to show ur sons a healthy relationship and how a marriage really should be.. but until then, u were just protecting them from alot of pain of having a mother with a gambling and drug problem.. Just keep ur chin up, do the best u can, and it will all turn out in the end..

Good luck and dont feel guilty, ur doing a good job, and u did the right thing, just keep doing what u believe is to be right..

Answer 2

It might have been a sin to allow a mother who is a gambler and a drug addict raise your children.

You love them and you have done what you think is best for them. Sometimes children don't get that kind of unconditional love from a mother and a father. Be proud of what you have done and of the family you have raised.

At the same time you must think of your own needs. Don't you deserve to find love again? Don't think that all women are like the mother of your children because the are not. Let yourself be open to the possibility of love in the future and continue to love and nurture your children. Someday you will find a person that will love you and your chldren the way you deserve.

Good Luck

Answer 3

You're just feeling what every single parent has felt at one time or another, a bit lost.

Sin is when you knowingly put someone in a position to harm themselves or do harm to them, you have taken a responsibility to raise your sons with values, teaching them personal responsibility and self respect. No sin committed.

Understand this, you can only be a good father. You can not be a mother. What they need is someone to love them, teach them what it means to be a man and values. These are not 'gender' specific characteristics, they are adult choices.

If you're feeling a bit like 'I don't know what I'm doing?' then you are doing just fine. All single parents feel this and we get over it.

Hang in there. Those boys will teach you more about yourself as the years go on as you will teach them about being men.

Answer 4

Absolutely not.

As a father who saw your children being exposed to drug addiction, gambling addiction, and infidelity, you were strong to let go and look after your children.

Will you do everything perfectly? No. Will your kids miss their mother, even with all the flaws? Yes. Will you sometimes wonder if you did the right thing? Sure.

But did you do the wrong thing, commit a sin against your children? No way.

Good luck, God bless, and rest your mind.

Answer 5

Oh sweetheart! You're not a sinner you're a saint!

Not everyone has the strength to do what you did. Many ppl stay in marriages that are abusive, unhappy or loveless "because of the kids". What they don't realise is the damage doing so does.

As long as you are a good parent to your children, they will be fine. And you will be fine. It won't be easy, but things will work out =) You'll see.

Answer 6

ur doing just fine. seriously...u r more of an example to ur boys than their mother is. ur the one they look up to. of course they see that ur trying ur best to raise ur kids the right way. and thats why they love u. if ur boys r old enuff to understand that u just had to do what u had to do, then they'll understand...if not then explain to them when they r getting older ..and of course they will ask about their mom..but dont talk bad about ur ex wife. dont make ur boys look down on their mother, because u never know , ur ex wife might ask ur boys one day for forgiveness. u dont want ur boys to hate their mom, but they do have the right to know whats going on and why mama is gone. i mean we all know that drugs & gambling is an addiction that is hard to get rid off. and about her having a baby with another man, should tell u that she is the one that sinned. we all sin. she may regret what she have done. and she might not. anyways, from my understanding ur doing a great job

Answer 7

Man, I'm all hats off to you! You seem to be doing great and continue it...You're committing no sin by deciding to be a single dad to your kids...It's better off like that because it will not do any good to your kids if they see their mother act like that and if they see you fight because of her vices. Your kids will surely understand you...Don't get tired of falling in love, man....Not all women are like your previous wife...But be legally free first before you enter into another relationship and if you do, explain to your kids everyhting. They deserve to know the truth... Good luck, man. Hope you'll find someone who will love for who you are and who will love your kids as if her own...(",)

Answer 8

having children and then putting yourself before your kids is a sin , you have done a wonderful thing for your kids , you have proved to them that they are speacil and that nothing is more important to you than your kids ... why would you want a wife like you had before , she choose her addiction over her children !....i am sure that a special man like yourself , will find the right wife , as a single mum i wonder somtimes if i am doing the right job playing dad , but i look at it this way its better me play the dad for my kids than just not have one ....
you are doing a great job keep it up they need you ...

Answer 9

how could you even consider that being both mother and father to your children was a sin? honey your doing more then 89% of the father's who live with their children so dont feel guilty if you mess up occassionally they love you and that's all that really matter's.

Answer 10

No sin. The most important thing in a boys life, is his Dad. You are protecting them from negative influences.