Hi, today my husband beat me becouse he rang me i was at my mums he needed the car i was coming home he started ringing me again and i was driving so i answed the phone and said im coming i put the phone down i get home hes started saying why did you put the phone down i said i was driving he said he hear a phone ringing in the back i know he didnt so he started beating me he hit a chair over me i have put up with him for 5 years before i met him i liked going out metting people going aroung the world now i cant talk because he will say im a slag thats what i get for being with him for 5years i loved him i would do any thing for him if he would ask with love i would have give my life for him but not now i wouldnt treat my dog the way he treats me and im his wife a month ago we went thougth ivf and it didnt work what if it did he would still be beating me up.im going to leave him when he beats me then he wents sex the same day if i say no he start saying where have you been.
2007-10-26 16:41:57 · 19 answers · asked by rani 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's abusive, controlling, insecure and jealous. Since he beat you, you should file charges against him with the police. If he's forced you to have sex with him, you should file rape charges against him as well because a man who forces sex on his wife is a rapist and belongs in prison. You are right to leave him and you're a strong person to do so. Hopefully, you have the financial and emotional support you need to go through this. If it's an emergancy and you have no where to go, look to a women's shelter in your area. Good luck and once you leave, don't ever look back.
2007-10-26 16:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by some female 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Rani, please get out of this situation. He is an abusive, control freak with issues. You are never going to be happy with him and he just might end up killing you one day. The next time call the police. When he start getting load, put up the phone and let the operator hear him going off.If you are so in love, it can't be with the person you are getting now. Beating+ having sex= a man with a mental problem. You will never measure up to him.
2007-10-26 23:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a shelter - I will list a way to find one below - and get out. If you have any marks on you now from him, go to the police, fill out a police report and ask for a restraining order if you want to keep your home, or that matter if you don't. show all of your bruises to the police and get that restraining order. The site I gave you may be able to help you with a divorce attorney and they will be able to most likely give you shelter as well. Good Luck to you!!
2007-10-27 00:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This man is horribly abusive and dangerous. His abuse will only get worse and eventually he could maim or kill you. And why would you want to get pregnant when that will give him someone new to be abusive to? And the baby can't protect itself like you can.
Be thankful that the ivf did not work this time and get out of that house immediately. Go home to your mother and thank your lucky stars you got out alive. Do not believe him when he comes and tells you he loves you and that it won't happen again. Stand firm and find someone who will love you and treat you with respect.
Good Luck
2007-10-26 23:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by mn lady 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Two words - GET OUT!!!!!
You deserve better than being beaten up by your jealous, controlling, obsessive husband who doesn't deserve you.
Also go to the police and don't be scared as they will help you, trust me i've been there. I filed 3 charges against my ex as he headbutted me full force in my face causing me to have a fractured nose. In time I forgave him but never trusted him again.
Please get out of this relationship if thats what you can call it
good luck
xx
2007-10-27 06:59:02 · answer #5 · answered by fitsy1156 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This creature is physically and mentally torturing you.. Why are you putting up with it.. How dare he treat you like this.. Please walk away.. He is the weak one..a real man would never treat a woman this way..By staying with him your pretty much giving him the green light to beat you over nd over again.. Once a relationship gets to that point, he has probally took all your confidence, but please believe me when i say that you are better than this. I would rather be single my whole life than to live side by side with such a pathetic excuse for a man..
2007-10-27 17:05:10 · answer #6 · answered by Amy x 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have posted about this before. For god's sake wake up and leave this man. Stop posting about his abuse if you aren't going to take some action. It isn't easy, but you need to take ownership of this and ACT. Leave him, but make sure you have somewhere safe to go. If not, find out where your nearest women's refuge is and be courageous. No man should treat any woman like this, let alone his wife.
2007-10-27 15:49:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please get out of this horrible, abusive situation. This man has enormous problems and you must love yourself enough to get away from him.
The cycle of abuse cannot change without intervention - that means you leave and stay away from him.
Please, report him to the police as well. If a random stranger did this to you, you would, wouldn't you? The fact that he is your husband doesn't give him the right to get away with it.
There are many support groups out there that can help you, but your first step (after filing a police report) is to leave and make sure he can't find you.
Good luck x
2007-10-27 03:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds awful. I would recommend you get away from him and leave him. No one should ever hit anyone and if someone really loved someone they would never want to hurt them. Go stay with your family or a womens shelter etc. This bloke doesn't seem to respect you. Having children with a violent husband is not a good enviroment to bring children up in either.
2007-10-26 23:58:53 · answer #9 · answered by xoɟ ʍous 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't stay with him, I went through the same thing and it only gets worse, I don't mean to sound harsh but I thank God you didn't have a child with him, believe me the jealousy would only get worse. Please get out as quickly as possible, and get back to the way you were. You'll meet the right one some day and he'll treat you the way you should be treated. You deserve so much more. Take care God bless.
2007-10-27 18:44:43 · answer #10 · answered by Bezza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋