In a nut shell, he cheated, we went to counseling, tried to work it out, but I couldn't spend the rest of my life with someone I didn't trust.
2007-10-26 16:34:25 · 15 answers · asked by mommyof2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that depends upon many things. Do you still feel love for him?
Are you able to accept that he cheated and therefor the marriage is over. If he were able to convince you to forgive him, that it was a one time thing, would you give him another chance?
Once you get past that stage and are ready to move on, it takes as long to get over the divorce as you let it. Some women instantly get into another relationship and make the same mistake a second time, so take time to figure out what went wrong there, whether you didn't pay enough attention to him, whether you worked to much, or whether he was going to cheat on you no matter what you did or didn't do.
Try to find things to keep yourself occupied with old friends or make new ones. If there is a sport or hobby you wanted to try when you were married, now is the time to do that.
You might even go to handwritingwizard.com to learn what a person's handwriting says about that person proven to be over 80%accurate - as a means of passing time now and having some way of judging the sincerity of the next guy who wants into your life.
there is no average time to get over a divorce but I hope you are able to get past yours and find happiness as soon as you can without finding another loser!! Good luck to you!!
2007-10-26 16:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Till she finds another man who was probably divorced for cheating on his wife.
When you think about it, isn't that the way it works? It's just legalized wife swapping.
Second marriages end in divorce at an even higher rate..I guess because a bunch of cheating people now know how to get out of marriages quicker. Wonder why anyone chooses to get married in the first place?
It's not a good institution for men, from ANY standpoint, and the benefits for women definitely don't outweigh the downsides.
2007-10-26 16:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on how strong the feelings are at the end. Like Coleen said, her feelings were done before she filed. Some people, still love their other but can't go on feeling the way they do. It's hard to get over things like cheating because it's hard to just stop loving someone after loving them for so long. It'll take a while and depends on the person. Just stay strong and look towards new things happening in your life. Don't dwell on the "what could have been", look towards "what will happen"
2007-10-26 16:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It will be a while and lot of work in the process.
The feeling of being betrayed and stabbed in your back when you so innocently trusted someone to spend the rest of your life with him is very hurtful.
Find a support group of friends and family and try and not ask yourseld questions on "why me" ?
Look forward and look at bright things that lies ahead for you.
Pull yourself together and you will be OK soon.
Good luck sis !
2007-10-26 16:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by Romi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry.
I hope it works out for you, the sooner the better.
I believe I may be about to experience the same thing only, the roles are reversed.
I'm just not sure . . .
Good luck to you.
2007-10-26 16:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by mark623112 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know it's been 5 months and he left me for someone else who he is living with now and i am still in pain.
I guess it all depends on how you feel about marriage and also how you felt about HIM.
2007-10-26 17:05:05 · answer #6 · answered by Rowena S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I feel your pain, the same thing happen to me, I could not live with the heart ache any longer, I invited Jesus to come into my heart, He loves us so much that He died on the cross for our sins, only He can forgive us, and give us a brand new heart, you can trust Him, He can heal your heart, He will never leave you.........Jesus loves you
2007-10-26 16:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by Bert 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It took me 2 years
2007-10-26 16:55:46 · answer #8 · answered by Kama V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will need to learn how to love and trust again. My advise is to find a support group for divorced people and attend meetings. It really will help.
Try local Churches for such groups.
Good luck. I will pray for you.
2007-10-26 16:38:25 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, my wife has been married twice before and was cheated on all during her first marriage. She cannot trust anymore. It is becoming a self fulfilling prophecy, if you know what I mean.
2007-10-26 16:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋