I'm an Indian girl (east Indian) and I have an elder sister who is lying to my parents. About six years ago she got into a relationship with some guy.After a couple of years he got married to another girl since it was a forced arranged marriage. His parents found out that their son and my sister were still seeing each other even though the guy was married. His parents said that they'd take legal action if my sister didn't stop seeing this guy. After a couple of months they started meeting each other again and continued to remain as boyfriend and girlfriend and have sex with each other. Apart from this, she also has another boyfriend who is a drug addict and an alcoholic and is using her money to buy drugs and alcohol. He claims to love her and even has sex with her. My parents don't know anything about this and think that she's an angel.I cannot tell any of this to my parents because my father is suffering from high blood pressure and my mom would not be able to digest this information
2007-10-26 13:57:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My question is how do I deal with this situation?
My parents deserve to know the truth.
2007-10-26 13:57:45 · update #1
Basically youre between a rock and a hard spot, you have one of two choices here; either ignore thi as it isnt your problem or tell your parents the truth,with any evidence you have of this, and see what happens with your dads health and all. There is no easy answer here figuring all that is involved and remember what will happen to you and your sister once you tell too. The secret is probably gnawing at you tremendously so youve got to tell someone but who isnt an easy choice. This is one of these adult type decisions that arent ever easy bu you have a tough choice to make. Sometimes the best thing to do is actually do nothing at all. Good luck
2007-10-26 14:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know about East Indian culture, but some things are universal.
First, it is not up to you to discuss this with your parents. You should talk to your sister and discourage her from hanging out with both men and get her life together. Otherwise, if she's an adult, then she's responsible for her actions.
Secondly, do your parents "deserve to know the truth?" or do you have some other motive for telling them? Who does telling your parents benefit? Not your sister, not your parents. I can't help but wonder if you want to tell your parents to put yourself in a good light. Your parents may not be as naive about the situation as you think.
Only your sister can change her ways. All you can do is encourage her to get help, but the rest is up to her.
2007-10-26 14:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can work on is the relationship that you have with your sister. You should give your opinion only if she asks you for it. Be there for her and listen but if it has come to a point when its the same old story and its affecting you in a negative way, then draw the line about the subject. You can't solve her problems any more than she can yours. No one knows when a person will reach out for help and take responsibility for their situation and become willing to do something about it. I had to let go of my brothers mistakes, they weren't mine to have or fix. God knows I barely can handle my own. Let go and let God.
2007-10-26 17:56:24 · answer #3 · answered by HDizaye 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know that if you spill the beans your sister will be mad at you. But I think for her own sake you have to tell your mom. If she's having sex with different guys she's at risk of getting STD esp. from her other boyfriend that do drugs. Have you talk to your sister about all of this? Also she could be at risk of getting pregnant.
2007-10-26 14:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by EmmyLee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel like this is none of your business and you have no right to meddle in something that is not your business. Focus on your life because if your sister makes her bed hard, she has to lay in it not you so get yourself some business.
2007-10-26 14:23:32 · answer #5 · answered by rashida_16 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is it all possible for you to speak with your religious leader confidentially
and ask him to speak to your parents on your behalf without mentioning your imput you have told him so you wont be blamed or get into trouble?
if that is at all possible i would follow that route i i was in that situation
2007-10-26 14:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by bob 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it! Your sister is an adult. She can make her own decisions.
2007-10-26 14:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should have sex with your sister's boyfriend too.
2007-10-26 14:04:24 · answer #8 · answered by CmP 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Your sister is a HO!!!
2007-10-26 14:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋